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Divorce or a breakup with a live-in partner can be one of the most vulnerable times in life — including when it comes to your credit score and online identity. Divorce can indirectly impact your credit depending on your financial circumstances.

6 steps to repair your credit after divorce

Here are some ways to rebuild credit or protect your finances during and after divorce:

  1. Know your credit score and numbers
  2. Understand how debt is divided in divorce
  3. Open new accounts in your name
  4. Get rid of shared accounts
  5. Contact your lenders
  6. Stay diligent about your finances
  7. Pay bills on time
  8. Set up automatic payments 
  9. Create a budget
  10. Create a financial plan for both the short and long term 
  11. FAQs about credit and divorce 

See if you qualify for credit repair:

1. Know your credit score and numbers

If you don’t already know it, get clear about your credit score and report. Pull your credit history right away.

Understand which accounts are in your name, which are in your partner’s, and how much is owed. You may discover accounts you did not know about.

You may also get a wake-up call about how involved you actually were (or were not) in the family finances.

2. Understand how debt is divided in divorce

Talk to a lawyer or otherwise research how property, assets and debts are divided in a breakup or divorce in your state. You may be legally protected from credit card, medical debt, student loans and other debt your partner took on — or maybe you are legally responsible. An attorney can help you find out.

Jay Mota, a certified financial planner (CFP) and certified divorce financial analyst (CDFA) based in New York City, says most states are equitable distribution states, which means property/debt is fairly but not equally distributed. There are 9 states, however, that are community property states, where all property/debt is divided equally:

  • Arizona
  • California
  • Idaho
  • Louisiana
  • Nevada
  • New Mexico
  • Texas
  • Washington
  • Wisconsin

“In most cases, if the debt is joint marital debt or if the debt is under one spouse’s name but accrued during the marriage and used for marital purposes, then the debt can be considered marital,” Mota says.

Loans obtained before or after the marriage are typically considered the borrower’s responsibility.

“It is important to note that no matter what the resolution is with your divorce, creditors do not care,” Mota says. “If you are not responsible for the debt by way of divorce settlement, you are still responsible for the debt to the creditor.”

In other words, if your name is attached to the debt and your ex does not pay it, you could be held financially liable.

If you live in Texas—one of the nine community property states—and need specific guidance about division of assets, debts, custody, or other family law matters during your divorce, it may be helpful to speak to a family law expert in Friendswood who can provide personalized advice relevant to your situation.

Free legal aid help

Mota advises his clients to answer the 4-W’s and H to figure out if they'll be liable for debt in divorce:

  1. Who – took out the line of credit?
  2. What – is the type of credit?
  3. When – was the credit started?
  4. Why – was the credit obtained?
  5. How – has the debt been paid during the marriage?

He says knowing this information will allow you to chart out what will be and will not be your responsibility during and post-divorce.

3. Open new accounts in your name

If you don’t already have a checking account and credit card that are in your name, and your name only, go to your local bank branch and do that today.

Deposit paychecks into these accounts, and start charging on the new card — as well as paying it monthly before the due date (set up auto payments to make this easy).

This builds credit fast if you have none, or can quickly improve your score if it is low.

You could also consider a full-service financial solution like NinjaCard.com, which combines a checking account, savings account, and access to a line of credit all in one.

4. Get rid of shared accounts

Close joint accounts. Also, remove your ex from any of your accounts for which he or she is an authorized user, and ask your name be removed from their accounts if you are an authorized user there.

If both your names are on a checking or savings account, then both of you can take out all the money.

Likewise, if you share a credit card, line of credit (like a home equity loan) or personal loan, your partner can max out the debt without your approval, and you could be legally responsible for it.

Also, if your partner promises to make timely payments, but does not, that could affect your credit score as well.

A secured credit card is a good way to get a credit card if you have a low credit score, or no credit history. A secured credit card requires you put down a cash deposit, then you can charge against that sum.

5. Contact your lenders

For accounts on which both you and your partners’ name appear, officially notify lenders, banks and credit cards of your divorce.

Send a certified letter with a copy of the divorce decree, ask that they provide a current account statement and tell them that you do not intend to be held liable for any debt accumulated after the date of the letter.

Request the account be put on inactive status so no new additional charges may be added, and that once the balance is paid in full, the account is to be closed completely.

After all this is done, it’s time to see if you could get a quick financial aid from services that specialize in short-term solutions. Lenders frequently approve an urgent cash loan without documents if the borrower meets basic eligibility criteria and demonstrates the ability to repay on time. This option can provide immediate relief for those facing pressing financial needs. Still, it’s important to carefully review terms and conditions to avoid falling into unnecessary debt.

6. Stay diligent about your finances

One of the most common-sense — and also tedious ways — to protect your credit — is to stay on top of all finances like a hawk.

How to be a financially successful single mom, including how I did it!

Pay bills on time

Regardless of what your soon-to-be ex-promises, or what a separation or divorce decree requires, take responsibility for paying bills on time each month. Your credit score will be affected if they are not paying on time, and that will cost you.

Get all statements sent directly to you each month. Open them all. 

Set up automatic payments 

You’re managing a lot. Don’t forget to pay your bills. Set up automatic payments so you don’t have to remember to pay on time.

Create a budget

Set up a budget that you can stick to, easily. Keep track of spending habits and what you earn or could earn, and focus on saving. A free budget app can help streamline your budgeting process and give you insights into where your money is going

Create a financial plan for both the short and long term 

While you may need to repay debt and build a savings cushion now, set your sights on big goals, too. This can include starting a business, going back to school, buying a house or condo, and investing for retirement.

Mastering the basics of budgeting is the first step.

FAQs about credit and divorce 

Have more questions about improving your credit after divorce? Get answers to other frequently asked questions:

How does divorce affect credit?

Divorce does not directly affect your credit. However, the cost of attorneys, affording two homes instead of one, and other expenses related to the divorce or separation process often set back people financially — which can lead to debt and credit problems. 

Your marital status is not listed on your credit report. However, nearly 100% of the time, divorce does trigger dramatic changes in each spouse's financial pictures, which can affect your credit.

Further, because couples' finances are so intertwined, one spouse's poor credit can impact the other's if precautionary steps are not taken. For example, if you shared joint credit accounts or your ex’s name is still on an active account, your score could be affected.

Why is it so important to make your credit score a priority if you’re going to divorce?

Divorce is usually very stressful, and even if you are glad to be splitting up, there are a lot of details they have to be taken care of. This means that it’s easy for bills to slip through the cracks. One late payment can cause an otherwise excellent credit score to drop by 50, 75 points or more, it is important to try to make sure that bills are paid on time.

In addition, after divorce you will often need good credit to rent or buy a new place to live or get utility services without a deposit. You may decide to hunt for a better paying job or start a small business, both of which may involve credit checks. And let's face it: if your credit does take a nosedive, it's not going to be fun having the reminder of that time in your life coming back to haunt you several years later when you’re filling out applications for credit.

Credit scores are one of the most critical pieces of recovering financially from a divorce. Credit scores are also one of the most overlooked pieces post-divorce, as I've found by communicating with thousands of my dear blog readers.

Does your spouse’s debt become yours after divorce?

If you live in a community property state, where assets and debts are divided equally, your spouse’s debt accumulated during the marriage is likely to become half yours. In other states, how much of your partner’s debt you take on, if any, will be determined by the court. That is, unless you agree on how to divide things on your own or work with a mediator. 

How many years does it take to rebuild credit?

According to credit bureau Experian1, most negative marks can stay on your credit report for seven to 10 years. Mota says there are multiple factors that determine how long it will take to rebuild a low credit score. 

Experian provides these examples for how long different negative marks can affect your score: 

  • Late and missed payments: 7 years
  • Collection accounts: 7 years
  • Chapter 13 bankruptcy: 7 years
  • Chapter 7 bankruptcy: 10 years
  • Credit inquiries: 2 years

How do I rebuild my credit after divorce?

It is possible to rebuild bad credit after divorce. The rules for credit repair are the same, except that after divorce, make sure that you keep an eye on your credit score and report to ensure that your ex does not steal your identity and accrue debt in your name. Remember, here are some other ways to rebuild your credit:

  • Maintain your own accounts and open your own bank account if you don’t already have one
  • Focus on living within your means
  • Build your income
  • Remove your ex from any joint credit cards or other accounts

SOURCES

  1. “How Long Does It Take to Rebuild Credit?” August 27, 2020. Experian. https://www.experian.com/blogs/ask-experian/how-long-does-it-take-to-rebuild-credit/
Does getting divorced ruin your credit?

The act of divorce does not hurt your credit. However, the cost of attorneys, affording two homes instead of one, and other expenses related to the divorce or separation process often set back people financially.

What happens to credit after divorce?

Technically, divorce does not trigger anything on your credit score, history or report. However, nearly 100% of the time, divorce does trigger dramatic changes in each spouse's financial pictures, which can affect your credit.

We've been hearing economists' warnings of an impending recession for a few years now — yet the job market, stock market and real estate markets remain strong. What's the deal?

I just Googled on April 4, 2025, “recession?” into Google News, and these headlines came up top:

Trump’s tariffs could push America — and the world — into recession [CNN]

One of the Fed's top recession alarms sends 2008-style signal [Reuters]

Fear that Trump tariffs will spark recession wipes out more than $2 trillion in value from US stocks [AP]

In short: It's coming. In any case, many people are still very worried about an economic downturn, which will be inevitable, at some point (if history is a predictor).

This post will address two major issues:

  • How do you prepare for a recession, and
  • How to survive a recession

The goal is to help you prepare for a higher chance of unemployment, investment losses and general financial instability, help you if you are living paycheck-to-paycheck, and have trouble paying your bills.

Rules for weathering a recession are good to follow no matter the economy, and come down to these points:

Spend less, save, and earn more money.

Keep reading for specifics:

First: What is a recession?

How to prepare for a recession

  1. Create a financial plan now
  2. Live frugally always
  3. Have a savings cushion and build up your emergency fund
  4. Sell stuff you don't need
  5. Get a side gig to ensure multiple streams of income
  6. Prioritize and pay down debt
  7. Avoid or delay major purchases
  8. Invest in yourself by learning recession-proof skills
  9. Identify support systems/network

How to survive a recession if you still have a job

  1. Have a financial plan — don’t just wing it!
  2. Start or build an emergency fund
  3. Invest in training, education, networking and building your career 
  4. Create a budget and otherwise double-down on frugality
  5. Manage your debt 
  6. Delay major purchases like a car or appliance 
  7. Sell unwanted and unused items to make extra money
  8. Consider starting a side gig for extra income
  9. Create a network — personal and professional

How to survey a recession if you lost your job

Economic recession FAQs

Bottom line: You can survive a recession and thrive afterward if you take action now

What is a recession?

The definition of a recession is a downturn in the economy. On a broader scale, this means that businesses lose money and industry produces less product for two quarters — or six months — in a row.

What does a recession mean for everyday people? Recessions are typically marked by:

  • High unemployment rate
  • Wages that do not go up
  • Lower housing prices
  • Downturn in stock market equities and other investments

There have been 10 official U.S. recessions since the S&P 500 was established in 1957.

The worst S&P 500 decline was in 2010 during the Great Recession, when the index plunged 55% below its previous peak in March 2009. However, the average S&P 500 decline during post-World War II recessions is 29%.

What does a recession mean for the average person?

Here is what happens during a recession, how a recession affects you, and what you can do today to prepare for a recession, including securing your finances and career:

1. Prices increase

Consumer prices and inflation can increase for any number of reasons, and typically a combination of natural resources scarcity, supply chain issues, and typically interest rate increases.

The U.S. Federal Reserve (and its counterparts globally) intentionally increase prime interest rates when they believe that consumer spending is getting out of hand — a way to reign in overzealous purchases large and small.

2. Individuals spend less

Consumer spending accounts for two-thirds of the U.S. economy, leading policymakers and economists to keep a close eye on any signs that people are shopping less, or shopping differently.

Common sense dictates that when individuals are worried about their jobs and investments, they spend less on everything from food, to new homes and cars, and discretionary items like travel, gifts, home furnishings, electronics and clothing.

23 sites like Craigslist to buy or sell stuff

3. Businesses cut back spending in an effort to increase or maintain profits

During a recession, the lower consumer spending means that businesses of all sizes have to find profit by lowering costs — and they already are, according to a survey by business finance software firm Ramp, released in July.

Lower business spending can impact your own company or employer if you sell to businesses. It also means that payroll expenses are at risk …

4. Hiring stops or slows, raises and bonuses are tightened

When businesses suffer lower revenues and profits, worker pay is often the first to be scrutinized. Layoffs become more common and severe, and new hires earn less than before, and raises and bonuses tighten up.

5. Governments have less tax revenue to invest in their communities

Local, state and federal governments coffers depend on income, sales, business and real estate taxes. When individuals and businesses suffer, so, too, do their governments — and the community programs they support.

6. Stock market suffers

The stock market, government debt, and home prices all continue to suffer under these economic pressures. Consumer and investor confidence waivers and the stock market goes into a dive.

You may have noticed that your retirement or investment portfolio has been up and down dramatically over the last year. If you have a large stash of cash, you may consider waiting until a drop to buy equities, or at least spread your purchases over several months to reap the benefits of cost-averaging.

How long do recessions usually last?

Molly Ward, a certified financial planner with Equitable Advisors in Houston, says there isn’t really a “typical” recession because no two are identical. 

For example, there was a two-month recession during COVID, while the longest recession since 1960 — which occurred from 2007 to 2009 — lasted about 18 months.

How to prepare for a recession: All the things you can do right now

1. Create a financial plan now

Money impacts nearly every part of our lives. When we’re stressed about finances, our families, our relationships, and even our physical wellbeing suffers. If you get on top of your finances before a recession, you can maintain power over your life. This includes:

  • Budget
  • Savings + investing plan
  • Goals for earning more

Read: 9 ways single moms can make money and build wealth

2. Live frugally always

If you want to achieve and maintain financial stability, spending frugally is a big part of the equation. Start by tracking your usual expenses, then figure out where you can cut spending. Commit to meal planning instead of dining out, cancel recurring subscriptions you no longer use, and curb unnecessary shopping. 

These habits will serve you during any economy.

Read: Easy, affordable meal planning tips for single moms

3. Have a savings cushion and build up your emergency fund

A Federal Reserve report found that about 40 percent of Americans wouldn’t be able to cover an unexpected $400 expense. If you don't have one, start an emergency fund so you have extra money even if you get laid off. 

A stash of $1,000 is a good place to start, and aim for at least 3 months' regular income.

Start saving by earning 1% cash-back on all debit purchases with a Discover checking account.

4. Sell stuff you don't need

 

Why let your unused stuff sit in a closet when you could turn it into money? Learn more about selling through pawnbrokers and consignment shops, and sell your gold, diamonds, jewelry and silver online.

Gold hit a 1-year high on April 5, 2023, and experts expect it to rise through the year.

CashforGoldUSA.com is our No. 1 recommendation for selling gold, silver, diamonds, pearls, coins, flatware and other precious metals and gemstones.

If you want to downsize to save money, you can also sell your house for cash.

5. Get a side gig to ensure multiple streams of income

If you lose your job during a recession (or any time), it pays — literally — to have a side gig or backup job for an additional stream of income.

Check out our lists of best at-home career-level jobs, best high-paying jobs that do not require a degree and 11 business ideas for moms.

6. Prioritize and pay down debt

If you have debt from credit cards, student loans, or other expenses, consider consolidating your balances onto a 0% balance transfer credit card.

Work to deal with your tax debt, too >>

7. Avoid or delay major purchases

During a recession, there’s a greater risk that you could lose your job. That’s why it’s not smart to make major purchases or accumulate new debt you might not be able to pay off.

Instead, repair appliances and your vehicle and attempt DIY home projects over financing new ones.

8. Invest in yourself by learning recession-proof skills

The very best way to build financial security is to make sure you have a job. Here is our list of best at-home, high-paying careers, and jobs that do not require college degrees — which includes recession-friendly skills like:

Bookkeeping

Proofreading

Medical biller and coder

Coder / programmer

Already have a job? Ask for a pay raise.

9. Identify support systems/network

Devise a plan for what you’ll do and where you’ll go if you lose your job or find yourself without a place to live. 

Check out these posts for government resources and help for single moms.

Shore up your friendships and other social networks that can help you find work, resources, and share ideas for weathering the storm — not to mention get together and have fun!

How to survive a recession if you still have a job: 9 steps to take now

While in a recession, many people want to know, “What should I do during a recession?”

If you still have a job, here’s what you should do right now:

1. Have a financial plan — don’t just wing it!

Savvy Ladies is a free financial helpline that can answer questions about financial planning and connect you to financial resources.

2. Start or build an emergency fund

Make sure you have enough money saved to support yourself and your family for several months if you lose your job.

“A best practice in financial planning is to save 3 to 6 months’ worth of expenses in an emergency money account that is safe and accessible at a bank,” Ward says. 

3. Invest in training, education, networking and building your career 

Read our guides:

42 recession-proof jobs

7 recession-proof businesses 

4. Create a budget and otherwise double-down on frugality

Use an app like YNAB (You Need a Budget) — which is free for 34 days. YNAB allows you to connect all of your accounts, track your spending, and create goals to tackle debt and build savings.

You should also consider ways you can live more frugally and cut back on expenses. Check out our money-saving tips.

“Consider your fixed and necessary expenses and your fun and discretionary expenses,” Ward says. “Make a list of these so that you are prepared to cut back on the discretionary items if this recession causes a job loss.”

5. Manage your debt 

Read our advice on how to get out of debt, and consider refinancing your credit cards or refinance your car note — which can mean delaying auto payment for 90 days.

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6. Delay major purchases like a car or appliance 

While job security is less stable, you don’t want to put yourself at risk of not being able to pay your mortgage or car bill. Any extra money you have should be put into a savings account. 

Think you need to replace your old car? Check out these resources for low-cost car repairs.

7. Sell unwanted and unused items to make extra money

There are lots of items around your house that could be worth money — jewelry, furniture, clothing, old appliances. Check out this post for more ideas of things to sell. 

8. Consider starting a side gig for extra income

There are lots of ways to make money on the side and even earn passive income. 

If you know your industry might be negatively impacted by a recession, Ward recommends sharpening your skills in a different field to give yourself additional options for employment.

“This could mean taking online, night or weekend education programs or pursuing extra certifications,” Ward says. Check out these quick job certifications

9. Create a network — personal and professional

Download an app to make friends, attend local conferences and business meetups, and try to expand your personal and professional circles. It never hurts to have more people in your corner..
If you’re a professional single mom looking for a group of like-minded women, consider joining our Millionaire Single Mom Facebook group.

Also, check out these advice from people on Reddit:

How to Survive Another Recession (Or economic downturn if that’s what we’re calling it)!
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How to survive a recession
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How to survive a recession if you lost your job

If you have lost your job and don't have a financial cushion, here is what you can do now:

  • Focus on the basics: Rent, utilities, food and frugal living. Apply immediately for unemployment and other public programs. A budget is critical. Sell things you don't need. Gold and jewelry, cars you can do without, clothes and appliances. You could also use consignment shops or pawn shops to get quick cash.
  • Maintain your credit score — a low score means higher interest rates and digging yourself deeper in debt. Take steps to improve your credit: How to build your credit fast
  • While you look for work, keep your skills current with online courses, a side gig.
  • Take advantage of all the resources available and apply for my Single Mom Grant.

Economic recession FAQs

What happens during a recession?

This post elaborates on what you can expect to see during a recession, including that prices increase, people and businesses spend less, which leads to higher unemployment while wages stay steady. Local and federal governments have less tax revenue, so they spend less on programs and projects — and the stock market tends to decline.  

What is the difference between recession and depression?

In general, during a recession there is less economic activity. Typically, the financial pinch follows the following flow when the stock market tanks and home prices dip.

A depression is a severe and prolonged downturn in economic activity, typically defined as lasting three or more years and/or a decline in real gross domestic product (GDP) of at least 10%.

An economic depression is characterized by:

  • High unemployment rate
  • Low inflation — or even deflation (when the price of items goes down)
  • Bear market for stock market
  • Credit defaults for individuals, companies and governments
  • Bankruptcies
  • Less available credit
  • The affluent tend to save more during a depression

While inflation does not directly cause a recession, steps taken to combat inflation can lead to a recession. 

Inflation is a measure of the rising cost of goods in the economy, and it is often fueled by high production costs and increased product demand. When inflation surges too quickly, the Federal Reserve might hike interest rates to slow buyer demand.

As spending decreases following a rate hike, companies respond by dropping prices and slowing production, which could lead to layoffs or salary reductions. This decline in economic activity over several months is known as a recession. 

Who does a recession impact the most?

Educate yourself about what a recession means for you — if you are affluent, have cash to invest in real estate, the stock market or faltering business, a recession can be a great opportunity to buy low, and hopefully later sell high.

For most people, a recession is a time of anxiety as they worry about losing their jobs — or face unemployment, which lasts longer than average during a recession. Prices on everyday items tend to go up, while real estate markets go down. 

Who benefits in a recession?

A recession is part of a natural, healthy cycle of an economy. Some human behavior shows improvement, including:

  • People tend to save more money during a recession.
  • People shop less during a recession — which is good for the environment.
  • Interest rates are cut, which is great if you need to borrow money, including for a mortgage.
  • Floundering businesses close, which means that stronger businesses are more likely to thrive.
  • There are many financial opportunities from lower prices overall — including the opportunity to buy stocks, real estate and businesses at discounted prices.

Negative effects of a recession

Of course, there are negative effects of a recession, the most common being: 

  • Higher unemployment rates
  • Lower wages and salaries
  • Decreased home and stock prices
  • Increased government spending

How to survive a recession FAQs

Is it good to have cash in a recession?

It is always great to have cash on hand, at least a three-month emergency fund. Low interest rates on savings and money-market accounts during recessions mean that big stores of cash may be unattractive compared with other tools.

Things to buy before a recession?

Stockpiling items in a recession is a good way to save money in the long run. In general, these are some things to buy before a recession:

  • Canned goods like fruits, veggies, beans, soups, broths, and meats
  • Foods that can be frozen like meat and breads
  • Dry goods like rice, noodles, pasta, rolled oats, and seeds (kept in a cool, dry place)
  • Baking supplies like honey, flour, sugar, vanilla
  • Nut butters
  • Spices 
  • Oils
  • Paper products
  • Water

Some financial advisors suggest stockpiling cash while the real estate and stock markets are in wild fluctuation. Then you can buy when markets are low. 

What should you not do in a recession?

Wondering what you should avoid during a recession? In general, here are some no-nos (but common mistakes) during a recession:

  • Liquidate all your investments
  • Withdraw from your 401k or other retirement accounts
  • Co-sign for a loan or otherwise take on more debt than you have to
  • Avoid taking too many career risks
  • Business owners should avoid capital investments now

Where is the best place to put money during a recession?

Ward says there is no one best place to put money during a recession because each investment has a tradeoff. She says to ask yourself these questions: 

  • Do you have adequate emergency reserves? 
  • Do you have adequate insurance coverage — such as long-term care, life insurance, property and casualty, and disability insurance?  
  • Do you have income from a job or are you retired? 
  • What’s on the horizon — a new baby, an expensive tuition bill? 

“All of this and more must be factored in before deciding on where to put money during a recession,” Ward says. 

She says stocks have typically peaked seven months before the recession and then rebound before the recession officially ends. 

“This presents an opportunity to someone who has a financial plan that includes stocks, but it goes against what most people ‘feel’ when investing during a recession,” Ward says.

Citizenship by investment can recession-proof your future

In the face of a potential recession, having international options can be a financial safeguard. The St. Kitts Citizenship by Investment program offers a second passport, visa-free travel, and attractive tax benefits. These advantages can provide stability if your home country faces economic or social challenges. It’s a practical way to diversify not just your finances, but your life assets.

Bottom line: You can survive a recession and thrive afterward if you take action now

Most people fare OK during and after a recession. While professional opportunities are fewer, there are still ways to earn a living, grow your career and investments during a recession. An economic downturn is always an opportunity to reassess your values and align your money with your goals.


What is a recession?

A recession is a downturn in the economy. On a broader scale, this means that businesses lose money and industry produces less product for two quarters or six months in a row.

What happens during a recession?

Prices increase, people and businesses spend less, which leads to higher unemployment while wages stay steady. Local and federal governments have less tax revenue, so they spend less on programs and projects — and the stock market tends to decline.  

Who does a recession impact the most?

For most people, a recession is a time of anxiety as they worry about losing their jobs — or face unemployment, which lasts longer than average during a recession. Prices on everyday items tend to go up, while real estate markets go down.

Is it good to have cash in a recession?

It is always great to have cash on hand, at least a three-month emergency fund.

What should you not do in a recession?

In general, here are some no-nos (but common mistakes) during a recession: liquidate all your investments; withdraw from your 401k or other retirement accounts; among others.

Itching to get out of the 9-5 workforce and spend more time with your kids? Or, perhaps you’re thinking of getting pregnant and want to know how to stay home full-time with your kids.

I share why you cannot risk quitting your career, but you can still maximize time with your family and other personal priorities.

What does that mean for you? If you’re looking for a new job or starting a business you can do from home, now is a prime time to find one — or to ask your current employer if you can do some or all of your work from home. 

In this post, I’ll show you: 

“I want to be a stay-at-home mom but we can’t afford it”

How you can afford to be a stay-at-home mom

  1. Budget — track spending (and cut expenses)
  2. Start a flexible career you can work at home
  3. Ask for a raise – and then bank it
  4. Find ways to save money

Ways to make money for stay-at-home moms

Bottom line: Being a stay-at-home mom will require you to work

“I want to be a stay-at-home mom but we can’t afford it”

The argument is over: You absolutely, positively cannot afford to be a full-time stay-at-home mom.

No need to delve into arguments about personal choice or what is good for children or families. That’s all been hashed out in the mommy wars. It’s not about those issues. This is about money.

You. Cannot. Afford. To. Be. A. Fulltime. Stay-at-home-mom. You just can’t.

What’s that you say? Your husband is a banker? And your family is rich? Your spouse adores you? Doesn’t matter. It makes no financial sense for any of those 5.1 million women in the United States who are stay-at-home moms.1 That is about one-in-five married-couple families who have decided to put their family’s futures in jeopardy.

Don’t just take it from me. I recently interviewed Joanne Cleaver, a career consultant and author of The Career Lattice.

“Stepping off the career track completely is career suicide,” Cleaver told me. “Don’t do it.”

Her reason? You will no doubt lose the momentum you’ve built, the network you accumulated, the credibility you’ve earned. But these longtime truths are accelerated in today’s tech-driven world – no matter what industry you’re in. 

“If you completely leave the workforce, when you return you’ll have to completely reinvent yourself with new skills, new credentials and a new portfolio,” Cleaver said. “You might as well start in a new career.”

These challenges translate into a tougher time getting a new gig when you want one. And once you do, you’ll earn less than if you had kept a foot in the workforce while caring for your kids. 

Researchers at the University of California Los Angeles and Oxford University found that when professional women leave the workforce for three or more years, they suffer a compensation hit of 41%.2 Other research finds that stay-at-home moms are more depressed, anxious and socially isolated.3

The good news, however, is that despite the cultural and social pressure to commit endless hours to our children, kids actually don't benefit from all those hours of helicopter parenting — and instead do best with working mothers.

However, if you plan ahead and keep a hand in the game, things might turn out differently. Of course, things don’t always happen as planned.

What happens if your husband leaves or asks for a divorce? You’ll have no income. In this post, I talk about what happens if you want to get divorced as a stay-at-home mom.

How can I afford to be a stay at home mom?

1. Budget — track spending (and cut expenses)

A stressed mom computing expenses and a child playing with her hair. Stay at home moms need money: How to afford being a stay at home mom is easy. Check here.

The first step, says Doug Carey, is to create a budget. Carey is a Chartered Financial Analyst and president and owner of WealthTrace, a consumer retirement and financial planning software company in Zionsville, In.

Carey offers the following tips:

  • Use a budgeting app to track your spending. It’ll help you gauge the impact of a salary loss. It will also give you concrete data on how much money you need versus how much you want.
  • Figure out how much you'll save by staying at home. Expenses like gas money, babysitting, and clothing are likely to decrease. However, there could be new expenses such as health insurance.
  • Cut back on luxury items and dining out.
  • Think about downsizing your home or moving to an area with a lower cost of living.
  • Think about starting a home garden to save money on groceries. Even if you live in an apartment, you can have a container garden on your balcony.

“In addition to having a budget, it could be a very good idea to hire a financial coaching or planning service to keep you on track,” Carey advises. “By seeing how your finances look in the future, it will help you get your arms around the situation better.”

In short, create a tight budget, crunch the numbers, and be realistic about what you can afford. If the numbers don’t support your decision to be a stay-at-home mom, make a plan to get there by exploring new opportunities to earn extra income.

After all, spending quality time with your children is worth the fight to make this happen.

You Need a Budget is a spreadsheet-based app that helps you pay off debt, create a budget and set and reach all your money goals.

2. Start a flexible career you can work at home

Ask yourself: How can you keep a foot – toe, knuckle, nail – in your industry while still giving your children the time you feel they deserve? Brainstorm, ask colleagues and mentors for advice, and get creative to make sure you remain relevant. You can’t afford not to. 

Start here:

20 of the best jobs for stay-at-home moms

29 jobs for single moms: Best high-paying jobs this year

Do not aim just to pay the bills and get by, but focus on a longer-term career, advancement and the education and skills you need to get there.

For moms aiming for leadership roles or a career pivot without stepping out of the workforce, an online MBA can be a high-ROI path. Programs like the Baylor MBA Program offer flexible, accelerated coursework you can complete from home, building skills in strategy, finance, and analytics while you keep working and parenting. An MBA can open doors to remote-friendly management, product, and operations roles—and significantly boost lifetime earnings—while preserving the schedule control you need right now

There are countless ways moms can earn a high income, from home, with legitimate, flexible careers — many of which earn $100,000 or more. 

Our Top 2, highly paid work at-home careers, without degrees are:

Proofreader. If you’re great with words, detail and grammar, you may also be interested in a proofreading career, which can pay $15-$30 hour from home, on your schedule.

Bookkeepers. Bookkeepers can earn a salary, or build a business earning $75+/ hour, which can be more than $100,000 per year. Entry-level bookkeeper jobs can pay $20/hour.

Bookkeeper Launch is the top-rated online video course to help you start and run a successful, 6-figure bookkeeping business.

3. Ask for a raise – and then bank it

The fastest, surest way to make more money is to ask for a raise and/or promotion. But make sure you have a plan for that extra money ahead of time. More money often leads to more spending if you’re not committed to a strict budget. 

One easy way to save is to open a savings account and set up an automatic withdrawal from your checking to your savings. Once you calculate your after-tax raise, send that amount directly to a savings account and don’t touch it. You can also invest it and build wealth

You might be surprised how fast it adds up. You can use the money for an emergency fund if you don’t already have one.

Here is expert advice (with videos!) about asking for that raise.

4. Find ways to save money

Living within your budget — even a reduced budget — will help you feel less stressed and more focused on making wise investments in your career and time:

Shop around for insurance rates

Compare rates among different companies for auto insurance, homeowner’s insurance, and other insurance products you buy.

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Transfer your debt to 0% credit card

Be sure to keep an eye on your credit score. If you carry a credit card balance, see if you qualify for a 0% balance transfer credit card, and save thousands of dollars in interest each year — or at leaset transfer to a lower-interest loan and pay off your debt.

Meal plan

One easy way to overspend is to avoid meal planning — and rely on take-out, restaurants and prepared meals at the grocery store. These are less healthy, and more expensive than cooking from scratch. Get some ideas for meal kits, meal planning and other ways to save on food for your family.

How to make money as a stay-at-home mom

No matter how much income you bring in every month, most moms feel they could use a little more cash. Or, a LOT more cash. Most of us could use more spending money, you have investing goals or college tuition to save for.

One of the best things about being alive today, is there are more ways to make money than ever these days. The internet is a treasure trove when it comes to making money.

Here are ways stay at home moms make money:

Sell things you don't need

Instead of going straight to MLM programs, sell items you already have (think old clothes, electronics, household items) online through craigslist.com, eBay.com, or Facebook Marketplace.

Online resale and consignment sites like Mercari and Poshmark and ebay make it easy to turn this concept into a business.

Check out 10 business ideas for moms.

Sell services

You can also earn money selling your talents and abilities in the form of a service. You could mow lawns, clean houses, help people with bookkeeping, or teach piano lessons, for example.

Freelance and online businesses

Selling your skills is one of the most sustainable ways to make money online, and can grow into a full-time career, or even a scalable business. This is how Wealthysinglemommy.com founder Emma Johnson started — by freelance writing, and then by starting a blog.

One of the best ways to start growing an online service-based business is with freelancing gigs.

The benefits of freelancing, opposed to having a j-o-b, is that rather than following someone else’s rules as an employee, you have control over your schedule and the work you do.

Popular freelance gigs and careers include freelance copywriting, grant writing, and virtual bookkeeping.

Most types of freelancing don’t require any formal education. You don’t need an English degree to be a successful freelance writer. And if you can answer emails, manage social media, or do other administrative tasks, the role of virtual assistant could be perfect for you.

There are also excellent online courses that can help you learn the basic skills to launch your new career, plus support for finding clients. Bookkeeper Business Launch is a popular first step for many successful freelance, work-at-home bookkeepers who can earn multiple six-figures.

Coding, or programming, is a high-demand, highly paid industry that is especially short of female workers. This work can be done remotely, online.

Don’t panic if you can’t write code. There are many online resources for how to get started, as well as online communities of other coders from whom you can learn.

Earn money quickly

If your goal is making money in a hurry, you need to find ways that don’t require long waiting periods or a bunch of hoops to jump through. Here are some of the best ways to earn money in a hurry:

If you need to earn more money than you’re making now, you may face an even bigger challenge than many working moms: How can you possibly increase your earnings when you have so little free time already?

Start a side hustle today to make more money

Finally, don’t forget the prospect of starting a side hustle — or a temporary job you can take on in addition to your full-time work. Side hustles look different for everyone, but they can include concepts like driving for Uber or Lyft, babysitting kids, painting houses, mowing lawns, and more. 

If painting houses is your go-to side gig, consider leveling it up into a real micro-business. With modern tools for painting job management, you can send on-the-spot estimates, schedule crews, route jobs, and invoice from your phone—while keeping customer info, photos, and signatures in one place. Features like online payments and QuickBooks syncing help cash flow and bookkeeping, so you spend less time chasing checks and more time with your kids.

Online side hustles include some of the ideas we’ve mentioned already — jobs like tutoring or finding online freelance bookkeeping work.

Some side hustles you can do from home also overlap; for example, you can work as a virtual assistant or freelance writer online and from your couch, just like you can write freelance articles anywhere with an internet connection. You can also make money testing products at home.

Maybe you need a little extra cash (or a lot – hello, savings account!), maybe you’re bored with your current career, or you want to safeguard yourself against a recession or an industry crash by having a fall-back plan. Or maybe you’re interested in pursuing your passion project, but you’re not quite ready to make the leap into full-time business ownership. Whatever your reason is, you NEED a side hustle.

The good news is there are many jobs you can do from home. Many of them can be done with just a laptop and an internet connection. If you need job training, you can find free and affordable courses online through sites like Udemy and Coursera.

Bottom line: Being a stay-at-home mom will require you to work

The fact that the majority of moms today will be an unpartnered mother, and divorce rates still stand at around 50%, only underscores why all women must prioritize their careers, earnings and future investments.

Many stay-at-home moms take on a part-time job or side gig to keep cash flowing and to keep a foot in the professional world. 

If you have no income (or not enough income), apply for recession-proof jobs to establish financial stability initially. Long-term, it’s important to keep your eyes open for jobs that align with your interests so you can build a fulfilling career on your own terms.  

If you already have a full-time job, be open to working outside of your home until you can establish financial stability, but give thought to lucrative side hustles that could turn into a full-time business — giving you the necessary cash flow to stay at home.


SOURCES

  1. “Stay-at-home moms and dads account for about one-in-five U.S. parents,” by Gretch Livingston, Pew Resarch Center, Sept. 24, 2018 https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2018/09/24/stay-at-home-moms-and-dads-account-for-about-one-in-five-u-s-parents
  2. Kahn, J.R., García-Manglano, J. and Bianchi, S.M. (2014), The Motherhood Penalty at Midlife: Long-Term Effects of Children on Women's Careers. Fam Relat, 76: 56-72. https://doi.org/10.1111/jomf.12086
  3. “Stay-at-Home Moms Report More Depression, Sadness, Anger,” by Elizabeth Mendes, Lydia Saad and Kyley McGeeney, Gallup May 18, 2012 https://news.gallup.com/poll/154685/stay-home-moms-report-depression-sadness-anger.aspx

How can I afford to be a stay at home mom?

One of the best things about being alive today, is there are more ways to make money than ever these days. The internet is a treasure trove when it comes to finding side hustles or new ways to sell your product or service, and there are money-making apps you can use as well.

How do I know if I can afford to be a stay at home mom?

The first step, says Doug Carey, a Chartered Financial Analyst, is to create a budget.

How do I prepare financially as a stay-at-home mom?

Start by taking a detailed look at your finances, and identify your short-term and long-term financial goals.

How do stay-at-home moms survive?

While some stay-at-home moms can survive off of their spouse’s earnings, it’s important for stay-at-home moms to retain some financial independence in the event of: death, divorce, or spousal job loss. That's why many stay-at-home moms take on a part-time job or side gig to keep cash flowing and to keep a foot in the professional world. 

It’s no secret that babies are expensive — diapers alone cost an average of $80 per month, according to the National Diaper Bank Network1. Add to that big-ticket items like a crib, stroller, high chair, baby clothes, car seat — not to mention pacifiers, swaddlers and more.

Fortunately, there are a lot of ways to get free baby stuff, including a free stroller, free crib, and free car seat.

Keep reading to learn about: 

Baby registries that come with freebies

Free breasts pumps

Local places to get free baby stuff

Organizations that give away free baby stuff

Women, Infants, and Children (WIC)

Other ways to save on baby items

You might also want to check out our new-parent guides:

Baby registries that come with freebies

These retailers offer free baby stuff when you create a baby registry:

Amazon baby registry box

Prime members who sign up for an Amazon baby registry will receive a free welcome box filled with full- and travel-sized products and samples for mom and baby.

What’s in the box? One Redditor shared the goods inside the February 2023 Amazon baby registry welcome box:

Amazon Baby Registry Welcome Box
byu/onward- inBabyBumps

However, the contents of the box change based on product availability.

The fine print:

To get the free welcome box, you must:

  • Be an active Amazon Prime member
  • Create a baby registry
  • Add 10 unique items to your registry, and have over $10 of purchases from your registry (by you or others).

If you receive SNAP, Medicaid, or other qualifying government assistance, you qualify for 50% off Amazon Prime.

Extra perks:

Amazon offers a 15% discount on any remaining items you have to purchase yourself from your baby registry, up to a combined value of $2,000 (a $300 savings). 

Babylist's registry box of freebies

Babylist allows you to create a baby registry and add items from different stores. If you’re shopping on a web browser, you can even install the Babylist web extension to add items from any online store to your list. 

Plus, you can request gently used baby clothes, home-cooked meals, and even cash for baby-related expenses or college savings.

When you sign up with Babylist, you’ll receive a Hello Baby Box, which includes product samples from popular brands (diapers, bibs, pacifiers, etc.). Boxes typically also contain coupons and promotional items.

The fine print:

To get your Hello Baby Box:

  • Create a Babylist registry
  • Add three items to your registry from the Babylist Shop
  • Add three items to your registry from other stores (like Amazon and Target)
  • Make a minimum purchase of $30 from the registry (you or someone else can make the purchase)

Once you’ve completed these tasks, a button will appear at the top of your profile that reads “Hello Baby Box.” While the box itself is free, you have to pay $8.95 plus tax to have it shipped to you.

Extra perks:

Babylist offers a one-time 15% discount in the Babylist shop on Babylist.com. Your registry must be at least 30 days old to get the discount, which is good from 60 days before and up to six months after your baby’s due date.

Target

When you create a Target baby registry, Target will send you a free welcome kit valued at more than $100. While the contents vary, you can expect to receive a mix of coupons and sample-size products.

Target also has options like:

  • Target Circle: If you sign up for this rewards program, you can get exclusive deals on baby items for one year and earn 1% Target cash when you make purchases in-store and online
  • RedCard: Target’s credit card that helps you earn 5% in Target cash when you shop 
  • Shipt: A Target partner program that offers same-day delivery on what you buy at a participating Target 

You can use these options and others to save money and get your items quickly.

The fine print:

To get your welcome kit, you must:

  • Create a Target baby registry at Target.com or in-store
  • Go to your local Target and ask for a kit at Guest Services

It’s a good idea to call first to make sure there are kits in stock.

Here’s what one Redditor got in January 2024:

Target Baby Registry Welcome Box – January 2024
byu/Watermelon_Flavor inBabyBumps

Extra perks:

Target offers a 15% discount on everything in your registry eight weeks before your baby’s due date, which you can redeem twice. You must be a Target Circle member, and your registry must be active for at least 14 days before you can receive the offer.

Also, Target allows for returns and exchanges from your registry for up to one year after purchase.

Free breasts pumps

Thanks to the Affordable Care Act, insurers now cover breast pumps and milk bags. There are a number of services to manage the ordering and billing to your insurer for free:

Aeroflow
BabyList
Breastpumps.com
BumpBoxes

Local places to get free baby stuff

Doctor’s office or hospital

Ask your gynecologist or your child’s pediatric doctor about free baby product samples or discounts on things you’ll regularly use for your baby. Sometimes, they have samples on hand and can share them when you come in for an appointment.

Another great place to check? Your local hospital — especially pediatric and maternity hospitals. If you give birth at a hospital, check to see what free baby items they can offer as you head home with your baby. 

Facebook groups

Facebook groups are another goldmine to find baby stuff freebies. You can connect with other moms to get inside tips on where to score free baby samples. 

Plus, you can find people giving away things they no longer need — like free strollers, free cribs, free car seats, gently used baby clothing, unused disposable diapers, toys, and other items.

Use the search feature on Facebook to look for parenting groups or baby freebie groups in your area. You can also join a Buy Nothing Facebook page to ask people in your area if they have free baby stuff they no longer need. 

Freebie Alerts app

The Freebie Alerts app, available on the App Store and Google Play, sends you a notification every time your neighbors are giving away free stuff. This can be a help when looking for free baby clothes, toys, and other accessories.

The app monitors:

  • Facebook Marketplace
  • Nextdoor
  • OfferUp
  • TrashNothing

You can choose to receive alerts from all or some of these sources of free stuff. 

If you want specific baby items, you can use the whitelist feature to notify you of offers with certain keywords. When you want an item, just tap on it in the app to communicate with the person giving it away. You can also post items you would like to give away.

Organizations that give away free baby stuff

Organizations that help mothers and families might also give away free baby items to expectant mothers. 

For example ShareBaby in Baltimore helps low-income families get free diapers and other essential baby care items. They deliver more than 200,000 diapers per month to 15,000+ children in families that need extra help. 

They also have a pantry filled with baby supplies and work with community partners to get them in the hands of those who need them most. 

Here are a few organizations to check out:

Baby2Baby

Baby2Baby is a Los Angeles-based charity that provides free diapers, free wipes, free clothing, free cribs, and other baby essentials at no cost to families in need. To date, the charity has given more than 300 million baby items to people in 260+ cities across the country. 

Items are typically distributed at hospitals, shelters, underserved schools, and foster care programs.  

Feeding America

While Feeding America primarily focuses on making sure U.S. families have access to nutritional food, local branches offer additional services to meet community needs.

Baby brands partner with Feeding America to provide baby supplies for people in need. For example, Abbott, the maker of Similac, donated enough baby formula to provide 1.5 million meals to seven Feeding America food banks in 20202.

Safe Kids Worldwide

Safe Kids Worldwide has chapters across the United States and in dozens of other countries around the world. While each chapter has its own programs, some distribute free car seats to low-income moms and families3

Safe Kids also provides events for free car seat checks. 

Women, Infants, and Children (WIC)

WIC is a federal program that provides nutritious food items to pregnant women and mothers with children up to age 1 and children up to 5 years old. 

Besides free baby formula and food, WIC-eligible families can get breastfeeding support and access to healthy foods like fresh fruit and vegetables and whole-grain bread. 

Check your eligibility for WIC.

We created detailed guides for state and charity resources for single moms in every state: 

AlabamaAlaska
ArizonaArkansas
CaliforniaColorado
ConnecticutDelaware
District of ColumbiaFlorida
GeorgiaHawaii
IdahoIllinois
IndianaIowa
KansasKentucky
LouisianaMaine
MarylandMassachusetts
MichiganMinnesota
MississippiMissouri
MontanaNebraska
NevadaNew Hampshire
New JerseyNew Mexico
New YorkNorth Carolina
North DakotaOhio
OklahomaOregon
PennsylvaniaPuerto Rico
Rhode IslandSouth Carolina
South DakotaTennessee
TexasUtah
VermontVirginia
WashingtonWest Virginia
WisconsinWyoming

Other ways to save on baby items

Getting free baby stuff certainly helps cut costs, but you’ll need a strategy to save money over the long term.

Here are 10 ways to save on baby items:

  1. Sign up for rewards programs
  2. Get a subscription box for frequently used items
  3. Shop at membership warehouses
  4. Use coupons and coupon codes
  5. Sign up for email alerts from local stores to catch items on sale
  6. Check with your employer about flexible child care savings accounts
  7. Opt for gently used baby clothes instead of new
  8. Check with your insurance provider to see if they cover baby items like breast pumps
  9. Create a baby registry and tell your friends and family about it
  10. Connect with other parents on sites like Freecycle to get free cribs, free beds, free strollers, and other items

Check out these other resources for low-income families:

Help for single moms: 16+ resources$500 monthly single mom grant
Free foodScholarships for single moms
Free clothesFree toys
Government assistance for single moms10+ charities that help single mothers
Free preschoolFree money for bills
Free Christmas giftsFree Christmas money
Free ipadFree furniture
EBT cashEBT on Amazon
EBT discounts and freebiesFree appliances
Free help with tax preparation

SOURCES

  1. National Diaper Bank. https://www.google.com/url?q=https://nationaldiaperbanknetwork.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/02/NDBN_DiaperNeed_Overview_February_2020.docx.pdf&sa=D&source=docs&ust=1689726378790430&usg=AOvVaw0c-gp1F0hdUaEfjriTNN5K
  2. “Nutrition Resources for New Parents: A Partnership with Feeding America,” May 20, 2020. Abbott. https://www.nutritionnews.abbott/news-research/global-nutrition/abbott-is-partnering-with-feeding-america-to-support-families-in-need/
  3. Safe Kids Worldwide. https://www.safekids.org/safe-kids-coalitions-united-states

Whether you need money to buy a home or cover an unexpected medical bill, there are financing options available for single moms, even if your credit is less than stellar. 

The catch is deciding whether that is a wise move. In other words, just because you can get a loan, doesn’t necessarily mean you should.

“To put it mildly, the world of loans and financial aid for single mothers can feel like a labyrinth,” says Top Mobile Banks CEO and investment analyst Tim Doman. “But with the right guidance and determination, it's a maze you can navigate.” 

It's critical to understand exactly what you are taking on — the interest rate, whether the APR is fixed or variable, and whether or not you are actually paying down the principal each month according to the repayment terms.

Bill Ryze, a certified chartered financial consultant warns to note the interest rate on any loan offer. Ryze says you should only get a loan if you are in a financial position to repay it. He says you’re more likely to secure a low interest rate if you have a good credit score — 670 or above. “It is not advisable to get a loan if you have an unstable income, don’t have a solid repayment plan for the loan, or if you already have outstanding loans that you cannot keep up with,” Ryze says.

Learn more about how to improve your credit score.

Here is the run-down on loans for those with low or moderate credit and income.

Home loans

Car loans

Personal loans

Emergency loans

Student loans

Alternatives to loans

Home loans for single moms

If you want to buy a home, there are home loans for single moms that can help you make that dream a reality. You may also be interested in grants for first-time home buyers, or help with home repairs.

Check the latest mortgage rates.

Some home loans for those with low or moderate incomes:

FHA loans

Federal Housing Administration (FHA) loans offer reduced closing costs and down payment requirements. These fixed-rate loans are available in 15- and 30-year terms.  

Details: 

  • Credit score of 500 to 579 – 10% minimum down payment
  • Credit score of 580 or more – 3.5% minimum down payment
  • Mortgage insurance required (for life of the loan if you put down less than 10%) 
  • Property must meet FHA eligibility requirements (maximum purchase price varies from $472,030 to $1,089,300 depending on where you live1

HomeReady Mortgage from Fannie Mae 

The HomeReady Mortgage is designed to help lenders serve credit-worthy borrowers who have a lower income. You must take the Fannie Mae HomeView online course or an approved alternative HUD-approved course to be eligible. 

Details: 

  • Income must be 80% of the area median income2
  • No geographic restrictions
  • Credit score of 620 or more – 3% minimum down payment
  • Funding from relatives, grants, and Fannie Mae Community Seconds is allowed

FDIC Loans via Operation HOPE Home Buyers Program 

Operation HOPE Home Buyers Program helps low-income home buyers through FDIC-approved loans, down payment assistance, and first-time buying assistance.

Details: 

  • Group training and one-on-one coaching for first-time home buyers
  • Provides HUD-certified coaches to guide you through the home loan process

Home Possible Loan from Freddie Mac

If you’re looking for low-income home loans for single mothers, a Freddie Mac Home Possible mortgage could be right for you.

Details: 

  • Your income cannot exceed 80% of the area median income
  • As little as 3% down
  • No geographic limits on loan amounts
  • Can apply with bad credit due to lack of credit history 
  • Mortgage insurance is required on one-unit properties, but once your loan balance is less than 80% of its value, it is no longer required

How hard is it for a single mom to buy a house?

Because you’re applying for a loan based off of a single income, it can be more difficult to buy a home as a single mom.

However, Doman says home-buyer assistance programs make it easier for single moms to buy a home.

“My sister, for example, got her first home with a USDA loan, which offered her more accessible terms,” he says.

State and local organizations offer a range of assistance options, including home buyer grants. Doman says there are also housing counselors available to help people navigate the process of buying a home.

Car loans

Car loans are available through banks, credit unions, online lenders, and directly through car dealerships. These loans use the vehicle you’re purchasing as collateral, which means if you don’t pay, the lender will repossess your car.

If you need a car loan but have very low — or no — credit, a repossession or bankruptcy, check out Auto Credit Express. A+ Better Business Bureau rating, 30-second pre-approval and cash within 24 hours.

How to get a car loan 

Ryze offers this advice to obtain a car loan:

  • Access your credit report: Your credit score will have a significant impact on how much interest you pay on your loan (and whether you’ll be approved for a loan at all). If your score is below 660, Ryze says you might want to hold off on getting a car loan and focus on repairing your credit score to secure the best loan rates.
  • Identify how much you need: Before applying for a car loan, determine the type of car you would like to buy, how much of a down payment you can afford, and what number of monthly payments work for you. While a longer loan term means smaller payments, you’ll pay more in interest over time.
  • Find lenders: Try finding car loan providers —  e.g., banks, credit unions, and other institutions — and apply for pre-approvals. Compare pre-approvals before accepting an offer.
  • Get your car: After accepting the loan offer, go to the dealership, negotiate your payment, and sign the paperwork once you settle on the price. Your lender will reach out to you with details about your car loan (the amount and mode of payment).

“I recommend automating your payments to stay on top of your debt and enjoy a discount on the interest rate (depending on the lender),” Ryze says. 

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Buy-here, pay-here dealerships

Buy-here, pay-here dealerships are special car dealerships for borrowers who either have bad credit or do not meet traditional lender requirements. These dealerships offer in-house financing, so you will not undergo the same level of scrutiny, though you may have to show proof of income and employment. 

Ryze says you typically only need to fill out the required paperwork and demonstrate you can afford the monthly payments toward the loan. Due to the higher lending risk, these dealers often charge higher interest rates.

While these types of loans can help people with low credit scores obtain a car loan, Ryze says they do not help build your credit score because most dealerships will not report your payments to a credit bureau. 

Reddit post about car loans for single moms.

However, if you do miss a payment, Ryze says some might report it, damaging your credit score even further. Before you buy a car, find out the dealership’s policy on reporting payments. 

If you need to work on building your credit before purchasing a car, Ryze says there are steps you can take:

  1. Watch your credit report and make sure to dispute any errors.
  2. Try to lower your credit card balances and avoid carrying a month-to-month balance.
  3. Avoid applying for new credit cards.
  4. Pay your bills on time so you don’t incur late fees or extra charges. 

If you really need help you can seek out sources for a free car, free car repair or free rides.

Personal loans for single mothers

You can get a personal loan to cover any type of expense from an online lender, bank, or credit union:

Lending Club

Lending Club offers a quick and easy process to apply online for a personal loan. Money is deposited directly into your bank account or directly to your creditors to pay off debt. 

Better Business Bureau rating: A (accredited since 2008)

Loan amounts: $1,000 to $40,000

Interest rates: 9.57% to 35.99% APR

Loan terms: 3 or 5 years

Origination fee: 3% to 6% of loan amount

Minimum credit score: 600

Requirements: 

  • Maximum debt-to-income ratio of 60% for individual application (40% for joint)
  • Minimum 37 months credit history and two accounts
  • No minimum income, but must show proof of income

Lending Club reviews: 

Trustpilot (4.7/5 stars): 

1-star Trustpilot review of Lending Club, a provider of single mom loans.
5-star Trustpilot review of Lending Club, a provider of single mom loans.

Reddit: 

Reddit review of Lending Club, a provider of single mom loans.
Reddit review of Lending Club, a provider of single mom loans.

BBB (4.57/5 stars): 

BBB review of Lending Club, a provider of single mom loans.
BBB review of Lending Club, a provider of single mom loans.

SoFi

SoFi offers a hardship loan for people experiencing unexpected financial challenges like unemployment, unexpected medical bills, or caregiver expenses. They also offer a 0.25% interest rate reduction on personal loans for people who set up autopay. SoFi has a mobile app for iOS and Android devices. 

Better Business Bureau rating: A+ (not accredited)

Loan amounts: $5,000 to $100,000

Interest rates: 8.99% to 25.81% APR

Loan terms: 2 to 7 years

Origination fee: 0% to 6%

Minimum credit score: 680

Requirements: 

If unemployed, it’s necessary to meet one of the two following eligibility criteria:

  • Have sufficient income from other sources (varies by the loan amount being sought)
  • Have an offer of employment to start within the next 90 days

SoFi reviews: 

Trustpilot (4.9/5 stars):

5-star Trustpilot review of SoFi, a provider of single mom loans.
5-star Trustpilot review of SoFi, a provider of single mom loans.
3-star Trustpilot review of SoFi, a provider of single mom loans.

Reddit: 

How does anyone borrow from SoFi?
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Reddit review of SoFi, a provider of single mom loans.

Universal Credit

Universal Credit allows you to answer a few quick questions to see your rate before taking out a personal loan (which won’t impact your credit score). If approved, you can get paid in as little as one day. Universal Credit also offers free credit score reports for borrowers.

BBB rating: A+ (accredited) 

Loan amounts: $1,000 to $50,000

Interest rates: 11.69% to 35.99%

Loan terms: 3 to 5 years

Origination fee: 5.25% to 9.99%

Minimum credit score: 560

Requirements: 

  • Maximum debt-to-income ratio of 75%, including your mortgage and the loan you’re applying for
  • No minimum income requirement
  • 2-year minimum credit history 

Universal Credit reviews: 

Trustpilot (4.8/5 stars):

5-star Trustpilot review of Upgrade, a provider of single mom loans.

BBB (4.81/5 stars)

4-star BBB review of Universal Credit, a provider of single mom loans.
5-star BBB review of Universal Credit, a provider of single mom loans.

Upgrade

Upgrade offers both secured (meaning your debt is backed by collateral like your house or car) and joint loans (with a cosigner). Acceptable income can come from alimony, retirement, child support, and Social Security funds. Upgrade has a mobile app for iOS and Android devices.

BBB rating: A+ (accredited) 

Loan amounts: $1,000 to $50,000

Interest rates: 8.49% to 35.99%

Loan terms: 2 to 7 years

Origination fee: 1.85% to 9.99%

Minimum credit score: 560

Requirements:

  • Maximum debt-to-income ratio is 75% or less, including the loan
  • 2-year minimum credit history 

Upgrade reviews: 

Trustpilot (4.5/5 stars):

5-star Trustpilot review of Upgrade, a provider of single mom loans.
1-star Trustpilot review of Upgrade, a provider of single mom loans.

Reddit: 

Reddit review of Upgrade, a provider of single mom loans.

BBB (4.52/5 stars): 

5-star BBB review of Upgrade, a provider of single mom loans.
1-star BBB review of Upgrade, a provider of single mom loans.

Upstart

Upstart offers loans to borrowers with a short credit history, including borrowers who have a combined income from employment, alimony, and child support. Cash payouts are available in as little as one business day. Upstart does not allow joint or co-signers and does not have a mobile app.

BBB rating: A+ (accredited) 

Loan amounts: $1,000 to $50,000

Interest rates: 4.6% to 35.99% APR

Loan terms: 3 or 5 years

Origination fee: 0% to 6%

Minimum credit score: 300

Requirements: 

  • At least $12,000 annual income
  • Must have a full-time job or be starting a full-time job within six months

Upstart reviews: 

Trustpilot (4.9/5 stars): 

5-star Trustpilot review of Upstart, a provider of single mom loans.
5-star Trustpilot review of Upstart, a provider of single mom loans.

Reddit: 

Reddit review of Upstart, a provider of single mom loans.
Reddit review of Upstart, a provider of single mom loans.

BBB (1.23/5 stars): 

1-star BBB review of Upstart, a provider of single mom loans.

What disqualifies you from getting a personal loan?

Ryze, who is board advisor for loan marketplace Fiona Financial, says there are factors that may disqualify you from getting a personal loan: 

  • Low credit score
  • High debt-to-income ratio
  • Insufficient income
  • Age or residency requirements of individual lender

“One common and often overlooked [issue] is providing inaccurate information or missing information when making your application,” Ryze says.

Emergency loans

Some loans can be paid out quickly to cover emergency expenses: 

What are emergency loans used for?

Emergency loans can be used to cover a variety of expenses — car repairs, past-due rent, child care expenses, medical bills, etc.

These are some of the different types of emergency loans:

Payday Loans

  • Short-term loan where you borrow money in advance of your next paycheck
  • Based on how much you earn
  • Not available in every state (16 states and Washington, D.C. don’t allow payday loans)

Learn about same-day pay jobs

Cash Advances

  • Cash advances from your credit card
  • Doesn’t require a credit check 
  • Interest rates can be high
  • How much you borrow is set by a percentage of your card’s limit or a maximum amount set by the credit card company

Title Loans 

  • Secured loan that uses your car title as collateral
  • Car can be repossessed if you fail to pay back the loan at the end of the term

Home Equity Loan/Line of Credit

  • Lump-sum funding and a set interest rate
  • Repayment of up to 30 years in some cases
  • Home equity line of credit means you can borrow for a number of years, with a repayment period of up to 20 years
  • Uses your house as collateral, which means if you can’t pay it back, the bank will foreclose on your house

What credit score do you need for an emergency loan?

Ryze says you usually need a credit score of at least 580 to be eligible for an emergency loan, though some companies do not have minimum score requirements. 

However, Ryze says that lower scores will result in a higher interest rate (in some cases, upwards of 35%). 

Top Mobile Banks CEO and investment analyst Tim Doman says that typically, a score of around 600 and above increases your chances of getting an easy personal loan

“Don't lose heart if you're below that,” says Doman, who notes that some lenders care more about a person’s income and ability to pay back the loan.

When it comes to personal loans, Doman recommends applying through a credit union or online lender. 

“They usually have more flexible terms and might be willing to overlook a blemish or two on your credit report,” Doman says.

He recommends shopping around to compare rates and terms before applying for a loan. 

“My sister, a single mother herself, has been through this journey, and I can tell you it's an uphill climb but not an impossible one,” Doman says. 

Student loans for single parents

Ryze says private student loans tend to have higher interest than federal student loans. Borrowers of private loans don’t enjoy the same protections as as borrowers with federal student loans, such as fixed interest rates, income-based repayments and low APRs, and may not be the best option for some. 

“I would only recommend private student loans for anyone who is not eligible for federal student loans or someone who has exhausted their federal student loans but still needs funds to cover their education expenses,” he says.

Before you apply for student loans, first find out if you qualify for any grants or scholarships, including scholarships for single moms and scholarships for women. You can explore options through the federal government, state governments, specific colleges, and private organizations. 

Federal student loans

To qualify for any federal student loans and grants, you have to fill out the Free Application for Federal Student Aid (FAFSA)3.

Your chosen college or university will use this application to determine eligibility for financial aid, which is based upon your expected family contribution, enrollment status (full or part time), and your school’s enrollment costs. 

Loan amounts: There are several types of federal student loans, and they all have different loan limits and eligibility4:

Loan typeWho is eligibleDetailsLoan amounts
Direct subsidizedUndergraduate students– Based on financial need
– Calculated based on cost of attendance minus expected family contribution and other forms of financial aid
– Lowest interest rate of the three
– 6-month grace period after you leave school
$3,500 to $5,500 per year (increases for each year you’re in school)
Direct Unsubsidized LoanUndergraduate and graduate students– Not based on financial need
– Calculated based on cost of attendance minus expected family contribution and other forms of financial aid
– 6-month grace period after you leave school
$5,500 to $20,500 per year (varies by year in school and dependency status)
Direct PLUS LoanGraduate and professional students– Not based on financial need- Calculated based on cost of attendance minus expected family contribution and other forms of financial aid
– Highest interest rate
– 6-month deferment after you leave school
Up to the total cost of enrollment

How to apply: Fill out the free FAFSA form on studentaid.gov. Applications for the following school year typically open on Oct. 1. For the 2024 school year, however, applications will open in December instead of October because of an overhaul in the application system5

How much can a single mom get for student loans?

If you apply for a private student loan, the lender will determine your maximum loan amount based on your need and creditworthiness.

Federal student loans have payout limits based on your year in school, dependency status, and how much financial aid you’ve received from other sources (grants, scholarships, work-study programs, etc.). 

Undergraduate students can borrow up to $5,500 in subsidized loans and $12,500 in unsubsidized loans, while graduate students can borrow up to the full cost of attendance, minus any other financial aid received.

If you already have student loans, and are struggling to afford them, refinancing your student loan might help lower your payment and shorten the loan term.

If you are wondering how student loan refinancing works, here are the basics to consider:

  • Whether the loan will be paid off sooner with refinancing
  • How much you could potentially save in interest
  • Your employment history and credit score — if they are not strong, you will not qualify for a competitive refinance loan
  • Learn how to assess the loan, including fees, forbearance options and customer service

Alternatives to loans

If you do not want to take out a loan, check to see if you qualify for one of many government assistance programs and charities for single moms.

Help for single moms: 16+ resources$500 monthly single mom grant
Best jobs moms can do from homeFree money for bills
10+ charities that help single mothersFree gift cards
Free foodFree clothes
Free daycareFree gas
Free formulaFree roadside assistance

Also, research single-mom programs in your state:


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SOURCES

  1. “FHA Mortgage Limits,” 2023. U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development. https://entp.hud.gov/idapp/html/hicostlook.cfm
  2. “Area Median Income Lookup Tool,” 2023. Fannie Mae. https://ami-lookup-tool.fanniemae.com/amilookuptool/
  3. “How do I apply for a federal student loan?” U.S. Department of Education. https://studentaid.gov/help-center/answers/article/how-to-apply-for-federal-student-loan
  4. “The U.S. Department of Education offers low-interest loans to eligible students to help cover the cost of college or career school,” U.S. Department of Education. https://studentaid.gov/understand-aid/types/loans/subsidized-unsubsidized
  5. “FAFSA launch officially delayed,” March 22, 2023. Inside Higher Ed. https://www.insidehighered.com/news/2023/03/23/new-fafsa-wont-launch-until-december
  6. “WIC Policy Memorandum #2023-4,” March 31, 2023. United States Department of Agriculture. chrome-extension://efaidnbmnnnibpcajpcglclefindmkaj/https://fns-prod.azureedge.us/sites/default/files/resource-files/wic-ieg-2023-24-memo.pdf
  7. “Find out if you can still get health coverage,” 2023. HealthCare.gov. https://www.healthcare.gov/screener/
  8. Single Parent Project. https://www.singleparentproject.org/

If you are trying to sell a moissanite — or you’re deciding between a moissanite or diamond purchase — there’s a lot of information (and misinformation) to sift through.

While historically, diamonds have been the preferred gemstone for engagement rings and other fine jewelry, today’s jewelry buyers have taken a more vested interest in ethically sourced gemstones1 like moissanite and lab-grown diamonds.

A recent survey by The Knot wedding site2 found that among the 10% of couples who chose a non-diamond stone, nearly 30% selected moissanite in 2023. That number went up to 40% for Gen Z couples.

Plus, the large cost savings of moissanite vs. diamond jewelry is nothing to scoff at, though the former is more difficult to resell.

In this post, I’ll explain the differences between moissanite and diamonds and offer advice about where and how to sell moissanites you no longer want: 

What is moissanite?

Moissanite vs diamond: Their characteristics

Moissanite vs diamond: Price

Moissanite vs diamond: Resale value

Where to sell moissanite: Finding the right moissanite buyers

Tips for selling a moissanite ring

Moissanite vs diamond FAQs

Bottom line: Understand the differences of moissanite vs diamond before you buy or sell

What is moissanite?

While moissanite was discovered as a naturally occurring mineral, moissanite sold today is a lab-created gemstone made of silicon carbide engineered to look like a diamond. 

Often called a diamond simulant, moissanite has a 9.25 rating on the Mohs Scale of Hardness, while diamonds (even those created in a lab) hold a 10 rating. Moissanite has a higher refractive index than a diamond — which makes it appear more sparkly — and is often distinguishable by its flashes of rainbow colors and faint green hue, especially in sunlight.

The history of moissanite

According to the American Gem Society, moissanite was discovered in Arizona in 1893 by Nobel Prize-winning scientist Henri Moissan, after whom it was named3. He found the mineral in the crater of a meteorite and spent his life trying to recreate it, but was never successful.

Nearly 100 years later, researchers in North Carolina developed and patented a process for creating pure silicon carbide in a lab, which they used to create semiconductors, LED lighting, drilling tools, and abrasives (compounds used to smooth other materials, like sandpaper).

In 1998, North-Carolina based jeweler Charles & Colvard were awarded the first patents to create and sell lab-grown silicon carbide gemstones as a diamond alternative.

This video from Charles & Colvard — which heavily promotes its moissanite products’ environmentally friendly aspect with its “Made, not mined” tagline — dives more into the history of moissanite: 

The science of moissanite

Moissanite is a mineral composed of silicon and carbon, formed through a combination of pressure and heat. 

Natural moissanite is extremely rare and has only been found in a few deposits worldwide, in specific types of meteorite and igneous rock formations. The largest discovered moissanite deposit was found in 2014 in Israel and measures just 4.1 mm4.

It takes several months to create a single lab-grown moissanite gemstone.

Moissanite vs diamond: Their characteristics

Though they may appear the same to the untrained eye, moissanites and diamonds are not the same stone. These are some key differences: 

MoissanitesDiamonds
Composition50% carbon, 50% silicon99.95% carbon (the 0.5% is made of trace elements that don’t impact the diamond’s composition but can change its color)
ColorMoissanites available on the market are all nearly colorless, with slight undertones of green, yellow, or gray. Diamonds are valued based on their colorlessness — the less yellow they appear, the higher their value (with the exception of colored diamonds)
Hardness9.25 on Mohs Scale of Hardness10 on Mohs Scale of Hardness
BrillianceMoissanites have a higher refractive index of 2.65 and are doubly refractive, which causes them to give off a signature rainbow “disco ball” lightDiamonds have a 2.42 refractive index and tend to have a more clear, white sparkle; they are singly refractive
ConductivityMoissanite is 25% more thermally conductive than diamonds and can conduct electricityDiamonds cannot conduct electricity

Is moissanite a true diamond?

No, moissanites are not diamonds, though the Gemological Institute of America (GIA)5 once called moissanites “much closer to diamond in overall appearance and heft than any previous diamond imitation.”

Is there a moissanite diamond?

No, moissanites and diamonds are compositionally different. Diamonds are made of 99.95% carbon, while moissanites are made of 50% carbon and 50% silicon.  

Will moissanite pass a diamond tester?

On some standard diamond testers, a moissanite will test as a diamond because diamonds and moissanites have nearly the same range of thermal conductivity. Professional grading labs and jewelers have tools to test gemstones based on Mohs Scale of Hardness (diamonds have a higher hardness rating).

Professionals may also test how well the stone conducts electricity. Moissanites are electric conductors, and diamonds are not. While there are moissanite testers available to purchase online, most have poor reviews and cost hundreds of dollars.

The simplest and most cost-effective way to determine if your stone is a diamond or moissanite is to examine it under a 10x loupe — a small magnifying glass used by jewelers — to look for double refraction, a key characteristic of moissanite. 

When you tilt the stone at an angle, a moissanite’s flat triangle features (known as facets) will appear doubled or fuzzy. Diamonds are singly refractive, so they won't display this quality. 

To the naked eye, you may be able to tell the difference between a diamond and a moissanite, as the latter's sparkle has more rainbow colors, as well as a faint green hue under certain lights. 

Here’s a video that shows a moissanite’s double refraction under magnification: 

How is moissanite graded?

The GIA does not grade moissanite — nor does it list moissanite as an official gemstone6 — though they will help you determine if your stone is a moissanite or diamond. However, independent laboratories and jewelers may grade moissanite based on the four Cs used in GIA’s diamond grading scale:

  • Carat – Moissanite is about 15% lighter than diamond, which means a 1-carat moissanite would be 15% larger in size than a 1-carat diamond. Most moissanites are measured and sold strictly by their dimensions in millimeters.
  • Color – Moissanites typically carry undertones of green, yellow, or gray. However, most moissanites available for purchase are near-colorless. Diamonds are graded based on GIA’s color scale5 from D (colorless) to Z (the most yellow). Some jewelry companies, like Brilliant Earth7, classify moissanite into two categories — Premium (comparable to a G or H on the diamond color scale) and Super Premium (comparable to diamonds in the D-F range).
  • Clarity – Most lab-created moissanite gemstones do not have visible inclusions (imperfections) that can be seen by the naked eye.
  • Cut – Moissanites are cut into the same shapes as diamonds and other gemstones, with some styles in higher demand than others (depending on current trends).

Moissanite vs diamond: Price

There is no direct correlation between the price of a diamond and the price of a moissanite gemstone, and market demand for each stone can impact pricing. 

On ethically sourced jeweler Brilliant Earth’s website, we compared the cost of a 6.5-mm round moissanite and a 1-carat round diamond in the same 18k white gold engagement ring setting. According to the International Gem Society8, a 1-carat round diamond is typically about 6.5 mm in size. 

This moissanite ring was priced at $1,375 as of July 2024. It has a Super Premium Colorless rating (comparable to a D-F color range diamond): 

Price of a 6.5-mm moissanite from Brilliant Earth as of July 2024.

This diamond ring was priced at $5,180 as of July 2024. It has a D color grade and VS2 clarity grade, which a representative from Brilliant Earth told me would be the most similar to the moissanite clarity: 

I also priced a lab-grown diamond of the same size and grading in the same setting, which cost $2,440.

Lab diamond vs. moissanite ring for sale on Brilliant Earth.

It’s important to note that this is not an exact comparison, since Brilliant Earth only officially grades moissanites on color.

Is moissanite as valuable as a diamond?

No, moissanites are not nearly as valuable as diamonds. Our cost comparison found the price of a moissanite ring from Brilliant Earth was about 15% the price of a similar-quality diamond ring from the same company. 

However, this is not a 100% exact comparison, nor is it an indicator of the cost for all moissanites vs. diamonds.

Why are moissanites so cheap?

Moissanites are so cheap because they’re created in a lab. While diamonds can also be created in a lab, lab-grown diamonds have a slightly higher price point because they still possess the same qualities as a natural diamond, including its 10 rating on the Mohs Hardness Scale (compared to moissanite’s 9.25 rating). 

Moissanite vs diamond: Resale value

Both moissanites and diamonds lose a significant portion of their value after initial sale.

What is the resale value of moissanite?

Dustin Lemick, CEO of BriteCo Jewelry Insurance, says moissanite does not have resale value in the same way that diamonds do.

However, that doesn't mean you can't sell moissanite jewelry on Facebook Marketplace, a site like Craigslist, or to a consignment shop that accepts moissanite jewelry.

Most independent jewelry stores claim you can sell moissanite for between 25% and 75% of its original retail value. 

What is the resale value of diamonds?

A diamond’s resale value depends on its size, cut, clarity and color, as well as the current market demand for diamonds.

Like moissanite, the value of a diamond depreciates drastically after it's been purchased. Most independent jewelers claim diamonds sell for between 25% to 50% of their original value.

These are some recent diamond resale trends, as of December 5 2024, according to Rapaport:

RAPNET Diamond Index as of December 5, 2024
RAPNET Diamond Index as of December 5, 2024

Rapaport expects these higher prices to continue to drop for the foreseeable future.

Where to sell moissanite: Finding the right moissanite buyers

In a recent Reddit thread, someone asked for advice to sell their wife’s moissanite ring from a previous marriage. They said they’d had difficulty selling on popular resale platforms like Facebook Marketplace and Offerup, since uneducated buyers mistook the moissanite ring as a “fake diamond.” 

Where to sell moissanite
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Reddit users directed the original poster to try selling in the r/MoissaniteBST subreddit, which requires proof of purchase for all moissanite rings and other jewelry posted for sale. 

Here’s more about where to sell moissanite: 

Who buys moissanite? 

While you may be able to sell moissanite to a pawn shop or local consignment store, some Reddit users warn you may only be paid for the price of any gold or silver contained in its setting. 

Have any of you pawned your moissanite ring?
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Redditors say they’ve successfully sold on online consignment sites like Mercari, Poshmark, and I Do Now I Don’t, as well as jewelry classified sites DiamondBistro and Loupe Troop.

You can also try posting on ebay or sites like Craigslist or joining a moissanite resale group on Facebook like preowned moissanite jewelry.

If you do not have success reselling your moissanite — which is very possible — the gold, platinum or silver setting should be worth its weight as scrap metal.

Who buys diamonds?

There are a number of online and local options for selling diamonds, including: 

  • Pawn shops
  • Jewelry stores 
  • Antique, auction, estate, and consignment sales
  • Online marketplaces
  • Online diamond buyers like Diamonds USA, which buys all sizes of diamonds, including small stones (plus gold, silver, and other gemstones)

Diamonds USA is our No. 1 recommendation for selling diamonds because: 

  • A+ BBB rating
  • Payouts within 24 hours
  • 10% bonus when you send in your shipment within a week
  • Family-owned company
  • Price match and free return guarantee
  • Choice of mailer: FedEx or USPS

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Tips for selling a moissanite ring

These are some tips for selling a moissanite ring, which are similar to the tips for selling any engagement ring

  1. Gather all the information you have about your ring, including what materials and other gemstones are in its setting and the size of the moissanite it contains. It helps to have your original proof of purchase so buyers know what you initially paid for your ring and where it came from. 
  2. Consider getting an appraisal of your ring, but only if it’s potentially worth a significant amount of money (jewelry appraisals can cost several hundred dollars). In most cases, paying for a moissanite appraisal will not be worth the money.
  3. Get offers from multiple buyers, including local and online jewelry buyers. If you’re selling online, clean your ring and take quality pictures in different lighting to draw in more buyers.

Can I sell my moissanite engagement ring?

Yes, you can sell a moissanite engagement ring in a number of places, though some places may only pay you for the precious metal value of your ring.

People who have successfully sold moissanite engagement rings recommend posting in the r/MoissaniteBST subreddit and selling on online consignment sites and online jewelry classified sites like DiamondBistro and Loupe Troop.

Moissanite vs diamond FAQs

Which is better moissanite or diamond?

In terms of durability and pricing, diamonds are widely considered to be the “better” stone. However, which one you choose to buy is largely a personal decision. 

Moissanites are ethically sourced, since they’re created in a lab and don’t need to be mined from the earth, and they’re a cost-effective alternative to natural and even lab-grown diamonds. Plus, they're more durable than cubic zirconia, which lose their luster in just two years.

“I also think the younger millennials and older zoomers are less concerned with upholding the tradition of a mined diamond ring or using the family jeweler that sold their parent’s rings,” says Ilah Cibis, a jeweler and designer based in Worcester, Mass., who specializes in lab-grown diamond pieces but also sells moissanite. 

She says with the increased cost of consumer goods, people are primarily looking for ways to maximize their dollar, followed by human rights and environmental concerns.

However, Daphna Simon, a New York-based jeweler and designer, says clients who are looking to invest in an heirloom-quality piece will rarely go for moissanite over diamonds. 

“While moissanite may look similar and is of course much more affordable, it simply doesn't carry the same association with love as diamonds always have,” Simon says.

Is diamond more durable than moissanite?

Yes, diamonds are rated 10 on Mohs Scale of Hardness, while moissanites have a 9.25 rating.

What are the pros of moissanite?

  • Less expensive (15% the cost of comparable diamonds, based on our cost comparison)
  • Ethically sourced (lab created vs. mined)
  • More brilliant than diamonds

What are the cons of moissanite?

  • Not as valuable or historically revered as diamonds
  • Some people are turned off by moissanite’s overly sparkly “fiery” appearance
  • Less durable than diamonds, though still suitable for everyday wear

Bottom line: Understand the differences of moissanite vs diamond before you buy or sell

Unfortunately, there are a lot of misconceptions about moissanite and its value as a diamond simulant. If you’re trying to sell moissanite, being educated about its unique characteristics can help you better market your stone to the right buyers and inform uneducated buyers who think moissanite is nothing more than a “fake diamond.” 

Likewise, if you’re deciding between a moissanite vs. diamond piece, understand the pros and cons of each — including a potentially huge cost savings if you purchase a moissanite.


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