Relationships
“I want a boyfriend, but a good man is hard to find”
The world tells single moms that there are no good men available to us, and we are destined to be lonely. Not true. Here is how to attract a quality man, find love, a boyfriend and even a husband, and enjoy a healthy relationship. When I was growing up, my divorced mom dated a lot,…
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How to file for divorce in NY
Whether you are divorcing in New York City, Albany, Upstate, Long Island or elsewhere, there are some laws in New York state that affect your divorce. Other laws apply nationally. Here is how to file for a divorce in New York, what you are entitled to, and what to expect: What you are entitled to…
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Downsize after divorce: Turn your breakup into a makeover
Quick take: After a breakup or divorce, your life and finances are different, and you likely need to reconsider moving house. Many moms find that downsizing to a smaller, more affordable home that is also easy to maintain gives them the freedom and confidence they need to move forward with their new life. Plus: a…
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8 rules for friends with benefits for single moms
Maybe you just want sex. Or a fun connection, a physical relationship—but none of the baggage of a full-on relationship. Maybe you’re enjoying something really great, but not sure how to define it. Maybe a FWB is right for you. I’m not fond of the term “friends with benefits.” I prefer, “Someone I’m sleeping with,” or…
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Should wives stay thin for their husbands?
A friend was telling me of her new diet and plans to lose 20 lbs. “I told Jack (her husband of 10 years), ‘I’m so sorry I got fat since we married!’” From everything I can tell, their relationship is thriving, but my friend has a deep-rooted sense that she has an obligation to make…
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EliteSingles vs. eHarmony dating sites
In the black hole that online dating sites and apps can be, Elite Singles and eHarmony stand out with promises of serious, long-term, committed relationships. Which one is better? This post will help you decide. Short answer: While both are quality dating sites, EliteSingles has a free version, is more affordable, and offers a more…
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Being a single mom is hard—right?
When people learn you’re a single mom, is the pity automatic? “I don’t know how you do it.” “You’re amazing— must be so hard to do it all by yourself!” “It must be so hard for the kids, I’m sorry.” Etc., ad nauseam, blah blah, right? Welcome to my world. I frequently meet strangers who,…
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EliteSingles vs. Zoosk—which is better for single parents?
Two of the most popular dating sites are EliteSingles and Zoosk, both of which claim tens of millions of users worldwide—including in the United States. In early 2019, Elite Singles parent company, Spark Networks based in Germany, bought Zoosk. Add these to dozens of other dating apps for both single parents and the general population,…
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When to consider relationship counseling
Couples counseling has gotten a bad rap as a last-ditch effort to save a already-failed relationship. But recent studies find that couples therapy can be very helpful in making relationships better, stronger, and longer-lasting—including if you are not married. After all, marriage rates among millennials have reached historic lows, and more and more young women…
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Online therapy vs. face-to-face—which is better?
Online counseling, which connects you to a licensed therapist through phone, text, video or voice is gaining popularity thanks to technology from companies like BetterHelp, TalkSpace and Online-Therapy.com. But how does online therapy compare with face-to-face therapy? What are the pros and cons? If you’re feeling lonely, depressed or stressed, therapy might help you regain…
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31 reasons being a single mom is AWESOME (according to readers)
A while ago a member of Millionaire Single Mom on Facebook said: “I’m a new mom, expecting in a few months. What POSITIVES can you tell me about single motherhood?” I responded with a few points, and invited other members to share. Here is what we said: From me, Emma Johnson, on why being a…
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5 friends every single mom needs
If you’re facing single motherhood – whether by divorce, choice or happenstance, you need support. All the freaking support you can get. The key in this new phase of life is to be strategic in choosing who your support system is. I’m not saying ditch all your old friends, or be a snob. But maybe you…
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Sex and money advice from a 90-year-old single mom
Last week, my kids and I visited my mom at her Milwaukee condo, the complex of which is occupied mostly by senior citizens. While lounging by the pool where my kids caused a ruckus, mildly amused and mostly annoyed by the very loud woman who went on and on and ON about how she could…
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When should single moms introduce a boyfriend to the kids?
Short answer: Whenever you want. Growing up, my mom, who was divorced, dated a lot for a few years. I loved it. I loved watching her get dressed up to go out to dinner or dancing. I’d sit on her bed as she’d stand at the dresser and set her blond, permmed hair on rollers,…
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How to get a background check
I still remember the raised-eyebrow stare my brother flashed my way. I told him I was meeting a male friend I hadn’t seen since high school. “Be careful,” he said, looking at me sideways. “You missed two decades.” My friend and I had a great time, but my brother had a point: it pays to…
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Do you feel guilty for divorcing a nice guy?
Recently a mom emailed me: I feel so guilty for leaving my marriage. My husband is a really, really nice guy. He is a great dad, loves me a lot, has a good career. There was nothing really wrong with our marriage. I just didn’t love him any more and wanted out. Now, our divorce is…
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It’s Just Lunch matchmaking service review
If you’re ready to delete dating apps off your phone after years of disastrous dates, or you’re just thinking of dating after divorce, a breakup, a bad dating experience like getting ghosted from someone you felt a connection with, or long, dry spell, a matchmaker can be a great option. In fact, The Wall Street…
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8 reasons online therapy is great for busy moms
You’re stressed. Feel like you’re doing it 100% alone. Likely lonely. Maybe depressed. Therapy might sound good — but who has the time or money? Related: Questions to ask before paying for online therapy Plus, depending on where you live, and your situation, it might be embarrassing if your friends, colleagues, neighbors knew you went…
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24 questions to ask before paying for online therapy
Are you considering therapy? Sometimes getting to an on-site therapist isn’t possible, but that’s no longer an excuse for not getting the help you need — and deserve. According to the World Health Organization, two-thirds of people who knowingly suffer from mental illness don’t seek treatment. If you suffer depression, anxiety, overwhelm, relationship or career…
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EliteSingles review
Thanks to the ease of use or the increased potential for finding a match (be it for romance, partnership, a hookup, marriage, or anything in between), online dating has become a mainstream choice for those of any age, walk of life, and lifestyle. According to The Knot, online dating is the #1 most common way…
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