Relationships
5 friends every single mom needs
If you’re facing single motherhood – whether by divorce, choice or happenstance, you need support. All the freaking support you can get. The key in this new phase of life is to be strategic in choosing who your support system is. I’m not saying ditch all your old friends, or be a snob. But maybe you…
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Sex and money advice from a 90-year-old single mom
Last week, my kids and I visited my mom at her Milwaukee condo, the complex of which is occupied mostly by senior citizens. While lounging by the pool where my kids caused a ruckus, mildly amused and mostly annoyed by the very loud woman who went on and on and ON about how she could…
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When should single moms introduce a boyfriend to the kids?
Short answer: Whenever you want. Growing up, my mom, who was divorced, dated a lot for a few years. I loved it. I loved watching her get dressed up to go out to dinner or dancing. I’d sit on her bed as she’d stand at the dresser and set her blond, permmed hair on rollers,…
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How to get a background check
I still remember the raised eyebrow stare my brother flashed my way. I told him I was meeting a male friend I hadn’t seen since high school. “Be careful,” he said, looking at me sideways. “You missed two decades.” My friend and I had a great time, but my brother had a point:it pays to…
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Do you feel guilty for divorcing a nice guy?
Recently a mom emailed me: I feel so guilty for leaving my marriage. My husband is a really, really nice guy. He is a great dad, loves me a lot, has a good career. There was nothing really wrong with our marriage. I just didn’t love him any more and wanted out. Now, our divorce is…
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It’s Just Lunch matchmaking service review
If you’re ready to delete dating apps off your phone after years of disastrous dates, or you’re just thinking of dating after divorce, a breakup, a bad dating experience like getting ghosted from someone you felt a connection with, or long, dry spell, a matchmaker can be a great option. In fact, The Wall Street…
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8 reasons online therapy is great for busy moms
You’re stressed. Feel like you’re doing it 100% alone. Likely lonely. Maybe depressed. Therapy might sound good — but who has the time or money? Related: Questions to ask before paying for online therapy Plus, depending on where you live, and your situation, it might be embarrassing if your friends, colleagues, neighbors knew you went…
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24 questions to ask before paying for online therapy
Are you considering therapy? Sometimes getting to an on-site therapist isn’t possible, but that’s no longer an excuse for not getting the help you need — and deserve. According to the World Health Organization, two-thirds of people who knowingly suffer from mental illness don’t seek treatment. If you suffer depression, anxiety, overwhelm, relationship or career…
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Elite Singles review
Thanks to the ease of use or the increased potential for finding a match (be it for romance, partnership, a hookup, marriage, or anything in between), online dating has become a mainstream choice for those of any age, walk of life, and lifestyle. According to The Knot, online dating is the #1 most common way…
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How to find a divorce lawyer (that you’ll actually like)
If you’ve made up your mind and there’s no alternative but divorce, talking to at least a few lawyers is always a good idea. The first consultation is sometimes free, so you’ve got nothing to lose. And you can gain a lot of information during divorce lawyer interviews if you head into the conversation armed…
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Mama Gena, on NYT bestseller PUSSY: A Reclamation
Earlier this year I interviewed an incredible woman, someone whose work has changed the way I feel about my body, sexuality, gender and life: Regena Thomashauser, aka Mama Gena, who, through her in-person and online workshops called Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts, and books by the same name, Thomashauser offers a fascinating history on the…
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Online-Therapy.com review
No matter what stage of life you’re in, it’s common to go through ups and downs. But you don’t have to face it alone, nor do you have to rearrange your life to get the help you need. The convenience of meeting with a therapist through Online-Therapy.com can be life changing. Rather than taking time…
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Zoosk Review: Online dating profiles and matching made easy
Online dating can feel impersonal, and too many options can be a burden rather than a blessing. After a tiring day at work, preparing and feeding the kids dinner, lots of laundry loads, and one or two (or perhaps dozens) of disappointing first dates, online dating might have lost its charm for you. Not to…
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eHarmony review: is it really a place to find quality relationships?
“I’m thinking of trying online dating, but I have no idea where to start!” This is such a common challenge for single moms. While they may have been out of the dating market for years (or, face it: decades), or ready to try a new way to meet people, online dating is alluring. But, it…
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Talkspace online therapy review
If you don’t have time to meet with a therapist, or if you’d rather type than talk, text therapy with Talkspace online therapy is an excellent alternative. Rather than meeting in person, you can access the best online therapy from your smartphone, laptop, or other digital device. As online therapy becomes part of regular health…
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Why shared parenting is so great for kids – and for moms!
Other ways to listen: iTunes ♦ Stitcher ♦ TuneIn ♦ SoundCloud ♦ Google Play After one meeting with my ex and our lawyers to negotiate the custody agreement of our divorce, I went home, busted out the calculator, and cried. I freaked out at the idea of being away from my kids for extended hours or days, and I…
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Why single parents should put their kids second when dating
I meet most men that I date online. What do you look for when dating a man with kids? It’s very common for guys with kids to write in their eharmony.com dating profiles: “My kids come first,” or “My daughter is the center of my world!” I get where you’re coming from. You want a potential…
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Why “Nothing personal, but I don’t want to date a single mom” is totally personal
Way back at the beginning of my single mom dating shenanigans I fell in love with an older man. My kids were 1 and 3, his were in college. A few months in, I broke it off over a boozy Italian dinner. “Face it,” I said. “You don’t want to be running around with little…
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Single moms need gigolos
If I had a nickel for every time I said, “We don’t whine in this family!” I could afford to hire a gigolo for a few hours. This guy wouldn’t pole dance or get freaky on me. He’d give me a goddamn hug and cook me a reasonably nutritious meal and listen to me go…
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The benefits of dating single dads
A few years ago, I went out a couple of times with a single dad whose daughter happens to be the same age as mine. We spent our first date talking about our kids and the challenges of parenting — and realizing we have a lot in common. For example, we both feel perfectly satisfied…
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