Relationships
Why kids don’t always come first when dating as a single parent
I meet most men that I date online. What do you look for when dating a man with kids? It’s very common for guys with kids to write in their dating profiles: “My kids come first,” or “My daughter is the center of my world!” I get where you’re coming from. You want a potential mate…
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Tips for dating a single mom (15 things NOT to say)
I go out with single dads and childless men alike, and some of the latter admit (while others appear) to be uncertain about the logistics of dating a single mom. On one hand, Dude, we are just like other women! Proceed as normal! On the other, our lives are likely both wonderful and challenging in ways…
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The benefits of dating single dads
A few years ago, I went out a couple of times with a divorced dad whose daughter happens to be the same age as mine. We spent our first date talking about our kids and the challenges of parenting — and realizing we have a lot in common. For example, we both feel perfectly satisfied…
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7 Cups online therapy review
Ever had one of those really bad days where you thought, “I need to talk with someone” – but you didn’t have anyone to call? Now you do: Thousands of “active listeners” are waiting to talk with you free of charge at 7 Cups, an online therapy website. Online therapy sites are popping up all…
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Why post-divorce rebound relationships hurt so damn bad
Eighteen months after my marriage ended, I jumped into a heady, sexually intense year-long relationship with a fellow writer and parent who was 20 years older than I was. In hindsight, it was no surprise it ended — his kids were grown, mine were tiny, our lives were at different points. But that did not…
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Dating coach: “Single moms are hot on the successful-men market”
I don’t run many guests posts, but happened upon Elliot Scott, a dating coach who had a lot of really smart things to say about men and women and how we can relate better. And he has a lot of experience coaching — not to mention dating! — single moms. I love, love, love his…
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Why 50/50 shared parenting benefits everyone—kids, moms, and dads
After one meeting with my ex and our lawyers to negotiate the custody agreement of our divorce, I went home, busted out the calculator, and cried. I freaked out at the idea of being away from my kids for extended hours or days, and I need to know how many hours each week I would…
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Why do young guys want to date older single moms? Cougar report
Quick answers: Moms are busy and confident, and don’t demand commitment like younger, single women Young guys feel like a stud if they can sexually satisfy an older woman Mommy issues (sometimes) The trend has been fast and intense: In the four years I’ve been dating as a single mom, there has been a steep…
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Divorce and remarriage — stats, facts and the hard truth
Did your divorce story start with, “I knew he was the one!” ?? At my wedding my mom stood up and gave a heart-felt little speech, which included, “After Emma went out with him for the first time, she called me up and said, ‘I know he’s the one!’” That’s a really sweet story, the…
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Are single-parent families whole?
There is a better-than-average chance that your family doesn’t look like the Cleavers. Traditional family vs. non-traditional family Today, two-parent, monogamous, heterosexual traditional families (by definition) are the weirdos. Statistically, they are a 49 percent minority — a figure poised to plummet in our lifetimes. After all, 57 percent of Millennial moms are unmarried (according…
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9 reasons dating is better as a single mom
Through my circle of friends and single moms I meet through this blog, I often hear cries of horror about the thought of dating. Especially if you have kids. What man in his right mind would consider dating a single mom? I can’t imagine getting out there again! My single-mom body is a wreck and I…
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“I want a boyfriend, but a good man is hard to find”
The world tells single moms that there are no good men available to us, and we are destined to be lonely. Not true. Here is how to attract a quality man, find love, a boyfriend and even a husband, and enjoy a healthy relationship. When I was growing up, my divorced mom dated a lot,…
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How to file for divorce in NY
Whether you are divorcing in New York City, Albany, Upstate, Long Island or elsewhere, there are some laws in New York state that affect your divorce. Other laws apply nationally. Here is how to file for a divorce in New York, what you are entitled to, and what to expect: What you are entitled to…
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Downsize after divorce: Turn your breakup into a makeover
Quick take: After a breakup or divorce, your life and finances are different, and you likely need to reconsider moving house. Many moms find that downsizing to a smaller, more affordable home that is also easy to maintain gives them the freedom and confidence they need to move forward with their new life. Plus: a…
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8 rules for friends with benefits for single moms
Maybe you just want sex. Or a fun connection, a physical relationship—but none of the baggage of a full-on relationship. Maybe you’re enjoying something really great, but not sure how to define it. Maybe a FWB is right for you. What does ‘friends with benefits’ mean? I’m not fond of the term “friends with benefits.” I…
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Should wives stay thin for their husbands?
A friend was telling me of her new diet and plans to lose 20 lbs. “I told Jack (her husband of 10 years), ‘I’m so sorry I got fat since we married!’” From everything I can tell, their relationship is thriving, but my friend has a deep-rooted sense that she has an obligation to make…
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EliteSingles vs. eHarmony dating sites
In the black hole that online dating sites and apps can be, Elite Singles and eHarmony stand out with promises of serious, long-term, committed relationships. Which one is better? This post will help you decide. Short answer: While both are quality dating sites, EliteSingles has a free version, is more affordable, and offers a more…
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Being a single mom is hard—right?
When people learn you’re a single mom, is the pity automatic? “I don’t know how you do it.” “You’re amazing— must be so hard to do it all by yourself!” “It must be so hard for the kids, I’m sorry.” Etc., ad nauseam, blah blah, right? Welcome to my world. I frequently meet strangers who,…
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EliteSingles vs. Zoosk—which is better for single parents?
Two of the most popular dating sites are EliteSingles and Zoosk, both of which claim tens of millions of users worldwide—including in the United States. In early 2019, Elite Singles parent company, Spark Networks based in Germany, bought Zoosk. Add these to dozens of other dating apps for both single parents and the general population,…
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When to consider relationship counseling
Couples counseling has gotten a bad rap as a last-ditch effort to save a already-failed relationship. But recent studies find that couples therapy can be very helpful in making relationships better, stronger, and longer-lasting—including if you are not married. After all, marriage rates among millennials have reached historic lows, and more and more young women…
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