If you're new to online dating as a single parent, it can be overwhelming and confusing. This post breaks down the best online dating apps and sites for single moms — whether you are looking for love, fun, sex, marriage, partnership — or you're not yet sure!
Not a lot of time? Here’s my best recommendation:
eharmony: Best dating site for single parents
There are many quality dating apps, but the best dating site for single parents is eharmony.com, based on its deep assessment that helps singles find meaningful partnership based on hundreds of criteria — including whether you are looking for or open to dating someone with kids . eharmony reports that more than 2 million users have ‘found love' and claims that 542 people who met on eharmony marry every day.
eharmony stands out:
- Free 150-point personality report supports site's sole focus on serious, committed partnership or marriage
- 100% of members are proven to be real (no catfishing or married people!)
- In-app video dating feature lets you have the most intimate, yet safe online dating experience
- Free version
- 3 months free if you aren't happy with your matches!
- A- Better Business Bureau rating
eharmony also has a documented rate of successfully connecting people. One study published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences found that compared with couples who met on other dating sites as well as IRL, eharmony couples were more likely to be content in their relationship, less likely to break up and more likely to marry — and less likely to divorce once the do.
However, if you are not looking for a serious relationship, check out Adult Friend Finder which is for those looking for casual sex, to satisfy a kink, or couples looking for open relationships or threesomes.
Have more questions about online dating apps? Keep reading.
- Is there a dating app for single parents?
- What is the best dating site for single parents?
- Tips for using dating apps, including how to choose an online dating app
Is there a dating app for single parents?
This is a common question, and the answer is: All of them ;)
If you are interested in casual dating, or you are not sure what your romantic goals are, ask a local friend. Each dating app's population of singles differs by region.
Just Single Parents
JustSingleParents.com is a UK-based dating site so small it is not listed on the Better Business Bureau and its Twitter and Facebook accounts have not been updated since 2015. There are plenty of other dating apps and sites to meet quality people. Skip!
Single Parent Match
Single Parent Match is a small app/site owned by SuccessfulMatch.com, which runs a number of niche dating apps including those for bisexual people, cougars/younger men, and singles with STDs. SuccessfulMatch.com has a D- rating with the Better Business Bureau and just one Trustpilot review — a 1-star/5 posted in 2020.
Single Parent Meet
However, Single Parent Meet was designed for, and by, single parents. Do you keep meeting people who aren't open to dating someone with kids? Have you found yourself dating someone who expresses no interest in your kids, let alone want to meet them? Or doesn't understand your commitments and priorities as a single parent? If so, then SingleParentMeet is the perfect dating site for you.
Single Parent Meet (often called Single Parents Meet) claims that all members are single moms and single dads, though no background checks are completed.
Free to join, you can cancel at any time. Upgrade your membership to one of SingleParentMeet’s premium levels, starting at $2.45 per month, which includes sending private messages.
SingleParentMeet.com is owned by People Media, which also owns Our Time, and Black People Meet, and has a B rating with the Better Business Bureau.
While Single Parent Meet is specifically designated for single parents meeting one another, for serious relationships, our #1 dating app for single moms and dads, gay and straight, (and anyone else) is eharmony.
Stir is app-only dating for single parents. The interface is beautiful, easy-to-use and clearly targets a younger, cooler audience than the other dating apps for single moms and dads. Beyond the free version, prices start at $14.24 for a standard subscription and $14.99 for a premium subscription.
Owned by Match Group, the app has a 3.5/5 star rating on the Apple Store, with common complaints being a lack of quality selection and very limited free version — which is true for all dating apps.
No. 1 Best single parent dating app: eharmony
This site was created more than 20 years ago with the goal of using technology to help single people focus on and find long-term, serious, committed relationships and marriage. eharmony was founded by a psychologist whose goal was to create an algorithm to find true compatibility that will result in deeply committed, fulfilling partnerships. Read more in-depth about eharmony in my review here.
Both users answer extensive lists of questions, which then scientifically connect you with strong potential matches.
This isn’t a platform for casual hookups!
eharmony stands out:
- Free 150-point personality report
- Apps for iOS and Android
- 100% of members are proven to be real (no catfishing or married people!)
- Free version
- For paid memberships, eharmony has one of the lowest prices.
- 3 months free if you aren't happy with your matches!
- A- Better Business Bureau rating
As of June 2022, eharmony's prices:
- Free basic account: $0
- 6-month membership: $49.43/mo
- 12-month membership: $34.43/mo << MOST POPULAR
- 24-month membership: $26.93/mo
Video date ideas—experts expect that singles will continue to meet via Zoom or FaceTime for first dates, since that mode is safer and more convenient than even a coffee date.
Looking for local locally? Where to find singles “near me:”
We reviewed each of these single parenting dating apps and sites, with an eye towards quality of members, likelihood of finding partnership, price, customer service reviews, Better Business Bureau rating and overall user reviews from multiple sources.
eharmony stood out in the crowd with its focus on serious, monogamous relationships, long-standing high reputation with third-party vetting agencies and customers alike, competitive pricing and solid customer service.
- Adult Friend Finder
- Christian Mingle
- Coffee Meets Bagel
- Elite Singles
- Plenty of Fish
- Silver Singles
- Single Parent Meet
Adult Friend Finder
AFF has was launched in 1996, and today is the largest sex and swingers community with over 100 million users. The site has an A+ with the Better Business Bureau, has a very limited free version, and like other online dating and hookup sites, has mixed user reviews — though the app was named one of the best dating websites and apps in 2021 by Dating-Experts.org.
Adult Friend Finder is open to everyone, regardless of sexual orientation or sexual experience. The common theme on this dating website is casual sex; the pool contains:
- People looking for friends with benefits
- Casual hookups
- Couples who practice polyamory
- Adventurous folks looking to live out their sexual fantasies and fantasies.
Or, read our Adult Friend Finder review.
Bumble was created by Tinder co-founder Whitney Wolfe a few years ago, with the sole focus of putting the power of dating into the hands of women.
In other words, women have since the dawn of time been sick of dudes coming on too strong, cheesy pickup lines, dick pics, stalkers and worse. Bumble is the answer to these issues, as in all cases, women initiate the online flirting, and are the only gender that can initiate in-app conversations and chats.
Women on Bumble report that the quality of men on the app tends to be higher, as they are guys who are comfortable with women who like to take charge.
The online dating app is free to try, with a reasonable upgrade program, and is easy to set up, as it pulls info from your Facebook profiles, which also informs which people are suggested to you. Each match has a time limit, so both are compelled to respond quickly to any promising interactions — not to mention incentivized to stalk the app.
However, Bumble has a D- with the Better Business Bureau, where the many complaints have not been addressed by the company.
Most dating sites allow you to search for matches by religion, but only a few dating sites are specifically targeted to people of the same faith, including Christian dating apps and Catholic dating sites.
ChristianCupid is a dating site to help Christian men and women find love and friendship. It is one of more than 30 niche dating sites operated by Cupid Media. Users can specify their religious preferences — like denomination and level of religious commitment (religious vs. very religious).
The site is free to use and browse, though features like reading and sending messages require a premium membership. ChristianCupid has a mobile app available for Android devices.
ChristianMingle, like EliteSingles, is free to search, and provides a free, color-coded personality test, which it uses to suggest matches based on your values, interests, dating goals and character. You can also directly search for and message fellow Christian singles.
Christian Mingle benefits:
- 100% of accounts and photos are verified as real
- 24/7 customer service
- Claims to be largest Christian dating site in the United States, with 60,000 new users each month
Spark Networks, the parent company of ChristianMingle, has an A+ rating from the Better Business Bureau, though it has only 1.15/5 stars based on 75+ customer reviews.
More Christian dating apps to consider here.
Coffee Meets Bagel
Coffee Meets Bagel, a.k.a. CMB is an app-only dating platform that focuses on serious relationships, with 86% of users reporting they are looking for a long-term partnership. With versions on Apple and Android, Coffee Meets Bagel requires you to register through Facebook, then uses your preferences and swiping patterns to suggest matches.
Coffee Meets Bagel CEO, Dawoon Kang, says the dating platform is more like a matchmaker than a dating app, taking a “slow dating” approach by suggesting only a limited number of matches (“bagels”) daily. To receive more profiles, you must like or pass first, giving the dating site added information about you and making your matches more accurate in the future.
You can also browse through members' profiles in the Discover section and use your “Beans,” accumulated by utilizing different features on the app, to like additional profiles.
Free to join, or pay for a CMB Premium subscription to receive activity reports, read receipts, and intel about who likes you. Then meet for that bagel in real life.
Coffee Meets Bagel has an F rating with the Better Business Bureau.
As its name implies, Cougarlife is a dating site for older women, “cougars,” to date younger men, “cubs,” though the site doesn't have any age restrictions to join. In fact, most of the users I saw were males over the age of 40.
Cougarlife is designed for people seeking all types of relationships, from casual to more long term. Creating an account is quick and easy, since Cougarlife doesn't require a lot of information to get started.
You can filter users by age, location, last login, appearance, and whether or not they have public or private photos.
Women on Cougarlife can send messages for free. Men, however, have to buy credits. The following credit packages are available:
- Basic – $29.99 ($.30 per credit) for 100 credits
- Classic – $99.99 ($0.20 per credit) for 500 credits (start 100 conversations)
- Elite – $149.99 ($0.15 per credit) for 1,000 credits (start 200 conversations)
Men can also have their profiles highlighted as a Priority Man for $29.99/month (which is also included in the Elite credit package).
Cougarlife has an iPhone app and 3.3 out of 5 stars on Trustpilot.
EliteSingles stands out in that it has a deep personality survey that attracts an overwhelming percentage of members who are professionals with college degrees, and are looking for a serious, long-term relationship. The site says it serves all races, religions and ages who are interested in partnership.
EliteSingles stands out because it features:
- A deep personality survey to make highly compatible matches
- Profiles verified by Customer Care
- Free personality report
- Apps for iOS and Android
- 82% of the members have a college education
- Over 90% of members aged 30+
EliteSingles matches potential partners via extensive questions about your values and ethics, lifestyle, how you feel about yourself, career attitudes and accomplishments, emotional maturity, whether you are seeking more children or not, sexuality, and much, much more.
Because of this, the online dating app tends to attract professional, educated singles seeking serious relationships. EliteSingles has poor online reviews, though its parent company, Spark Networks, enjoys an A+ Better Business Bureau rating.
Happn is a newer dating site, one focused on hyper-locality. In other words, as soon as you create a profile by linking your Facebook account, Happn figures out where you are located, and uses GPS tracking to connect you with people who you have crossed paths with IRL, showing you a map of where you have been in the same coffee shop, bar, grocery store or AYSO soccer field.
Since Happn's goal is to connect you with locals, you actually must be within 250 miles to actually send and receive messages from another member. This is a pro if you're afraid of being catfished by some shady guy in Dubai.
Happn has some cool features, like an in-app feature that allows you to announce an activity — like watching the game at a certain bar, or having a meal at your favorite restaurant, which can inspire others to join your party. You can also send voice messages through Happn. Pretty cool.
Does this sound really cool? Do you find all this close-to-home tracking creepy? Maybe challenge yourself and try it anyway?
Happn has a very basic free version, with more usable memberships starting at $10 per month. Happn does not have a Better Business Bureau rating, and only 1.4 stars on Trustpilot.
Hinge is a mobile-first (no real website) dating app that is focused on relationships and photos. In fact, Hinge's CEO called it “Like Instagram profiles for dating.”
To sign up, download the Hinge app, and connect with your Facebook profile to get started. Like the relationship-focused dating app eharmony, Hinge encourages you to share personal information like your faith or spirituality, politics, and values, in an effort to make more meaningful connections.
Hinge takes just a few minutes to set up, and tends to skew younger. By comparison, eharmony requires you take a personality survey of 150 questions, and half of the users are over age 30.
Hinge does have a free version, but for meaningful interaction, Hinge premium memberships start at $14.99/month.
Hinge, owned by Match.com, is Not Rated by the BBB, and has many complaints there.
Jdate bills itself as the “premier Jewish dating site for Jewish singles” and offers an app for iOS and Android users.
Although the majority of Jdate users are Jewish and looking for a Jewish partner, nobody is prohibited from using the site. You can specify your religious identity when you're creating your profile.
An independent research firm hired in 2011 surveyed nearly 1,000 married Jewish internet users and found that Jdate is responsible for 52% of Jewish marriages that started online.
Jdate's parent company is Spark Networks, the same company that operates EliteSingles, Zoosk, ChristianMingle, and a number of other online dating sites and apps. Spark Networks has an A+ rating with the Better Business Bureau but is not accredited.
One of the oldest and most popular sites, you cannot go wrong with Match.com.
Many great people I know have Match accounts.
The interface is a little dated, but workable, and in many parts of the United States, Match still reins as one of the best online dating apps, with the largest selection. The app has a ‘Not Rated’ standing with the Better Business Bureau — not a good look.
Read our Match.com review.
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Another of Cupid Media's niche dating sites, MilitaryCupid is one of the few places for members of the armed forces to connect with other military personnel and civilians alike.
MilitaryCupid users might be looking for a pen pal to pass the time overseas or a true love connection with someone who understands their unique experiences and lifestyle.
Like other Cupid Media sites, you can join and browse for free, but you can't read or send messages without a premium account. MilitaryCupid has an app, but it's currently only available on Android devices.
I love OKCupid. It is very popular in New York City where I live, but I find it to be a great interface.
There is a free version, but very few people can resist upgrading.
When you upgrade on OkCupid, you have access to features like seeing who “liked” your profile, or when the guy you’re hot for last logged in.
OKC is a highly interactive app, which features thousands and thousands of user-generated questions that allow you to really get to know a prospective match. When I was really dating like a mofo, I took a lot of time to read guys' responses to these questions, as well as answer many myself, including adding comments. You can tell a lot about a person through these questions!
Some common OKCupid user-generated questions (which are totally up to you as to whether you answer):
Is interracial marriage a bad idea?
Would you consider an open marriage?
Do you spend a lot of time thinking about carbs?
Lights on or off during sex? [my answer: “On. Unless you're ugly.”]
Are you going to run away as soon as it's commitment time?
Is climate change real?
OKCupid is today owned by Match.com, which has been downgraded to a ‘Not Rated’ status with the BBB. Nor is the company accredited by the agency, which is unusual for such an old company.
POF is a solid, straight-forward online dating app, one that jibes with moms:
POF reports that 44% of its female users are single moms, and that single moms find matches 10% faster than other users.
That is saying a lot, as there are 70 million members on this easy-to-use site. Unlike Tinder and other swipe-based sites, this one gives you plenty of room to write a nice essay.
POF is also free, which is good and bad — free is always awesome, except that it attracts all the riff raff! Ain't no such thing as a free [fish] lunch!
PoF is another Match.com property with a poor BBB rating.
SilverSingles is focused solely on singles aged 50+. The free membership allows you to set up a profile, complete an in-depth personality test, and view other members' profiles.
Silver Singles markets itself as a source for friendships, casual dates, and serious relationships. Unlike other sites that only allow you to connect with matches the app makes, EliteSingles allows members to search by age, location, height, education, ethnicity, and religion. The in-depth survey will also help the dating algorithm suggest matches that are likely to interest you.
Plus, there’s a free trial option, low monthly cost, and creating a profile is simple.
Silver Singles has both iOS and Android apps via the iTunes and Google Play stores, and is owned by the same parent company as EliteSingles, Spark Networks, which earned a ’Not rated’ status with the BBB.
Tawkify aims to be a mainstream matchmaking service, with notable founders E. Jean Caroll, Silicon Valley funding and more than a decade finding relationships for clients.
Read our Tawkify review.
While Tawkify does accept “Rolodex” clients to be on standby for dates, free of charge, clients pa $2,000 to $40,000 for concierge service, including a personalized interview, guaranteed number of matches along with the actual dates set up and ongoing communication with the Tawkify matchmaker.
Recent reviews of the app are poor, with complaints including high turnover of matchmakers, random or no matches, and general low quality of service.
This started out as a hook-up app, thanks to its geo-location feature and minimalist profile details. Tinder invented the dating app swipe — which everyone knows understands is a swipe right if you're interested, and the fatal swipe left if you're standing in front of your boat, shirtless, in a grainy pic from 6 years ago holding a big fish.
Unlike other apps, Tinder user profiles are limited to a few photos and a very brief profile. There is not a ton of opportunity to express who you are, or learn deeply about potential matches, by browsing alone. You have to connect, then chat (or call, or date!).
But like any popular technology, this one has gone mainstream, and I increasingly hear quality people – both men and women – say they rely on Tinder for dating people with serious relationship potential. It is simply another way to connect romantically, and should not be ignored if you want more than a friend with benefits (or — if you DO want a friend with benefits!).
This is the fastest-growing dating app, and also tends to skew younger, but that is also changing.
Read more in our Tinder review.
Tinder is owned by Match.com, which rates poorly on both Better Business Bureau and Trustpilot.
There's a reason Zoosk is the highest-grossing dating app around:
The app-based dating site has 35 million users around the world, and pulls in your social media accounts to help you quickly create an account and match with compatible people. Zoosk claims to use behavioral matchmaking technology to constantly customize your dating and matchmaking experience.
The easy-to-use app and app have a free version, as well as premium monthly and annual memberships. Zoosk also has cool features like a “boost” which is a fee-based bump in the number of people who will see your site, as well as verified profiles, to help you sort through the undesirables.
Overall, Zoosk is a great online dating app for online daters, and may become the favorite of veterans!
Zoosk is another Spark Network property with poor BBB and Trustpilot reviews.
Learn more about Zoosk in my review.
Dating app for educated professionals
If you are a successful, educated professional or academic looking for similar singles, consider:
Dating sites for active, fit singles
If you enjoy fitness, exercise, and otherwise are a healthy single looking to meet other fit singles, check out:
Free dating apps for single parents
Most dating sites have a free version, at least for a limited time. These include eharmony, Match.com, Plenty of Fish, OKCupid and Hinge.
Mingle2 is totally free, though online reviews are mostly negative.
Single parenting dating app FAQs:
Which dating site has the highest success rate?
While only eharmony (that we know of) actually reports success rates, a relevant question here is: how do you define success?
If success means a serious relationship, including marriage, eharmony reports that more than 2 million users have ‘found love' and in 2010, the site reported that 542 people who met on eharmony married every day. eharmony also reports that couples who meet on their app and marry face a mere 4% divorce rate, compared with approximately 50% for the general public.
Which dating site is the best for serious relationships?
eharmony reports 37 million users in 200 countries. Perhaps the sheer numbers play a role in increasing your chances of meeting your dating goals.
What is the most elite dating app?
The League has set itself apart by marketing itself as a very exclusive dating app, and while reviews are mixed, the limited number of people accepted, high price, and pressure to actively use the site do increase the quality of users.
Outside of dating sites, matchmaking services with their higher prices and personal, high-touch process rank as the most elite dating experience.
Professional matchmaking services can be a fantastic service for single moms, as these professionals get to know you personally, and connect you with quality people, saving you lots of time and heartache.
Is there a Tinder for single parents?
There are many single moms and single dads on Tinder, and every other dating app — almost all of which allow users to sort by whether potential matches have children, and allow you to qualify that you do have children.
Is Single Parent Meet a good dating site?
Single Parent Meet may be a good fit, depending on where you live, and how you use the site. There are many other dating apps where you can find quality single moms and dads to date.
5 tips for single moms using dating apps
If you are new to dating after divorce, a big breakup, or a long, dry spell, you are likely feeling a little nervous. Negative thoughts may include:
There are no good guys left at this stage! “I'm so lonely and want a boyfriend. But there are no good men — right?”
No quality man wants to date a single mom seriously.
Texting, sexting, dick pics, dating apps are all new since the last time I dated. I'm terrified!
My mom bod is so fat and saggy! Who would want to get with this mess!
I am too busy to take time away from my kids.
I don't trust my judgement about men and am afraid of getting into a bad situation again.
Where do single moms meet people?
Any of this sound familiar?
1. Single parent dating tip: Project confidence.
First, some quick tricks to how to feel sexy and confident.
Then, read what this dating coach says about successful men and single moms (spoiler alert: they love them!).
2. Single parent dating tip: Project positivity.
Next, hear what other happily dating single moms say about romance and sex in this post: 9 reasons dating is better as a single mom.
3. Single parent dating tip: Be honest.
Not sure when to bring up your kids? That’s one of the benefits of dating single dads. Read: Why single parents should put their kids second when dating.
4. Single parent dating tip: Seek therapy.
Don’t trust your picker? Therapy can help. I’m a big fan of online therapy, which gives you a wider selection of therapists, total privacy, convenience, and much lower prices than most in-person counseling. Read our list of best online therapy sites.
5. Single parent dating tip: Prepare yourself.
Learn more about dating after divorce, including my own experience with my first post-divorce breakup. Know that sometimes post-divorce rebound breakups hurt. Keep in mind these dating red flags — and when to call it quits to minimize the potential for a broken heart later.
How to choose the best online dating app for you
With so many online dating sites and apps, it can be overwhelming to pick one. Here is my advice:
- Try a few. Most online dating sites have a free version, with a premium upgrade for a monthly or annual cost.
- Ask your friends. If you are interested in dating locally, and have an idea of whether you're interested in casual or serious dating, other singles you trust may prefer one site over others. Based on the thousands of women I interact with through this blog and social media, I've learned that each app attracts different types of people depending on the location. For example, Tinder is more of a hookup app in some areas, but full of serious daters in others.
Bottom line: What is the best dating site for single parents?
If you are interested in finding a serious relationship, I highly recommend eharmony. Aside from the free basic membership, the in-depth survey assesses each member's personality, goals, and values, and verifies each member, average age 30, and 100% of whom are vetted as real and honest, and focused on serious, committed partnership.
Which dating apps for single moms have YOU tried? Comment below and give it a review!
Single parent friendship sites
Maybe you just need a friend? We reviewed 21 friendship apps and found the best ones.
While only eharmony (that we know of) actually reports success rates, a relevant question here is: how do you define success? If success means a serious relationship, including marriage, eharmony reports that more than 2 million users have ‘found love' and in 2010, the site reported that 542 people who met on eharmony married every day. eharmony also reports that couples who meet on their site and marry face a mere 4% divorce rate, compared with approximately 50% for the general public.
eharmomy reports 37 million users in 200 countries. Perhaps the sheer numbers play a role in increasing your chances of meeting your dating goals.
If you are interested in finding a serious relationship, I highly recommend eharmony.