OkCupid reviews in 2021: Is it worth it?

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While OkCupid had its time being one of the most popular dating sites, but today tons of other dating apps have flooded the market, causing it to get lost in the sea of apps. In 2018, OkCupid did a total rebrand, giving the almost 20-year-old dating site a fresh makeover and feel. They changed their slogan to “Dating deserves better” and paved the country with their colorful, tongue-in-cheek ads that cleverly play on the DTF acronym. The app also made huge strides to make OkCupid more inclusive of all genders and sexualities.

OKCupid promises that their dating app goes beyond today’s swipe culture.

So does OkCupid live up to their promise, or is it just like every other dating site?

Read below to find out:

How does OkCupid work?

OkCupid stands out from its competitors by using a series of over 3,000 questions to help you find the most compatible matches. Most of those questions are user-generated, meaning anyone using the app can add their own question.

As you begin creating your profile, you answer basic questions like your gender (there are over 13 options to choose from), who you’re interested in, and what kind of relationship you want, including a casual or a long-term relationship.

Once you cover the basics, upload your photos and write a short bio about yourself. If you’re unsure of what to say, OkCupid offers prompts to help your personality shine through. 

Last comes the questions! As mentioned, OkCupid allows you to answer over 3,000 questions ranging from social issues (like whether or not being vaccinated is important) to some more personal ones, (like whether or not you like shower sex or should you move in together before marriage). You answer yes or no and then get to choose what answers you’ll accept from your matches. Finally, rate these questions based on how important they are to you. While some questions can feel very invasive (“How many sexual partners have you had?”), you always have the option to skip any you don’t feel comfortable answering. 

Your answers will help OkCupid generate your compatibility score with other users to determine the best matches for you. You also get to view other users' answers to measure how you compare.

As you sort through profiles you can like using the traditional swipe method or “like” their answers to their prompts. You don’t have to wait for them to like you back to get the conversation started. You just send an intro, but other users cannot read your message unless they like you back.

Is OkCupid a good dating site?

Short answer: Yes, OKCupid is a good dating site. There are three big reasons why I say it’s a good dating site:

First: OKCupid’s compatibility ratings are really helpful in helping to understand a potential date before you even meet them.  This user design allows daters to be clear and upfront about who they are and what type of relationship they’re looking for. Plus, these questions allow you to find some common ground with your matches, which is great if you struggle to write your profile or start conversations with someone new. And if you don’t think this matters, I do have two friends who are engaged/married to their partners, thanks to OkCupid. In fact, Wealthysinglemommy.com founder Emma Johnson met her boyfriend of five years on OKC.

Second: OkCupid is one of the most inclusive dating websites out there. They offer 13 gender identities, 22 sexual orientations, and even allow you to share your preferred pronouns. They also welcome polyamorous relationships (you can link your profiles to each other.)

Third: OKCupid’s free version is very rich. While some websites (like Match.com and Plenty of Fish) require you to pay to get access to compatibility ratings, OkCupid provides them for free. That’s gold, especially for singles on a budget.

Is OkCupid dangerous? 

There was a time when OkCupid had a reputation for being a more sketchy one of the dating apps, attracting fake profiles, cheaters and the like. I’ve heard stories from friends about being catfished and getting unwanted, inappropriate messages from other users. Hearing that definitely discouraged me from giving the app a try.

Thankfully, OkCupid has since changed its messaging policies so that instead of anyone on the app being able to message you, today a message is only possible between a mutual match. According to OKCupid’s website:

“We're big fans of consent here at OkCupid, and the feedback we've received from our members indicates that they are too. This means that we want each of our members to decide who they're open to receiving messages from. Everyone can choose whether or not to match with people, and they can choose not to look at their SuperLikes Stack. Consent is for everyone, everywhere!”

In 2020, Check Point, a leading data security software and research firm, conducted a test to see how easy it would be to hijack OkCupid. They found different vulnerabilities where hijackers can easier steal people’s information on OkCupid. Check Point sent their findings to OKCupid who immediately took their feedback and made efforts to better their app to protect the privacy of their users. 

 Aside from these two issues, OkCupid is as safe as any other dating app. Of course, you should always take precautions when you’re meeting someone online; ie, never share any financial information with your matches, always meet at a public place, and maybe even stalk them a little online to make sure they are who they are. Knowledge is power when it comes to online dating!

You can always run a background check or reverse phone lookup before meeting in person.

Is OkCupid full of fake profiles?

Unfortunately, most dating apps are susceptible to fake profiles and OKCupid is no different.  Reddit users report a slew of fake profiles of women. It also seemed to be a big issue back then judging by the slew of listicles loosely titled “TK Things About OkCupid that Make You Want to Throw the Dating Towel.”

But according to OkCupid, that’s all behind us. When I created my profile, I was surprised by all the CAPTCHA hurdles I had to jump through to get my profile ready to go.

But despite all the safety measures dating apps pull to ensure authentic dating, a fake profile will somehow find its way there. Luckily it’s easy to spot a fake profile; usually, it has one photo on their profile and zero information in their bio.

eharmony, however, does manually check each member to make sure their profile is real, and vets for cheaters and married people.

How much does OkCupid cost?

The biggest selling point for OkCupid was that the entire site is completely free to use. Well, that’s still mostly true. Over the years, OkCupid has made changes to the app, including adding paid features and offering two subscription versions (basic and premium). But while paying for these features might help up your chances at finding the right match for you, OkCupid’s free version is still one of the better options out there. Here’s how they all stack up:

What you’ll get with OkCupid’s free version:

  • Access to see all of your potential matches
  • Send and receive Likes 
  • Send and receive messages.

OkCupid’s basic version:

  • $5.99/month for 6 months
  • $7.99/month for three months
  • $11.99/month for three months
  • No outside ads
  • Send unlimited Likes
  • Option to set dealbreakers in your search preferences
  • Unlock all of your Intros

OKCupid Premium

  • $11.99/month for 6 months
  • $15.99/month for 3 months
  • $23.99 for one month
  • All of the features of OkCupid Basic
  • Option to view your Likes ahead
  • Option to view everyone's public answers to their questions before you answer 

In addition to the subscriptions, OkCupid also allows you to buy add-ons to your account. These include:

  • Profile Boosts ($4.99 for 10 boosts)
  • Read Receipts ($0.99 for 20 matches)
  • Superboosts (starting at $29.99 for three hours)

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Is it worth subscribing to OkCupid?

OKCupid Pros

OkCupid is for everyone.

As mentioned before, OkCupid prides itself on being an inclusive dating app, going beyond sexual orientation and gender. It’s also open to different types of relationships. Polyamorous couples can link accounts with each other as opposed to just sharing a joint account.

There are multiple ways to access OkCupid.

OkCupid has both a desktop and mobile version, letting you access the dating service anywhere at any time. And regardless of how you log on, its interface is very easy to use.

The opportunity to really get to know someone.

All the questions and prompts help consumers cut to the chase when it comes to dating. It’s definitely empowering, especially for those who know what their end goal is.

Cons

The site can be hit or miss based on location.

One thing I’ve noticed (even after setting my location and desired distance to find singles) is that I’ll get matches from people outside my radius. And I live in NYC! So depending on where you live, there might not be too many users using OkCupid. You can set your location preference as a dealbreaker (but that’s with a subscription). This brings me to:

You can’t set dealbreakers unless you pay.

When you fill out your ideal person page, you’ll notice at the bottom of every setting that there’s an option to make your preferences a dealbreaker (whether it’d be about the distance, height, or political issues). Unfortunately, that is a feature you can only access if you buy OkCupid’s basic or premium version. 


There are a lot of ads on the free site.

Lots of users complain about the number of ads on OKCupid’s free site. Luckily, you can get an ad-free experience if you pay for a subscription.

Interested in checking out other dating sites and apps? Here are some dating app reviews:

eharmonyZooskTinder
Elite Singles Adult Friend FinderMatch.com
BumbleOKCupidPlenty of Fish

Also, check out our roundup of best dating apps and sites for single parents, as well as 11 hookup sites if that is your jam.

OkCupid reviews

OkCupid is not accredited by the Better Business Bureau, which makes sense given their parent company (Match Group) also doesn’t have a rating. However, customer reviews give the Match Group a rating of 1.02 out of five stars. While most comments are about other Match Group dating apps, two reviewers complain about having issues with their OkCupid accounts as well as being shown fake profiles from out of the country.

On Trustpilot, OkCupid has a 1.3 rating and plenty of reviews from users with very strong opinions. One of them calls OkCupid a pathetic website, while another calls it a scam. (Keep in mind, that people love to complain when they write reviews)  However, there are some reviews that seem fair and honest. One reviewer feels that OkCupid was once a good website until it got acquired by the Match Group. Another likes the concept but feels that fake profiles and limited features get in the way of its potential.

OkCupid reviews on Reddit

Reddit users on OkCupid appear to be frustrated with some of the app’s limitations. The biggest complaints (mostly from male users) are not being able to set dealbreakers and not being able to message other users without liking them. Personally, I feel that these Redditors are failing to see the benefit behind changing their messaging.  It shows that OkCupid cares about their users having a safe dating experience and are listening to their feedback.

The second biggest thing that Redditors complain about is how small the dating pool is. Of course, location can either make or break your dating app experience, and that goes for any dating app.

Which is better, OkCupid or Plenty of Fish?

Plenty of Fish (POF) is one of the oldest dating sites (launched in 2003). It was one of the most popular dating sites back in the day before apps like Tinder and Bumble stole the scene. The site markets itself as a place for people who are seriously looking for love.

POF and OkCupid are similar in the sense that their end goal is the same: to help consumers find connections. They even both have their version of a personality assessment to help you find compatible matches.

One thing that POF has over OKCupid is that it has more free features. For example, on POF you can message anyone online (on OKCupid, free messaging is limited to introductions that other uses can't see until they like our profile). However, with messaging being so laissez-faire, there's lots of opportunities for unwanted messages to crawl into your inbox.

POF also has a way bigger dating pool, with 78,000,000 from the USA (OkCupid only has 10,000,000), making it a better option especially if you live in low populated areas, but OKCupid wins with their inclusivity, could be better for individuals who identify themselves as something beyond traditional labels.

Like OkCupid, POF is owned by Match Group,  so it does not have its own BBB page. When you read the reviewers on Match Group’s BBB page, there’s not much said about POF. However, these two websites differentiate greatly on TrustPilot. POF has a great review on Trustpilot (4.2 stars) with reviewers saying it’s a great app and easy to use. 

If you’re on a budget and live in a more remote location, Plenty of Fish might be worth trying, but honestly, there isn’t too big of a difference between these two websites.

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The bottom line:

OkCupid is worth a shot, specifically for their awesome personality assessment and efforts for inclusivity. Experience will definitely differ based on where you live, but if you live in a big metropolitan city, that shouldn’t be a problem. However, I can’t speak for the quality of individuals (because taste is subjective).

How does OkCupid work?

OkCupid stands out from its competitors by using a series of over 3,000 questions to help you find the most compatible matches. Most of those questions are user-generated, meaning anyone using the app can add their own question.

Is OkCupid a good dating site?

Yes, OKCupid is a good dating site. There are three big reasons why: 1. OKCupid’s compatibility ratings are really helpful in helping to understand a potential date before you meet them. 2. OkCupid is one of the most inclusive dating websites out there. 3. OKCupid’s free version is very rich.

Which is better, OkCupid or Plenty of Fish?

If you’re on a budget and live in a more remote location, Plenty of Fish might be worth trying, but honestly, there isn’t too big of a difference between these two websites.

Bianca Mendez is a writer and editor living in New York City. Her work has appeared in Woman’s Health, Bustle, Latina, Refinery29, and many other publications. She also served as a sex and dating editor at Elite Daily and a freelance lifestyle editor for Bauer Publishing’s Teen Department, where she helped the team launch three new magazines.

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