Thanks to the ease of use or the increased potential for finding a match (be it for romance, partnership, a hookup, marriage, or anything in between), online dating has become a mainstream choice for those of any age, walk of life, and lifestyle. According to The Knot, online dating is the #1 most common way engaged couples met today.
With the swipe of a finger or a few keystrokes, you can have a pool (or a puddle) of suitors waiting to woo you. For the dater who is an educated professional seeking a serious relationship, EliteSingles is a solid choice.
EliteSingles stands out because it features:
- A deep personality survey to make highly compatible matches
- Verified profiles
- 82% of the members have a college education
- 90% of members aged 30+
What is EliteSingles?
Striving to match you with educated professionals, EliteSingles dating website works similar to other dating sites using personality-based algorithms. Because of that, EliteSingles digs deep. Starting with questions regarding how you feel about yourself and ending with questions about those more emotionally trying situations couples may face together, Elite Singles doesn’t leave any stone unturned.
“I'm so lonely and want a boyfriend. But there are no good men — right?”
One question asks you to rate your level of attractiveness, while others gauge your feelings on raising children. The site functions more like a digital matchmaker than any impersonal dating app could, asking pointed questions to direct you to your perfect match. Using your responses and comparing them to those from millions of singles around the world, it appears Elite Singles’ methodology could increase your chances of finding love and having fun while you’re looking.
Not sure what makes EliteSingles different than other matchmaking websites? Consider having to face those questions you might be embarrassed to answer honestly if your friend were to ask. For instance, if you care how much money the person you’re dating makes or if you don't like children, this site takes away the shame you may feel when expressing your thoughts on these matters. The site not only wants to know, but they will use the information you provide to find your matches. Sites like eHarmony or Zoosk don’t even give you the option of being honest in this way.
How does EliteSingles work?
EliteSingles works similar to eHarmony. Upon entering the site, you’ll face standard questions including, “Are you looking for men or women?” and “When were you born?” After filling out such generic information, the questions gradually become more probing, the kind of questions that could easily make you uncomfortable and might prompt you to lie, like the kind of race you prefer to date. This is the dating and personality questionnaire component of the signup process about which the site boasts.
Depending on how honest you are with yourself, you might be shocked at what you learn not only about your personal preferences, but also your values and how you would possibly react when faced with a moral dilemma. Questions such as, “How important is attractiveness to you?” and “Would you stay with a partner through a life-altering change?” are relevant and highlight a potential match’s character — not to mention challenge you to examine your own beliefs. Because of the depth of the questions, I’d suggest carving out up to an hour of your time to complete Elite Singles profile — they designed their site so that once you start the process, you can’t stop until you answer more than 200 of their questions.
Once you’ve completed the questionnaire, Elite Singles pairs you with members based on a compatibility score of 1 to 100. The higher the score, the higher the likelihood of compatibility, according to the Elite Single’s algorithm. While you’re more than welcome to browse the website — if you pay for a subscription — the real magic comes in the form of a daily email containing between one and five matches for that day. No fuss, no hassle, you pretty much never have to think about it again. Elite Singles brings nearby matches right to your inbox.
Does EliteSingles have an app?
EliteSingles has a dynamic app for both Android and iOs, which you can use with Siri and Alexa, and integrates with your phone camera. You can use all the swipe, match, profile creation and messaging from the app. You can also sign up directly from the app, as well as take the free personality test, and use the free Elite Singles version.
Is EliteSingles free?
You can access EliteSingles's basic version for free.
In the free basic version, you can go through the personality profile, get the results, create a profile, and match with others.
However, with the free version, you won’t be able to see anyone’s profile photo or send anyone a message — which is perfect for taking a baby step toward dating or getting a taste of online dating.
However, for actually connecting and seeing your potential matches, you need to upgrade to a paid version.
How much does EliteSingles cost?
For a premium membership, there are currently three options. Premium starts at costs $41.66 per month for the 6-month membership. Premium members receive:
- Unlimited messaging
- View all member photos
- See everyone who visits your profile, and turn on read receipts for your messages
- Confirmation of messages received
- Access to the mobile app
- More detailed personality profile
- Access “Wildcard” matches
EliteSingles membership costs:
- 1-month membership: $54.99 / month
- 3-month membership: $56.66 / month
- 6-month membership: $41.66 / month
This membership structure is interesting because the monthly rate is actually cheaper with a one-month commitment, compared with a three-month contract. I guess Elite Singles is confident that you will find that quality, long-term relationship in the first 30 days :)
What kind of people are on EliteSingles?
EliteSingles boasts an impressive 165,000 new members per month. According to their website, 82 percent of members hold a bachelor’s degree, and supposedly every eight minutes someone on EliteSingles finds their soulmate.
Billing itself as a source for professionals who are serious about finding a meaningful romantic match, the thinking is that singles willing to spend significant time and money on creating a profile will be more likely to be serious about dating and career.
If you’re looking for something casual or have a swipe-and-go mentality, joining Elite Singles is not for you. [Zoosk is a quality site with tens of millions of users, high reviews and a wider variety of dating types. Compare Zoosk and EliteSingles.]
The site is geared toward educated professionals and requires a minimum of three months for any of the paid memberships.
Most of Elite Singles’ members are 33 to 50 years old, making it less appealing to the swipe-happy millennials that Tinder and Bumble target.
Pros of EliteSingles for online dating
- Serious dating only: Like its competitor eHarmony, EliteSingles is only marketed to people looking for serious, long-term committed relationships—including marriage. See our comparison of eHarmony vs EliteSingles.
- Accuracy: EliteSingles' personality test makes it harder to lie. They ask you the same question in more than one way to see how you react and engage, testing who you are as a person and how you think. This method should prove helpful when curating honest, thoughtful matches.
- Great app for both iOS and Android users.
- Advice for new singles: If you’re one of the many who is new to online dating, or could use some dating advice, EliteSingles’ blog has hundreds of articles on topics like how to build trust in a relationship.
- Website safety: According to the website, EliteSingles checks every user profile for authenticity, by hand, to verify that each user is legitimate—reducing the chances for spam, catfishing, married men posing as single, and other sleazy behavior. The site is also encrypted to protect your data. The site states:
“In order to avoid this on EliteSingles, we manually check each individual profile to guarantee that everyone on our site is serious about the search for love. We use SSL Encryption, Fraud Detection, and Manual Profile Verification to ensure our members feel completely comfortable when using our service.”
Cons of EliteSingles for online dating
- Completing the personality test can be time-consuming: While filling out the questionnaire on EliteSingles, I timed myself. It took me a full 45 minutes to put thought behind my choices and answer each question honestly. Anyone who’s short on time may not want to invest almost an hour into a website before ever seeing a single match.
- Matches come to you: Unlike other dating sites, EliteSingles doesn’t force you to spend endless hours scrolling and matching. Instead, EliteSingles delivers five to seven matches to your inbox per day. If you don’t like any of them, you have to wait until the next day for more matches. If you’re accustomed to accessing thousands of profiles options at any given time, this can be frustrating. Swipe happy people beware. This method of receiving curated options can, however, force members to consider each suggestion with more thought than they usually would. Think of it like paying for a high-end matchmaker. She will send you a small list of very carefully selected matches to consider.
EliteSingles vs. eHarmony
While both eHarmony and Elite Singles offer extensive personality questionnaires to gauge your compatibility with potential matches, there are subtle differences between the two. While Elite Singles’ introductory quiz is much more extensive, eHarmony’s questions are psychology-based. I’m unsure which is more effective.
EliteSingles and eHarmony are both available in both in the Google Play and Apple stores.
The subscription options are also different.
If you are testing the dating waters, or want a short-term trial, Elite Singles offers single-month subscriptions starting at $54.99 per month cost. eHarmony's minimum commitment is 6 months, for $179.99.
EliteSingles prices range from $54.99 per month to $41.66 per month.
eHarmony's discounted rate for first-time users is $179.95 for a 6-month commitment (the minimum contract). But if you choose to commit for 12 months, the price goes down to $119.40 for the year.
Niche dating on EliteSingles
Elite Singles appears to be LGBT friendly, and will potentially match LGBT singles based on their personality test.
Tried Christian Mingle but didn’t love it? Don’t be discouraged as EliteSingles devotes a portion of their website to Christian Dating — 67 percent of members identify as Christian.
Those looking for a connection over the age of 50 will not feel left out on EliteSingles, as the average age holding at 45+.
EliteSingles recognizes dating by race, with its Black dating and Asian dating content. Still, in the vein of their gay and lesbian dating sub-sites, the information the site offers to those interested in dating members of a specific race doesn’t stray too far from their main site, so I don’t feel comfortable recommending it for this purpose by itself.
All in all, though, EliteSingles provides users with enough options and variation to warrant a try. Both are great options for single parents intersted in meeting other, available moms and dads interested in long-term, committed relationships.
Elite singles wins with its lower price and more dynamic interview process.
Stacey Freeman has been published in The Washington Post, Entrepreneur, Good Housekeeping, Cosmopolitan, Woman’s Day, Town & Country, Yahoo!, HuffPost, Popsugar and Worthy. She has been quoted in The New York Times, HuffPost, and SheKnows, to name a few. She is also a single mom of three amazing kids. For more information about Stacey, visit www.writeontrackllc.com.