Eighteen months after my marriage ended, I jumped into a heady, sexually intense year-long relationship with a fellow writer and parent who was 20 years older than I was. In hindsight, it was no surprise it ended — his kids were grown, mine were tiny, our lives were at different points. But that did not make me love him any less, and did nothing to tamper the absolute devastation that pummeled me when we broke up.
Even months after we split, Sundays when my kids are with their dad and I would have otherwise spent with my ex-boyfriend, I instead engaged in unseemly behavior like walking around the streets of Manhattan while bawling uncontrollably, listening to John Legend on a loop, and reading the Wikipedia page on Carrie and Mr. Big.
I was a steaming-hot mess, deeply in a painful heartbreak like I’d never experienced — even more than what I endured in my divorce in many ways.
Not only was all this embarrassing, it was also incongruous with the events at hand. Something else was at play.
It took me more than five years of blogging about single mothers and connecting here and on social media with literally hundred of thousands of moms who are single by way of divorce, choice, separation, or other, to really understand what was happening to me.
Turns out, this pain is specific to that first post-divorce/relationship breakup, and it is universally brutal (but worth it).
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Here are three things I wish I knew about dating after divorce:
1. First thing: It can be intense
That first big relationship after divorce is BIG, and DEEP and very sexually intense.
2. Second thing: It can hurt
The second lesson I learned about dating after divorce is that first relationship HURTS LIKE HELL when it ends.
3. Third thing: It can be fun
Final big dating-after-divorce lesson: Dating is new and fresh and fun and exciting at this phase of life. You invent the rules! Try anything you like!
Here’s what I wish I knew about first relationships after divorce:
- Your first relationship after divorce
- First relationship and sex after divorce
- Can you find true love after divorce?
Understanding your first relationship after divorce
What are the stages of a relationship after divorce?
After a divorce, relationship stages are similar but different than other relationships:
- Stage 1: infatuation + intense sex
- Stage 2: love
- Stage 3: turmoil — post-divorce relationships can be really hard, especially if there is co-parenting involved
- Stage 4: (more typically) heartbreak
- Stage 5: (sometimes) lifelong partnership
Does the first relationship after divorce last?
It seems to be a universal experience: When that first relationship after divorce ends it just kills. When that relationship ended, it hurt like a motherfucker! Holy shit did that hurt. Ouchie!! Owwie ow ow ow! Mommy! Make it stop! Please, ow ow owie ouchie ow I can’t take any more!!!
It took me a long time, and a lot of interaction with other, divorced people to figure out why post-divorce rebounds are akin to your body dripping with infected hangnails while, at the same time, a rusty scythe strikes your guts. Again. And again. And again.
Even more than an ending love, all that pain and torment is really about contending with unresolved heartbreak from divorce. You are likely as I was: needing to go through that rebound and the subsequent pain. It served as a critical point of reference through which I dealt with the dissolution of my marriage.
Divorce often robs us of the opportunity to mourn the romantic relationship itself because there is so much practical and logistical hell to contend with at the time of the split. Including:
- Your children’s care and feelings
- Finances
- Worry you will be be destitute
- Custody
- Co-parenting
- Worry your children will be forever neurotic/hateful of you/incapable of love
- Real estate transactions
- Relocation — including deciding whether to keep or sell the house in the divorce
- Lost relationships with in-laws
- Lost relationships with mutual friends
- Divvying of personal items (make sure to sell your engagement ring and don’t make it part of the divvying)
- Removing names from bank accounts and mortgages and wills, credit cards, utility accounts and car notes
- Managing your debt and credit
- Acclimating to visitation schedules
- Acclimating to living alone
- Figuring out how to live on far less money (how to make and stick to your single-mom budget)
- Figuring out how to make way more money
- Fear of finding love after divorce
- And on and on
Is the first relationship after divorce doomed?
No! Not all first relationships after divorce end. But most do. That’s OK!
5 tips for dating after divorce
Why are relationships so hard after divorce?
Post-divorce relationships can be hard for a number of reasons:
- You and/or your partner are nursing broken hearts and trust issues from past relationships
- Lots of divorced people are not good at relationships to start with
- Co-parenting can be great, but also messy with a step-parent in the mix
- One or both of you may need to have some fun first — maybe something casual, FWB, younger-man/older-woman dating, or any kind of adult kink.
- Parties involved are older, more set in their ways, and have more years under their belts to accumulate baggage and emotional wounds
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First relationship and sex after divorce
After my post-divorce rebound, I needed another rebound relationship. I happened to be his first post-divorce rebound relationship. I couldn’t believe my good fortune, especially after fear that I would never find love after divorce.
My first serious relationship after divorce
Me: “I’ve been thinking about how the first time you sleep with someone, you’re not really sleeping with that person — you’re really sleeping with all the other people you’ve had sex with before them.”
Him: “That’s right. You’re really sleeping with your point of reference.”
In essence, before you get to know a new lover’s body and preferences — as well as how your own body and preferences fit with that person — each of us is really just sorting through all of the bodies and preferences that came before in order to truly enjoy current company.
Relationships are no different. And this analogy holds most true in a rebound relationship.
There has been plenty written on the perils of the rebound. The old maxim suggests that the recently heart-broken is too angry/vulnerable/hurt to be truly open to a new love. The rebounder is at risk of attaching too quickly to the wrong person, and those dating a rebounder are subject to wandering into the line of fire of scatter-shot devotion.
I’ve written exhaustively about my own post-marriage rebound with a man who was also recently divorced. It lasted a full year and was thrilling, wonderful and dysfunctional.
When that relationship ended, it hurt like a motherfucker! Holy shit did that hurt. Ochie!! Owwie ow ow ow! Mommy! Make it stop! Please, ow ow owie ouchie ow I can’t take any more!!! Even more than an ending love, all that pain and torment was really about contending with unresolved heartbreak from my divorce. But I needed to go through that rebound and the subsequent pain. It served as a critical point of reference through which I dealt with the dissolution of my marriage.
Falling in love too soon after divorce
But no matter how much I tried to stay true to my belief that anything is possible in love, there was no escaping that I am three years out of my marriage while he is a mere three weeks. This guy’s giddy openness about starting life anew reminded me of just how I felt at that juncture.
Divorce rates for second and third marriages
I also sensed a vulnerability and neediness that was woefully familiar — in this man I could see myself two years ago when I, too, first ventured into post-divorce dating. It evoked being on a third date with my own rebound boyfriend. Anxiously, across the table in a dimly lit West Village restaurant, I stammered: “Are you dating anyone else? Because I’m not.” My barely salvaged heart could barely stand the risk of being dinged yet again.
Today, I feel differently about emotional risk, heartbreak and dating. On the one hand, bring it on! You don’t get to the good stuff in relationships without putting yourself out there emotionally. But now I don’t feel quite as vulnerable and needy. I am feeling strong and free and optimistic about love in a different, more grounded way — one that allows me to see obvious love landmines before I enthusiastically dance on one. As such, I couldn’t figure out how to make my own phase of divorce jibe with that of my recent amour.
So in a breakup email exchange, I shared more or less what I said here. I added that I hoped we could stay connected in some way, keep open the possibility of finding each other in other phases of our journeys. What I got in response was one of the most touching compliments I’ve received in a very long time. It said:
“I can’t think of anyone I would rather have lost my divorce virginity to.”
What to know about dating while going through a divorce
Being friends with an ex: Is it a good idea or should you avoid it?
Can you find true love after divorce?
Answer: Yes.
One data point: Me.
I separated from my husband when I was 33. I was pregnant and had a toddler. A year and a half later I started to date. I dated like a maniac and had a blast meeting all kinds of wonderful, mediocre and weird men. Tons of sex, fell in love once or twice, made some new friends and a bunch of stories. Three years ago I fell in love with a wonderful man who loves me, loves my kids, and wants to spend his life with me.
I’m not special. I’m a little fat, pretty loud, frequently grumpy and fickle.
Is love different after divorce?
Love is different after divorce just like love is different after any major life experience.
Love after divorce can be more intense if you are coming off of years of a loveless, unhappy or sexless marriage. You may appreciate what you have now compared with your spouse.
Love can be more complicated if either party is still dealing with their divorce — logistically, legally or emotionally. Any kids in the mix can also make things more wonderful — seeing your new partner love and care for your kids, and vice versa — as well as messier as you try to parent together.
Dating a widower: 6 things you need to know
Should you get back together with an ex after a breakup?
Lots of people do, with a lot of success. Here are reasons not to get back together with an ex after breakup:
- You want totally different things and you believe you will change him.
- You want totally different things and you are ready to make major, soul-crushing compromises to make it work.
- Abuse.
- You know in your heart is wrong but you’re so lonely. Or horny.
- You tell yourself you’ll just hook up with no feelings involved.
- You’re miserable with him, if comfortable.
Bottom line: First relationships after divorce can be tough, and enter them with your eyes wide open
You’re going to date, have sex and maybe even fall in love — go for it! But you are older, maybe wiser, maybe more broken, and your life and your partner’s life are more complicated than before. Enjoy — and watch out for red flags.
After a divorce, relationship stages are similar but different than other relationships:
– Stage 1: infatuation + intense sex
– Stage 2: love
– Stage 3: turmoil — post-divorce relationships can be really hard, especially if there is co-parenting involved
– Stage 4: (more typically) heartbreak
– Stage 5: (sometimes) lifelong partnership
You are likely as I was: needing to go through that rebound and the subsequent pain. It served as a critical point of reference through which I dealt with the dissolution of my marriage.
No! Not all first relationships after divorce end. But most do. That’s OK!
Post-divorce relationships can be hard for a number of reasons:
– You and/or your partner are nursing broken hearts and trust issues from past relationships
– Lots of divorced people are not good at relationships to start with
– Co-parenting can be great, but also messy with a step-parent in the mix
– Parties involved are older, more set in their ways, and have more years under their belts to accumulate baggage and emotional wounds
Answer: Yes.
One data point: Me.
Love is different after divorce just like love is different after any major life experience.
You may have stayed in an unsatisfactory relationship for a long time because you were afraid of dealing with the changes that splitting up forces upon you.
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Revenge Your Ex
Each day hundreds of men and women seek revenge on their ex-mates for a
variety of reasons, usually because they got dumped or where cheated on.
Revenge comes in many ways. It typically starts by using social media to
vent, and then escalates from there. Now sites like “Get Revenge On Your Ex”
for a fee will help you get pay back or revenge.
So what is the best way to get revenge besides slashing her tires, posting
nude photos of her and so on.
The best way according to the web site Right Choices 101 is to live your
life well. This is true no matter who you are seeking revenge on. Coworkers,
past bosses, bad friends or ex-lovers. Put your energy into succeeding and
enjoying your life, not wasting your time, energy and resources on revenge
that can end up costing you much more. Plus, when you seek revenge, you send
them a massage that you have not gotten over the relationship. It’s much
better to show you are indifferent and don’t care.
According to Kenneth Agee of A Foreign Affair, a service that specializes in
helping men find young beautiful foreign women, “The best revenge is to date
or marry a women 10 years younger than your ex. This will piss her off to no
end. No woman ever wants to be replaced with a younger, more attractive
woman. Just like a man never likes to get replaced by a guy who is wealthier
or more successful.
I will never forget one of my first clients we took to Saint Petersburg,
Russia.” says Agee, “The client told me that two days on our tour was better
than two years of therapy. Having hundreds of attractive women fighting over
you gets your ex out of your mind pretty quick.
I personally went through break up when my ex ran off with another man. But
a short time later, I met a new lady who was ten times better. I ran into
that man who stole my ex and I gave him a big thanks. In fact, I could not
thank him enough. He was stuck with an older nagging women, while I was now
with a young, beautiful, caring women. Plus, my ex had gained about 100
pounds. I don’t look at that fellow as any kind of enemy but as the person
who saved me from my ex and years of suffering.” This is the best a revenge
when you win without lowering yourself.
Other sites like “Get Over Her Now” give practical advice and tips for
getting over a past relationship.
Top Tips from Get Over Her Now:
Start making platonic relationships with as many women as possible, old,
young, skinny, fat, cute or ugly. This greatly helps you get back in the
game of socializing with the opposite sex. And it opens up lots
opportunities to meet their cute attractive friends in a more relaxed
environment. This also helps you build your game and confidence.
Improve yourself, start working out, get up early every day and exercise.
Buy new clothes. Dressing better makes you feel better and improves your
confidence.
Focus on work and getting a promotion or raise. Don’t let a break up effect
your work negatively. Put that extra effort into work and it will pay off
with a better position and more money. This will also build your confidence
and help attract better quality women.
Any time you are depressed, improving yourself helps greatly. When you feel
depressed, don’t sit and watch TV and then sleep-in late. Get out and do
something that will make you feel like you’ve accomplished something. Take a
class, go hiking, fix something you’ve been putting off.
Don’t start drinking. Drinking will always have a negative impact on your
life. Don’t drink while depressed or when you are trying to get over some
one. After all, drinking is for celebrating. So if you are not celebrating
something, don’t drink. A quality women is not going to be attracted to
someone who drinks a lot or has a drinking problem.
Don’t sleep in; sleeping late increases depression. Get up as early as you
can and go for a walk, take a hike, or go to the Gym. Research shows getting
up early and exercising can eliminate depression. You will have no game be
depressed.
Don’t binge eat. If you start gaining weight, you will feel less self-worth
and lose your confidence. Confidence is a quality that women are extremely
attracted to.
Conclusion, the best revenge is when you improve your life so well that she
realizes she made a big mistake. And satisfaction comes when you meet
someone so much better, you are glad the ex is gone. After all, if you are
seeking revenge, how great could she really have been in the first place!
I am really glad I found your article this morning. I too am in Manhattan, and I can identify with walking around Manhattan depressed. Im 41 and divorced for 6 years. I have been in two LTR relationships since my divorce. The first was rushed and I didnt fall as deeply in love. My last LTR, which ended last August, was one of the most painful experiences I have experienced from a break up.
I met this beautiful girl on the street in Manhattan by chance, 10 years my junior. Single, no kids, here temporarily from another country, executive in a major firm. We dated for about 8 months. In that time we traveled extensively, to VT, DC, CA, UK and Puerto Rico. She was the most beautiful girl I have ever dated. She was everything I had ever wanted in a woman. We fell in love after a few months of being together, and we expressed that to each other. I dated a lot since my divorce, have been in a few long term relationships and a marriage, and I truly thought I found the one.
I was so used to my single bachelorhood, that when we tried to go exclusive, I could not comply. I was still chatting with a few former GF’s, and she threatened to leave me. I begged her to stay, and our relationship deteriorated from there. I made a few other mistakes, and she was dissatisfied and showed it. Putting me down in front of friends and family, openly flirting with other men in front of me, etc etc. We flamed out hard. It ended on one of our trips with a serious argument. I made a serious mistake that I regret to this very day.
We ended 5 months ago and I still think about her every day. This morning I saw her on Tinder, and it brought up so many emotions, after being no contact for 5 months. Your article made me see that I had never mourned the loss of my ex wife. When I divorced I mourned the loss of my family, and not the loss of the relationship with my ex wife. We had a very similar relationship to this one. We met, we clicked, we fell in love fast, we traveled, saw the world together and loved intently and intensely.
Now I think about my ex every day, and we have gone completely no contact for 5 months. In that time I have gone through major upheavals in my professional life, and my parents are nearing their deathbeds. We haven’t talked in over 5 months and it is over, but I have to think this is related to mourning the loss of my marriage as well. If anything I learned to treat any loving relationship with the utmost care. I think I will be better off, and grateful I had a learning experience, but sad it was at the expense of someone I loved, and for a while, loved me too.
Thanks for your thoughtful note, and I’m glad this was helpful.
Trina Kirby
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