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A while ago a member of Millionaire Single Mom on Facebook said: “I'm a new mom, expecting in a few months. What POSITIVES can you tell me about single motherhood?” I responded with a few points, and invited other members to share. Here is what we said:

From me, Emma Johnson, on why being a single mom is awesome:

  • You can do what you want as a single mom. Especially if you are a solo parent, you don't have to negotiation about much at all.

Become a single mom

Maybe you are going through a divorce, got pregnant during a casual relationship, are considering becoming a single mom by choice, by adoption or fostering, or any of the other countless scenarios you can find yourself a single mom.

This can be terrifying. After all, all that responsibility of caring for and paying for a human will likely fall on you.

Single motherhood can also be exhilarating. Listen to what this woman has to say:

[Emma's note: If at all possible, find ways to collaborate, forgive and move forward with some sort of co-parenting relationship with your kids' dad. Studies find this is really what is best for kids, but it is also what is best for MOMS! You need a break, support, a second adult to share in the time, emotional, money and logistical responsibilities of raising a human!

Plus, all that free time when your kids are with their father, you can build a business or career, date, relax, exercise, volunteer or hang with your friends. More on how to successfully co-parent — even with the most toxic ex]

Advice and inspiration for single moms

Quotes from other single mamas why being a single mom is awesome:

  • “You can live…. Bloom and grow any way that you want to. There's freedom, beauty, bravery, strength and grace.” —Kim
  • “The wonderful bond you & your child will have!!!! My relationship with my daughter is AWESOME & we are extremely close. & I know single parenting is to blame.'” —Tina
  • “You get to see just how strong and smart you were all along! You will appreciate the good stuff more and forget about the distractions. You will find many people who will love and look out for you :)” —Jennifer
  • “I love that I don't have to share her! I'm already so proud of my little nugget. She has a great personality, and I'm so excited for what comes next! I can't wait to see what kind of person she becomes. I'm happy too that single motherhood I think has given me the kick in the butt I needed to really go for it. It's not just my life that my laziness affects now. I want to stand on my own two feet, and provide an awesome life for her!” —LaTonya
  • “You get to see how your family and friends will rally around to support you and your little one!” —Stacy

[How to find supportive, successful single-mom friends]

How to be a good single mom

  • “You don't have the expectation of how the other person will act/behave so don't have to face the disappointment when it doesn't look/feel like you thought it would. I don't say that to be cynical, I appreciate that I already know that I have to do it all and can prepare accordingly. Expectations of others can be a real bitch.” —Traci

[Being a single mom is hard—right?]

  • “You will fall in love with your village and yourself. It might not happen right away, but when you look back a month, 6 months, a year out…you start to say to yourself, “Hey! I can do this!” You will learn that asking for help is not a sign of weakness, but instead a sign of strength and in the asking you will learn how loved you are. I became a single mom without planning to do so and have been on my own from day 1. It was tough. There were a lot of tears and a lot self-doubt…but I have to say, once I let go of the life I thought I SHOULD have, I was able to start to fall in love with the one I never imagined.” —Ana
  • “You learn to talk to yourself, question yourself, your motives, your joys, what makes you happy, what makes you sad, you learn what works, what doesn't – you know you need to make it work for you and your little one and in that process you go way out your comfort zone and you learn so much about yourself.You know your weak spots and how to handle them and you really get to know your strengths and how to handle them. For me its just like a big network of super exciting tunnels of depth and you learn every minute. Damn, you feel alive!” —Shana

[41 things every woman should do alone in her lifetime — at least once]

  • “My relationship with my kids is very personal since I became a single mom. In the years since the divorce, I feel like my kids know “me” beyond just who I am to them as a parent. When I was married, I was part of mom and dad. Now, they see me independently. We talk about my job, my goals, even my date prospects (my 8 yo daughter likes to scrolling through e-dating prospects with me, identifying guys she think would be a good match.) Sometimes, I feel overwhelmed with the work of single parenting. But when I don't, I feel a stronger connection to my kids than I ever did before.” —Tiffany

[7 lies single moms tell themselves that keep them broke, overwhelmed and alone]

How to be a happy single mom

  • “You can pick the name, the school, the clothes. If my kid wants to play wearing my bra and a sparkly hat (which he has done) he gets to play wearing my bra and a sparkly hat. I have the most INCREDIBLE bond with my son. We are a team. We have a wonderful village (many members of which we didn't meet until after he was born, fyi, in case you are worried about your current village or lack thereof.) But we went through a lot in the beginning (prematurity, adoption complications, etc) and we are stronger for it.” —Laura
  • “It's just FUN. Single mom often carries the image of a downtrodden woman struggling to make ends meet. And while there are certainly shades of that sometimes, it is FUN. I didn't have to make dinner for anyone when he was a baby so I could sit on the couch or the floor and play with him and make faces to get him to laugh for HOURS if I wanted. Now that he's older, we can take off when we want and go to the zoo, the children's museum. We aren't accountable to anyone but us. Becoming a solo parent was THE BEST thing I could have done with my life.” —Sharon
  • “And although there have been times where I've felt overwhelmed, he is so wonderfully awesome that he reminds me every day of my very important job as his mama. I have a tattoo with an anchor and his name. He's the thing that has always motivated me to stay grounded, make the hard choices, and even if i slip up, knowing he needs me brings me back to reality to keep pushing on. He's the best thing that ever happened to me.” —Roberta
  • “You certainly become a master at time management and this skill migrates to all areas of life. The motivation to work effectively skyrockets. And my self esteem went up. Not immediately, but really soon :) .” —Stefanie
  • “You ‘know' more about relationships once you've been on both sides of love.” —Shanice
  • “Knowing more + integrating the good of what you've learned = wisdom.” —Camilla
  • “When your little one is sleeping you can do what you want, watch what you want on TV (Bravo is my lame addiction that no straight man would understand), eat what you want, not shave your legs, burp, fart, etc. You decide how to parent- no arguments on religion, diet, schools, daycare, health, etc. YOU will be an excellent role model for your child – I love the idea of a 2-parent household – but it's not always ideal – you can show your child how one person CAN do it all. Even in great relationships the person can still die – and leave you alone – so proving to your child that you can is amazing. No other person to clean up after.” —Briana
  • “You don't have to share the closet or the bed.” —Christina

[11 things I no longer give a shit about after becoming a single mom]

How to be a strong single mom

  • “I became a single mom when my oldest was 17 months and I was 5 months preggo with my second. There are struggles, to be sure, but there are so many positives too! I make the decisions and that means I get to take 100% credit for how wonderful my boys are. Proud mom here! Also, learning how to juggle, strategize, multi-task, and problem-solve makes me super confident and has extended into my work / career as well.” —Tia
  • “Travel is so much easier! Sure it's a lot to juggle, but everyone goes out of their way to help you when traveling. Also, the two of you can conquer anything, that's very empowering.” —Alex

[7 tips for taking a road trip with little kids as a single mom]

  • “No matter what, you are always stronger than you think you are. You will be amazed at what you can do.” —Nicole
  • “If you move to a town where you thought your dreams would come true… and they don't… you can pick up and try somewhere else!! There are so many positive things about being a single momma! I simply enjoy the small things, the times we share just her and I… each night after dinner when we cuddle on the couch together and talk about life… or the giggles when we're sleepy right before she falls asleep… The bond we have is so strong, it is truly like no other. And to watch her grow and thrive! She is so full of love, so happy. My heart overflows with love watching her!” —Alma
  • “I am more confident than ever before. I now know that I can accomplish anything. I can fix a leaky sink, change a car tire, but together a bike and run my own business that I never ever thought would be possible. I love that I am showing my girls that they can do anything with confidence and grace. You will be amazing and cherish every moment. Even the 3am moments as they will just be a blip in time.” —Cassie

[9 ways to feel confident when you feel old, gross and fat]

  • “One of my married best friends said she was jealous that when I had to breastfeed in the middle of the night I could turn on the lights and watch Netflix while she would carry the baby down the hallway and feed her in the dark and quiet so she wouldn't wake her husband up. A little thing but a perk! I also think as a single mom my friends and family really rally to make a community for my son when friends or family may not become as involved as much with married parents to avoid intruding or stepping on toes. I also think being a single mom gives me the incentive to make plans and do lots of activities with other people whereas my 4 married siblings seem to stay home with the kids and spouse. I feel like it has made my son really outgoing and open to new experiences and people.” —Sandra

Single mom quotes

  • “I never have to explain or justify my parenting decisions. I get to show the kids what I think love is without it being tempered by someone else.” —Amanda
  • “You get to create your own special traditions that are YOURS and yours alone with your child. You will come to find that you are surrounded by so much love and support, more than you ever thought was possible. It takes a village to raise a child and you will find your village. When you do, your heart will be so full and your child will be loved and cared for by so many. As your child gets older they will articulate their love for you and something in you will feel like bursting…with pride, inexplicable happiness, love…or as my 5 year old said to me, “Mama, I love you more than I can feel.” That right there makes all the challenging days worth it. The bond you will create with your child and have created while they have been in the womb will be one that no one can ever replicate. It is beyond special and your child feels it…each and every day!” Jenn

[Single mom holiday manifesto]

  • “People tell me all the time what a great little girl she is and guess what?! Here's the best part of parenting alone……I did that. No one but me gets the credit for raising a kickass little person.” — Jessica
  • “When you aren't distracted by a relationship, it is SO much easier to understand what you need to do and devise a plan to do it. I found being single to be extremely motivating, and that I could realize my goals so much more easily. Logistics can still be hard, but when a relationship isn't healthy, or is just distracting, it can be even harder. Also, I found that in a relationship, because of the patriarchal society we live in, I could feel a palpable pressure to be more focused on my boyfriend's success, and that it was more important than my own. No more of that now!” —Monique

How to make it as a single mom

  • “You and others will be awe-struck by your strength and perseverance.

[7 ways single moms can get their financial act together this year and beyond!]

[Emma's note: consider therapy—including online counseling. Connect with certified therapists via text, phone, video or email, and choose from thousands of professionals, including those who can legally prescribe medications. Prices with online therapy site BetterHelp start at $40 weekly for unlimited therapy, and a free 7-day trial. No travel time or babysitter required! All great options for single moms! My list of Top 7 online therapy sites]

  • “I wish I had known about all of this when I found out I was pregnant 13 years ago. I was so scared! No one had much positive to say to support me at all. Listen to the advice of these ladies! It may seem overwhelming, but you seriously can do this! You will have such a special bond with your child, that no one else will have or can replace! You get to what you want, how you want, when you want! You get to make the best choices for your child!!! All you need is some family and great girl friends to stand beside you, and you have all that you need!!!”

[15 ways to be a financially successful single mom]

[Top 13 highly paid work-at-home careers that are great for moms!]

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About Emma Johnson

Wealthysinglemommy.com founder  Emma Johnson is an award-winning business journalist, activist and author. A former Associated Press reporter and MSN Money columnist, Emma has appeared on CNBC, New York Times, Wall Street Journal, NPR, TIME, The Doctors, MONEY, O, The Oprah Magazine. Winner of Parents magazine’s “Best of the Web” and a New York Observer “Most Eligible New Yorker," her #1 bestseller, The Kickass Single Mom (Penguin), was a New York Post Must Read. A popular speaker, Emma presented at the United Nations Summit for Gender Equality. Emma's Top Single Mom Resources.

33 Comments

  1. Mina on February 4, 2020 at 5:27 pm

    Almost midnight… I am a single mother of two, by choice. To add insult to the injury, I even paid for sperm donation.
    I’m not rich. My kids have all they need, but I’m certainly not the kind that drives expensive cars.
    I wouldn’t be so sure about being able to date as you wish. I did have the best sex while being a single mom, but this is not something you get every day. Every day, you get diapers.
    I agree about people confiding in me. I am seen as a menace (how can women survive without men?!), with envy (she gets to be free and I don’t), and as a hero (she did it!). The combination is not at all successful, as I get a lot of backlash especially from the first two categories.
    On the other hand, I must admit, every time I see people divorce, and the filth that comes with the child custody battles, I congratulate myself for having had the brains to stay alone.
    When we go on holidays, and we cross the border, I don’t have to show any papers to justify I’m not stealing the kids. I can see sometimes the hatred on the customs officers’ faces, when they realize I don’t obey anyone, and I don’t need anyone’s approval to travel (it’s Western Europe I’m talking about, not an Islamic country).
    On a global note, I don’t think there were many times I felt sorry for my choice, but there certainly were many times when I felt happy with my choice.
    As time goes by, and I see the misery of others, I start realizing how many things I have, that they don’t, and never will.
    Evenings are not adult time. Evenings are for the children. We watch cartoons.
    Free time is to talk about school, about my eldest son’s girl friend, about the activities we’ll plan for the weekend. This debate is between me and the children, not between me and another adult, and then the kids would better follow. And when they go to sleep, I’m done and I can go to sleep, too.
    We play at the playgrounds. We do “pencil battles”. We’re not on the clock when doing this, and there’s no one stomping behind me to put the kids to sleep faster, so we can “do our stuff”.
    I don’t have to find places to drop them so I can have ‘adult time’.
    To sum it up, I get my time and time with them, and that’s it. There’s so much more time to do things, when you divide time only between two sets of interests, rather than three.
    Some argue, on one hand you win time, on the other you lose time, because you don’t have someone to share chores with. While this is valid for functional relationships, such relationships are a minority, not a majority- in spite of appearances. And at a totally cynical level, it’s cheaper to get someone to clean the house once a week, than to waste hours everyday trying to make work something that is fundamentally dysfunctional.
    There’s also the argument, if you couldn’t get prince charming, it’s because you’re not a good woman. Doesn’t hold really, the issue is a lot deeper, what we want at 20, we might not want at 40, and, statistically, the chance that 2 people change the exact same way, is very slim. In fact, there’s a lower divorce rate within categories where people don’t change.
    Finally, there’s one more thing I feel worthy of mentioning, there’s a huge difference between being alone, and becoming alone. For me, there is no loss, and no trauma. This is how I am, this is how we live. My kids are old enough to see they have everything kids with two parents have, maybe even more for them, as they don’t share the mother with another adult. It’s not the same when you become alone. My neighbor just moved in, she’s divorcing. She’s all about loss. About what she had and doesn’t have anymore. About how to cover for the loss the children feel. This is a lot harder than starting out single, and the worst part in this cases is that women transition from the financial security of a marriage to having to pull their own weight. When you do this (pull your weight) all your life, it’s nothing special. When you start doing it at 40 or 50, it’s a lot more difficult.

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  4. Jesse Murphy on July 28, 2017 at 5:03 pm

    Yes!!! I so agree. Us single moms rock!!!

  5. Independent woman on May 11, 2017 at 8:48 pm

    Only those who experience being single moms can relate …. love this ! And to all the haters out there ….get a life bc mothers/moms can do it all these days !!

    • Lola on July 11, 2018 at 7:05 pm

      Yes we can

    • Tina on April 28, 2019 at 12:51 pm

      Yes! I do it all, and I don’t feel stressed or overwhelmed! In contrast, I think I WOULD feel overwhelmed if I had to cater to a man’s needs on top of my childrens’ needs.

  6. pam on February 17, 2017 at 8:28 am

    Well i have to say as a single mummy to 4 amazing children i found this post god awful to read and very disgraced if anyone has this reality as a single mum i mean come off it you get to do what u want when u want??? Really i cant take a shit in peace……you get to decide their name school etc…..so no father involved then?? Shamefull….my children love and respect their father and he has parental rights so has been and will be involved in all of these aspects…..you get to have awesome sex with whoever whenever??? Clearly im missing out NOT have some god damn reapect for yourself!! As a single parent of 4 amazing kids my kids come first i made that choice i chose to have my children and i will raise them to be the best they can be……when u have children its no longer about u!!!! Its about them i found this post to be very selfish all i saw was me, i, my….. i will never be this self centered parent…… real life of a single mummy….up at 6am get the kids organised get breakfast, their teeth brushed faces washed nappies changed for the baby…. get to school on time….home do washing, make beds do chores….get dinner preped… i run an at home cake business so may have to make a cake to pay some bills…. grocery shopping…..pick tribe up from school take them to gymnastics, cadettes… home get dinner…..homework….playtime….baths…. let them watch some tv until dishes are done….bedtime story then sleep at 8pm… this is where u run about like a lunitic…. have a coffee….run a bath….hoover…..pack school bags…organise clothes…..make sure shoes are polished….lunches done and in fridge….go in a bath and get to bed to get up and do it all again tomorrow…… when my children are away i catch up on ironing….make meals wash all their bedding so they come home to nice clean sheets….more grocery shopping…..might watch a movie but always fall asleep 10 minutes after it starts…..prepare to feel overwhelmed at times….prepare to feel tired and prepare to feel like your failing sometimes but ur not!! As for dating……not a chance i dont have time for it right now and i am happily content with that as i have my children and they need me more than i need a man……the real account of single motherhood from a more realistic point of view!!!!

    • Laurie on May 2, 2017 at 10:04 pm

      wow thanks a lot for taking any good or positive points out of being a single parent. I read a lot more here than being able to sleep with whoever you want!! Why didn’t you just tell everyone to go slit their wrists you damn negative nancy!!!!!

    • Ina on June 28, 2017 at 9:39 pm

      Sometimes the father doesnt want to be involve in the parenting. why she says pick up the school and those stuff. This is her and the baby. Maybe you are lucky enough to have a good relationship and kids respect their father and love him. Not everyone is that lucky and have to deal with motherhood completely alone

    • Tina on April 28, 2019 at 11:52 am

      You’re this busy, and you’re polishing shoes??

      I grew up with both parents, and my father was the best dad ever. Unfortunately, my ex husband didn’t step up to that role, and the thing is that for us, as women, gone are the “some day my prince will come” times when we have to wait for that prince to marry us in order for us to have children… and then finding out he’s really the devil in prince’s clothing. Some of us wait too long for that prince, and then can’t get pregnant because our eggs are too old! Carpe Diem, ladies! If you’re lucky enough to find that prince who adds great things to your life, then that’s a wonderful thing. But don’t hold out for him – they don’t make men like they used to.

    • Luigi on September 4, 2019 at 1:30 pm

      This is amazing! I am a stay at home dad and this resonates with me.

    • Xochilt Pasos on December 24, 2019 at 1:04 pm

      You missed the point of this article, Grinch. It was about looking for the positives in a situation that could be so difficult and stressful! It was about women lifting up other women when it’s most needed.

  7. Travis on February 9, 2017 at 9:50 pm

    Everyone of these items is either selfish as hell or nonsensical… me me me me….

  8. Eliza on December 12, 2016 at 9:14 pm

    I get married at 18, right after my first daughter was born. She was so beautiful and sweet, she certainly did my days happier.
    As a teen, she became a smart, independent and brave little woman, until her dad started to belittle her. He’d call her fat and laugh at every single dream she had, saying she’d never be able to do that.
    It broke my heart every single time I saw the pain in her eyes, because she idolized her father so much.
    At the age of 14, my little princess, Casey, ran away. Took months to find her, and when we managed to get her back, she decided to move to her grandparents’ house, because she called our house “toxic”. After that, she stopped talking to us and we rarely saw her.
    I got divorced and never will forgive him for pushing me away from my daughter.
    I remarried and had five beautiful babies: four boys and a girl. We got divorced and I became a single mom. Best choice ever.
    The dad is still around but I’m mainly in charge, and it’s great. My kids are so happy and I wish I could have gave my daughter that opportunity.
    My girl is now a mom of her own and we are trying to fix our relationship, but it’s not easy.
    Anyway, what I mean is: SINGLE MOTHERHOOD ROCKS!!
    You can raise your kids how you want to, have sex with whoever you want to (bye, “is he the one?” pressure) and being able to leave your kids with daddy when you want to have a break.
    Love your blog Emma, it helped me so many times with my kids in the last couple years. Stay awesome!
    Xx

  9. Salina on May 17, 2016 at 7:28 pm

    Encouraging to women everywhere!

  10. MsNikki on January 18, 2016 at 4:03 pm

    I laughed and cried at this, I can relate to it all. I remember feeling terrified two and a half years ago the night before I gave birth. This post would have been perfect in that moment. Taking on single parenthood – albeit finding yourself thrown unexpectedly in the deep end – truly is the most rewarding personal journey you can ever venture on. The challenges make the successes that much more sweet.

    • Emma on January 19, 2016 at 4:06 pm

      Well said – glad this resonated. xxx

    • jenifer on December 10, 2016 at 12:57 am

      you dumb bitch its not cool or good to be a single mom.

      • Lola on July 11, 2018 at 6:59 pm

        Someone is bitter!! Not every woman needs the security blanket of a man to be a great mother

        • William on May 22, 2019 at 1:09 am

          That may be true, but the statistical effects on Society are plain as day: households with 2 parents do better across the board. And there are those politically motivated to accelerate the destruction of the family.

          • Ang on February 4, 2020 at 7:10 am

            Your statistical information is incorrect. Children are best raised in a loving supportive environment. Trauma shrinks children’s brains and one of the biggest issues in families is Domestic Violence. Nearly one in two relationships at a point in time. You also no one person can complete another. I love all the positive quotes and feedback. People should be valued on who they are and their values not on their titles. Single Mums rock.

      • Bea on July 13, 2018 at 2:26 am

        You missed the point jenifer, but for sure this paragraph…”There were a lot of tears and a lot self-doubt…but I have to say, once I let go of the life I thought I SHOULD have, I was able to start to fall in love with the one I never imagined.” Nobody said that being a single mom is “cool”, this is an article about support , love and finding beauty in being a single Mom. You are a sad girl jenifer.

    • Cheryl on April 28, 2017 at 11:43 pm

      Thank you so much for this article it helped decrease my fear and increase my strength and excitement for me and my 8 month old nugget

    • Tom on February 8, 2018 at 1:17 pm

      Single most reliable indicator of poverty in the US.

      • visnja on April 24, 2018 at 2:20 am

        I genuinly hope this trend of young children being left for whatever the reason to be raised by only one parent ceases, our culture here in states has never seen so much hardship for children are basically not as happy and eventually will seek and want the other parent and also experience deep insecurities about themselves simply because the other parent was not in their lives, kids feel something is wrong and automatically feel it is their fault the other parent is not around and in their lives.
        TO THE author of this article my dear friend and fellow mother, you should truly desire for your child to get to have the other parent in their lives as no matter how imperfect they may be, their presence will add tremendeous stability and confidence in your child and your little nugget would feel complete knowing there is that very important connection in their lives, never berate the importance of two parents…. or life will never have been rigged that way … Visnja

        • Ang on February 4, 2020 at 7:16 am

          It depends on the circumstances. I disagree with your comments. You can always show good examples of good marriages to show how parents should relate to one another. If one parents commits a crime against their own child will you place your child in trauma?

      • Tina on April 28, 2019 at 11:43 am

        Um, the blog is called “WEALTHY Single Mommy.” Some of us are fortunate enough to be wealthy without being reliant upon a man’s income, and it’s so empowering and so freeing. I love being a single mom. I wouldn’t do it any other way.

      • Ang on February 4, 2020 at 7:24 am

        Really, well I know lots of Single Mothers who are really wealthy. I guess it depends on whether they choose to create the life they dream of or choose to be victims. There are many people like that, not just single Mums.

    • visnja on April 24, 2018 at 2:10 am

      This article is SAD at very best, trying to make the single parenting into this beautiful thing which naturally is not. This mother if she really thinks as genuine parent will not say or think ” I am so happy not to share my nugget with the other parent “. So many reasons to explain why other parent is not needed, if that is the case we all will be raised ideally with only mom and dad and be without other parent our most formative and most important time of our lives. How could you glorify single parenting, it is not true!!
      Ideally we know truth is kids do best with both biological parents, definitely, without fail. Kids need both mom and dad. They DO. This is the fact. Lets simply acknowledge this. If we end up without the other spouse for whatever reason and alone in raising our child we certainly do our best we certainly try to compensate for those things the other parent would do.

      • Emma on April 27, 2018 at 2:45 pm

        Shame on you to judge. No one is glorifying single parenting, and in most cases it is not the desired plan, but it happens. A toxic relationship between parents in front of children is far more damaging- I think many can concur given the low rates of divorce in the past! Single motherhood is filled with tons of work, guilt, struggles- but with the right support system and attitude, it can be liberating and positives for the mother and for the children. A happy parent makes for happy children. I agree- how the parents handle the separation and communication to child is vital for the child well being- and it would be encouraged (if possible) for both parents to take a co-parenting class or even counseling. However, for your comment, it was hurtful to me and I’m sure many women, but I wont give it another thought after this and Ill tell you why. Getting out of my marriage was both the toughest and best decision I have ever made in my life for BOTH me and my kids. I’m proud that they will see a happier me and their dad, see the strength in both of us, and not be exposed to dysfunctional relationship/family life just for the sake of having two parents @ home and to satisfy society and people like you! Shame, shame, shame

        • Lola on July 11, 2018 at 7:02 pm

          Well said, where do people get hay a child wants both parents when they are creating a living hell…

      • Dominique on January 12, 2020 at 4:36 pm

        No one said single parenting is beautiful or good for he kids involved. Of course is best for kids to grow with both parent figures. If your marriage is happy and harmonious. But when you have no other choice because your husband doesn’t work for 6 years, no plans to look for a job, only watches porn and football all day when he around, rejects you sexually for years, rejects you emotionally , gets angry at you without you knowing the reason, stops talking to you and give you the cold shoulder for more than 10 days, disappears for up to 3 months and lives you alone with the baby when you have to overcome an operation at that time, at the last moment he dicides to take the flight for our vacations and the only way you got pregnant was via IVF because he does touch you. What kind of example your kid is getting? To live in a disfuctional marriage? Is that better that being a single mother? I found this article empowering, because when you are already in a huge dark hole and want to get out of it because you have lost all yourselve esteem, your dignity, your will and hope. What one neess is the positive things from other single mothers and what they say. I personally think this article has inspired me to get out of my dark hole. Where I have to pay everything, take care of my baby all by myself, where I am neglected and emotionally abused. While my husband watches porn and football all day long or simply is not there. I just wanted to hear it is possible to be happy as a single mom. I prefer to be a happy single mother than a miserable wife that has to do everything, work and pay everything while my husband is in complete denial. Thank you for the post .

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