164 thoughts on “Should you sell your engagement ring after your divorce?

  1. I would do the same in your situation.

    However, its probably a good thing to “shop around” rather than going straight to these big businesses. You may find that a local jewelers may offer you a much better price than these companies which often give you a lower price in exchange for the speed and ease of sale.

    1. Yes, shop around. But I would recommend a chain business for lower-end jewelry or scraps — jewelers don’t want to deal with it and it may not be worth your time to schlep around to different ones (or pawn shops) for what may be a small sum of money.

    2. When I had some jewelry to sell, I visited three pawn shops in succession. I live in NYC, so they are plentiful. If the first one offered $300, I went to the next one, and said I had an offer for $330. By benchmarking and inflating a bit (assuming that the first offer from each shop was just a negotiation starter), I was able to get 20% more than the initial offer. I didn’t smile or make conversation – just stated with a flat expression the offer and what I wanted. It was surprising fast and easy.

    3. You should always shop around. Your goal is to receive the best value (return) for your diamond pieces. I wold also check out a company named MJ Gabel. I had a large diamond ring they had helped me with.

    4. MJ gabel is BBB accredited and also recommended by several other organizations.
      The experience can be awful if you cannot find the right company to help you. Like I said, MJ Gabel was fabulous.

    5. I don’t see where to post what I’m doing with my rings, so I hope you don’t that I put it here. I’m recently divorced after trying to live in hell after 12 years. The first 5-7 were good. Anyhow, I’ve got to get these rings out of my life. I contacted a jeweler, and he plans to make the solitaire into a pendant necklace. I am going to get a lock box at the bank to store it in and give it to my daughter upon her college graduation. That way, its not in my new home and life. She can wear it or sell it if she needs the money. The band is narrow with small diamonds. The jeweler is making a list of options for me to choose from as far as that. I may just sell it for the little amount that its worth or even trade it for something that I want or can use as another gift for my daughter. I am definitely going to get rid of both. I feel as though they are 100% mine, so if I needed the money from the engagement ring, I would keep it and use it on me. Thankfully I don’t. Anyway, that’s my story.

      1. That is a thoughtful thing to do … my only concern is that we don’t know what the value of the diamond will be when your daughter is out of college – they could be worth much more now.

      2. Sometimes there still holds emotional value to pieces for all sorts of parties involved I’m sure your daughter will appreciate and cherish it. If you decide to part with any pieces I stumbled upon a company MJ Gabel a few years back when trying to part with a few old rings as well as get a new upgraded ring. They are a very compassionate company, one of the few I found that really I felt gave an honest opinion on everything including sentiment not just wanting to get the best price for themselves. I really felt they looked out for my best interest as a consumer and someone not having much knowledge of diamonds they educated me and guided me to get the best absolute price for my rings; as well as helped me to get a great price on a new ring! Highly recommend over a lot of these large conglomerate companies where you become just a number and a dollar sign! Best wishes, and good luck!!

    1. I love that! I sold my $425 first engagement ring on Craigslist for $175 and took the money straight to the blackjack table and lost it all. I know how bizzare that sounds, but it felt awesome.

  2. Yes I still have mine. In the bottom of a drawer somewhere. My wedding band is an heirloom of my ex’s family. It was fused to my engagement ring after we were married. While I would have no problem selling my engagement ring, I feel I owe my ex’s family the courtesy of giving them the wedding ring back. But first, I’d have to go through the hassle of finding and paying someone to separate the rings again. Overall, the value of both rings is likely only $1000 total, so this isn’t really on my list of priorities.

  3. My final hearing is in 13 days (but whose counting?) I still have mine but have been planning to sell it as soon as the divorce is final. I’m going to pool the money I get for it with the proceeds from the sale of some other items I am getting in the settlement (of considerably more value) to buy a little center console boat that I can use to take my son out fishing and skiing. It’s a beautiful ring, just my style and wonderful, but I am with you, I can’t wait to turn those bad memories it into money (regardless of how little it may bring!)

  4. Hi Emma. I love your blog. I too am a divorced single mother. I sold my engagement ring and took my kids on their first cruise last April with the money I made from the ring. I wanted to do something with the money that the kids would enjoy. ..and they did. It was a memorable vacation. This weekend, I am going to Puerto Rico with girlfriends to celebrate a friend’s 50th birthday. I sold a few other pieces of jewelry my ex gave me to fund the trip. I found that the more I rid myself and my home of things that were “ours” or that my ex gave me, the more distance I am able to put between the happy person I am now and the unhappy person I was when I was married to my ex.

    1. I’m loving every single thing you wrote. Some people commented on the FB page about using the stones and redesigning it into another piece of jewelry. Suit yourself, but the center of those “new” pieces is still the old, sentimental gems.

  5. The main diamond in my engagement ring was given to my husband by his mother to make into a new ring when we got engaged. My in-laws had a nasty divorce and a terrible marriage. Before we got engaged, my now husband asked me “do you think that a diamond ring from a divorced couple is cursed?” I thought about it briefly and said “not if the diamond is made into a new ring.” I knew where the question came from and that the diamond had already been taken out of the ring (the gold was melted down and made into something new). I also knew it was a nice diamond (and yes, nicer than anything he could afford on his own). When I look at my beautiful platinum ring (I’ve had the ring for 18 years), I do not feel any bad karma. I know the history of that diamond, from when my MIL’s MIL bought it for her son’s engagement (a whole other twisted story), to my MIL making new jewelry out her ring – a pin with the big diamond, and a necklace with smaller diamond accents. She offered the diamond to my husband even before we started dating, and happily took it out of the pin to hand it down to the next generation. It makes her happy to see it on me.

    I totally understand why you sold your jewelry, Emma, and it sounds like it was the right thing for you to do. For my MIL, who still has bad feelings about her ex-husband/marriage 25 years later (she’s happily remarried) the right decision was to melt down the ring and reuse the parts separately. There’s no universal right answer, only individual ones. This was a great topic for your post and I’m enjoying the other responses.

    1. This is a sweet story, but an anomalous one. Glad your ring has given you and others (including the MIL) joy. For most of us, just sell it already. :)

  6. Ha! I had to read because of my opposite story. I’m glad you put your past to practical use. I still have the gold wedding band which I chipped in money to buy and I thought about selling it for gold value– thankfully, I haven’t been that desperate for money (yet). But interestingly, the “engagement ring” I have was bought from my dad who bought it cheap from my sister’s friend when she was going through divorce from an abusive husband (yeah, talk about jewelry karma). It has diamond “dust” on it. I might get $50 for the gold value. When I was married over 10 years and my ex was earning six figures, he surprised me with upgrading the laughable engagement ring. There was a Kmart going out of business and he got a good deal on 10k gold cz ring. Yup! Doubt I’d get $20 for it second hand. But you go ladies!

    BTW: I saw in the discovery documents during my divorce that less than two months after my ex moved out, he bought a $6000 engagement ring online. Looks like the mistress got all the respect he was saving up from me. Whah, whah, whah!

  7. Yes, I agree that getting rid of ring was what I needed to do. It was an ornate vintage ring and my sister always told me that she thought it was beautiful. So, I gave it away to someone who now adores it the way it should be loved, just for it’s beauty.

  8. Hi Emma,
    I took rings (his…which he never wore) my 3 (including Anniv. Ring) and the few other pieces worth selling to a reputable Pawn Shop (aka I know the owners:)) Then I ceremoniously mailed half of the little bounty to ex, including a copy of the receipt. Even took pictures ensuring no snap could come back on me. It was very liberating and by continuing to take the high road, my children witness a grown-up.
    Thanks for your messages.

      1. I feel that the engagement ring is a gift and there’s no reason to give it back or the value of it back. That money was hers to keep.

        I’m having trouble getting anyone to buy my 1/2 carat beautiful ring! I’m not being greedy about it, but I was told to sell it used on EBay or Craigslist, which I’ll do. And I do need the money right now, but more importantly, I want it out of my life and clean, clear karma, all the way.

  9. I wore mine for two years after my divorce, until a friend asked me why I was still wearing them. That day, I took them off, and put them in my jewellery box, and the day after that I was burgled and they were stolen along with other pieces that my ex had given me over the years.

    I had the insurance money in the form of a card to use in different jewellers for two years. In those two years, I worehardly any jewellery. and realised we don’t actually need these adornments. Anyway, eventually I did get round to spending it, I tried on an eternity ring just like my old one and had this instant gut reaction against it. It immediately reminded me of the bad end to the marriage, and also of the burglary. End result, I bought something totally different, that I really love, and which is bringing me much pleasure…… and I’ve got a burglar alarm to keep me and my kids safe.

      1. I am getting a divorce after 30 years, I was trying to decide what to do with my engagement ring and wedding ring, didn’t know if I should go to a pawn shop or what.

        1. I’m getting a divorce after 35 years with this man–I feel your pain Valerie!! I took my rings off & put them in my safe a few weeks back. Just spoke with a jeweler and he said when I’m ready we can remove all the stones from whatever pieces I want to get rid of (I’ll probably include his ring since he never wore his anyway) and play around with the loose stones to decide how I want to custom make some earrings & possibly a necklace with the centerstone. He’ll buy all the gold from me since they don’t reuse the gold in your new piece anymore. He said I’ll never get the money my diamonds are worth by selling them outright and quite frankly mine are worth too much. I’m thinking about getting this done ASAP before our divorce is finalized so I can have it paid for on his credit cards!!!

          1. You must be the worst example on here not only do you want to sell the rings he bought for you but his ring and keep all the money.

            All single men should read this article and attached thread to see what sort of people the ones they love can turn into.

            1. Gary – You seem really hurt by all of this which makes me think this must be very personal for you too. An engagement ring or wedding ring is a promise of marriage; once the marriage occurs the promise is fulfilled and the ring is seen as a gift from one party to the other. No recipient of a gift is bound to return it, even if the relationship ends.

              Yes, men and women should be aware that in a divorce, the gifts, including rings given to another belong to the recipient. There’s no right to half or something similar under the law or even under morality. When you truly love someone, even if that love ends, you don’t care about the return of the gifts you gave them; and you especially don’t care if they sell it to make ends meet. You realize that maybe those old gifts were deserved and you let go.

              I hope you are able to let go of your pain at some point.

            2. Gary,
              The engagement ring is a gift and the man is not owed money back. Plus she received that gift 35 years ago! And she should give money back! She just said she can’t get the money back. Gold scrap is not worth that much. I’m going through the same thing, though I only have a 1/2 carat, though very beautiful, ring. My ex-husband returned to school, finished his undergraduate degree at 38, and started medical school at age 40. I was 2/3 support through undergrad and the sole provider throughout medical school. By residency, he wanted a divorce. This is not an uncommon story. Don’t judge when you don’t know her story. She probably earned every freaking cent as a wife. I know I did, though I walked away with very little.

            3. Agree Gary. My story is a little different, after my wife moved from our abandoning me and our children, I’d successfully nabbed both engagement and wedding ring, along with the beautiful pave diamond ring that I’d purchased for her 49th birthday. Some of the money from the sale went towards lawyers, fees, which was a great help in fighting to have my X wife pay me child support in $1440 a month, all calculated by the courts disso-master. The remaining money went towards payment of my new Omega Seasmaster Chronograph watch.
              Though the divorce is not completely finalized, another until first week in November, it was to my satisfaction that that money went to good use. The spousal support, which is absurd, considering that she got caught cheating, and I have to pay her for it, will offset the child support she pays me. I’ll still be losing in funds in the long run, but I’ve got a nice new watch and a brand new home to admire, not to mention the kids are with me everyday..

            4. If he cheated and was the one to cause the divorce, she should be able to do whatever. Men think they can destroy marriages and still reap rewards!

  10. I used mine as the down payment for a car that I really needed after my divorce. It took me a year to make up my mind to get rid of the ring, and just a week to sell it with this auction https://www.worthy.com/sell-jewelry/engagement-ring
    All the people closest to me tried to persuade me to pass it on to my little princess when she gets older. They kept telling me that it kind of belongs to her, but I really didn’t want to see that symbol of my unhappiness on her hand! I am more than happy to hear that I am not alone and that you also did the same.
    Emma, thank you for the support and inspiration that I receive from your articles!

    1. Hi Maria – you did the right thing because it was right for you! You don’t owe your kid that ring, and it having it around dragged you down, good riddance. Good for you and happy driving!

    2. You could have passed it on to the man who paid for it. I am sure you have said before during and after your divorce that you wanted nothing to do with him, well nothing to do with him other than keeping the money you get for the ring he bought because you were getting maried

      1. Sorry Gary, a gift is a gift. If you give someone you love(d) something, it belongs to them. There are exceptions to this — such as family heirlooms and breaking off an engagement. If one actually walked down the aisle with someone and had every intent on having a real marriage and it didn’t work out, you don’t get to ask for your gifts back. I think it’s funny how men on this thread are acting as though women are just taking them for their money. Grow up.

        1. I have to agree with the men in this case, and I am a woman. An engagement ring is a symbol of an agreement to share your life with one another. It is not simply a gift, such as a birthday, Christmas or other gift. And why are women not expected to do the same? This old tradition is really a joke. Not only is a man expected to be the one to spend the money for an engagement ring but then when the marriage fails, the woman is okay with keeping this? I gave mine to my ex when we ended the marriage. The ring was only mine when we shared our lives. And how about the man who gives the engagement ring that is a family heirloom? No different. It needs to go back to the man. Come on ladies, stop being so selfish. If you want a ring so bad still….work and buy your own!!!

          1. I was told that a ring given as a ‘gift’, on a birthday, Chritsmas, etc, is and remains a gift. A gift is not returned when the primuse is broken. And that a ring given as a token of promise of love/marriage, is returned if the promise is broken. My source my not be correct, I always felt that it was fair.

  11. The engagement ring is the first big thing a guy pays for in marriage, and he keeps paying for bigger and BIGGER things after that. This is the arena where feminism often fails to show any of the “equality” women seek with men. We men pay for most everything, then she divorces us, and we continue to pay.

    While I’m all for a woman getting paid to do the exact same job I do (not the parts she likes while she gets out of working weekends and taking on-call “because of the kids), and I’m completely cool helping around the house (as long as she can stop nagging), I see women only want the parts of feminism where they benefit financially, but also want to retain the traditional parts of relationships where they also benefit. – like the guy to go broke buying that engagement ring that she then also wants to get money for after she (likely) initiated the divorce. Typical

    1. I hate to say it, well, actually I don’t hate to say it, but I do I agree with DarthW.

      As a woman wanting across the board equality, why should I get a wedding dress that costs thousands of dollars that I’m only going to use once, and my groom rents a tux? Again, why am I, or what makes me, entitled to a multi thousand dollar engagement ring, and my fiancé gets what? Nothing. The same for all the various anniversary gifts, that tend to be jewelry. (And let’s be real honest here, when it comes to individual expenses, our clothes, especially shoes, cost a lot as well.)

      Where and how do I balance my desire for male chivalry, wanting a man to open the door for me, but then when we enter the boardroom I expect him to treat me as his equal?

      If we (women) want to be taken seriously, then as my husband likes to say, we’re going to have to “step up to the plate” (that’s the only part he says, the rest is me) and start giving up some of these indulgences for the equality we’re seeking. Marriage is like any business transaction, in that in order to be successful, there is going to have to be give-and-take from both parties that costs averages out in however we all assess and value our desires.

      That’s why, when my husband gave me an engagement ring, I gave him an engagement watch. For my wedding dress, I just bought a nice dress from Nordstrom and my husband bought himself a nice suit. Every year we go on a vacation together, and every other year (rotating between us) we’ll take a smaller vacation by ourselves with friends. So far it’s working out, and if it ever gets to a point that it doesn’t, then we’re pretty much already equally, and equitably, all divied up!

        1. I still have mine and don’t know that I will sell it. We are separated and have been for a long time. He refuses to file for divorce so he can still have control over me . I will most likely have it made into something else along with diamonds from wedding band& anniversary ring. Monetarily he did pay for those rings but I paid with Blood Sweat and tears LITERALLY. I Made him a home, raised our children, took a lesser job with less hours so I could work & be home for our family. For all this He cheated repeatedly and left after 25 years. So I do not agree… I earned those rings and I will be damned if I ever feel he is entitled to anything given to me throughout our marriage.

            1. Really, “bitter”?? What a nasty, sour comment of yourself to make about someone! WOW. I wouldn’t call Lori “bitter” simply because she is stating the facts that she was married to someone for TWENTY FIVE YEARS for the love of God, whose only thanks was to lie & cheat on her repeatedly. She sacrificed and dedicated her life to him and her children and got nothing but a slap in the face in return. Just because she’s making a “HELL NO” comment about a situation regarding the return of the rings (which, HELLOO, no way would that even be in the realm of possibility given the length of the marriage and the circumstances) does not make her “bitter.” It makes a wise woman who perhaps has learned that ol’ adage, “Fool me once, shame on you . . . fool me twice, shame on ME.” And, might I add, shame on YOU, Emma, for this snarky comment. Her first step in healing will be surrounding herself with people who understand why she might feel angry and betrayed — obviously you’re not one of them! :o

      1. I’m going to disagree. I just got divorced a month ago and my husband left me with $20,000 of debt. I got NOTHING out of the divorce. NOTHING and I’m paying EVERYTHING. If I get $150 from a couple of rings what’s the harm? AND not EVERY husband pays for EVERYTHING. I paid for a lot of stuff and extra money to make sure bills were paid be because he didn’t give a sh*t sometimes. So stop generalizing. It works both ways.

    2. Right — except:
      I bought a nice dress off the rack at a dept store for $400. He bought a new tux for $1000
      Yes, he paid for the engagement ring but we jointly paid for the wedding rings.
      He earned more during the marriage — and spent it all (mine and his – we always had joint accounts) gambling.
      Now he wants joint/equal custody of the kids but can’t provide a stable home and cant/wont pay any child support (going on 3 years now). Tell me again why I don’t deserve equality in the workplace so that I can continue to support myself and my children. Good thing the executives at the male-run company I work for don’t think the way you do or I’d be homeless.

      1. And I’ll add – women may need to step up but men need to grow up and take more responsibility for their children.

        He can have his ring back: it was cheap then, not worth much now, and he’ll use it to gamble.

    3. I don’t agree with the BS comment that men pay for almost everything. I have a great job and pay my own way in life. And BTW, I not only paid for my ex husband’s ring but I also paid a decent portion of my own. Not only that, but I also supported my ex husband for the first 6 months of our marriage then he turned into a liar and a cheater, so I really don’t appreciate the fact that men come on here and generalize that the men pay for everything because that is not always the case!

    4. Not all men pay for every thing my husband lost his job and was unemployed for 2 years, while I busted my ass for those 2 years working 3 jobs to make ends meet and still had to make dinner and lunches and clean and do laundry! Those years were exhausting!! But we survived and are still together I’m not sure how but I’m sure God had it all figured out! So women bust ass too Gary!!

  12. Yes, these things have power, but keep in mind that the diamond market is corrupt, so you won’t get anything near what the ring originally cost. That’s why I’d go for resetting the diamond.

  13. I’m surprised how non-black-and-white laws are regarding marital rings. In general, it seems unless a ring belonged to the ex’s family, it’s the wife’s to keep as it was a “pre-marital” gift. Engagmement rings, by nature are “pre-marital”…but NOT ALWAYS. I was married for 27 years. We had met in college and bought a $1000 rig from our joint account. My husband’s business thrived …and we lived well below our means (thanks to him, had no idea of $$$ until we split) and decades after he could afford it….I got, for CHRISTMAS (“and valentines, and anniversary, and birthday as most gifts covered years of gift obligations in his eyes) a really nice really PRICEY new ring. Unlike a lot of the micro pave and halo stuff that add carats but little value, I have found that a simple high quality solitaire stone is much more valuable in resell market (lucky for me) at one point during the divorce he petitioned to have my jewelry (all of it….all pieces that would constitute a year or two’s worth of jewelry) included in the property split. Now, engagement rings are pretty secure (unless previously belonging to groom’s family) but “remounts or upgraded ENGAEMENT rings can, come into play when dividing assets. The fact these were also “gifts” really doesn’t mean they are the wife’s property exclusively. I refused, told him if a judge mandated I would do it (of course) but he wanted no part of going in front of judge. Everyone asks what I’m going to do with it. I kind of agree with the bad mojo stuff. But I am happy to say I will be remarrying, and am drawn to older estate rings…they might have stayed married more back in the day…but I bet they have plenty of bad mojo too! for now, I’m sitting on it. I like a valuable, easily liquidated asset ? we’ll see…tough stuff

    1. I agree with this perspective — engagement rings became a custom to protect women financially when they could not do so independently. Times have changed – time to grow up people!

  14. Im struggling with what to do with my ring… I married at age 30 to a man far too fast, not a bad guy, but NOT my guy. He gave me a fake silver ring to propose with telling me it was a family heirloom, and I wore it for a while until the stones started to pop out. This wasnt a big deal to me, because I planned to design my own ring eventually (Did I mention that I am a jewelry designer specializing in engagement rings?!)…. anyhow, come to find out after our elopement that not only was the ring not a famiily heirloom, that he had bought it and proposed to his ex girlfriend with it…. she never wore it, but it was tainted.

    So now there were lies attached to the damn thing! I pushed myself to finally figure out the ring I wanted, and let me tell you, it is BEAUTIFUL…. Platinum, diamonds all over, looks truly vintage, huge gorgeous center stone…. I put SO MUCH WORK AND THOUGHT into my design, and I myself designed every line of the ring….

    Fast forward to now… needless to say I got tired of lies in my marriage, and now my divorce is pending and I am dating someone new. Is it time to unload the thing? I am “in the biz” so I can sell it pretty competitively and make some cash, but I do still LOVE the look of the damn thing! I would wear it on my right hand and love it because its MY DESIGN but I think my new BF would be hurt or uncomfortable, yet I dont want to make the decision to sell it because of pressure to please him… or maybe I do…? Help!

    1. Did you design it in a CAD program or still have your drawings, specs? You could make a new ring, just for you, with the design and different finishes… Use your stone in a new piece if you do not want to part with it… Or modify your design to be a pendant, or a bracelet… (I used to be a bridge jewelry designer/manufacturer)…

  15. My ex and I just call of the engagement. We have been engaged for 2.5 years and it hurts like crazy. I still have the 1 Carat Diamond Solitaire ring in 10 Carat white gold. I am not sure if I want to sell it or not. I paid 2 grand for the ring and if sold, would want to get at least half my money back. Am I think realistically or should I just keep it?

    1. Get rid of it, though don’t expect to get 50% ROI. The market is the market – send the ring to the service mentioned here, or check with your local jeweler. Free yourself so you can move on to new love! You deserve it!

      1. Just curios as to why it’s hard to get what a diamond originally cost? I have always thought diamonds were good investments and usually don’t ” get old” so why should you take less?

  16. In my first engagement, I had a beautiful 3.5 total carat diamond ring. He was caught cheating multiple times and I broke off the engagement. I caught a lot of flack from men-friends and co-workers on how wrong I was for not returning the ring. I look at as compensation for time served! If we had decided to part amicably because we weren’t ready for marriage, I would have gladly given it back as he went into debt to buy it. BUT…since he decided to be a dog about it, I kept it and went on to use the proceeds to put a down payment on my first home! BOOYAH!!!

    1. Michelle – that is a funny story in a way, but men don’t owe us financial compensation because they’re dogs. That is why no-fault divorces prevail — to decouple relationship drama from the financial realities of divorce.

    2. Terrible attitude, pretending you are entitled to some sort of compensation when you are not and just really wanted the money.

      1. She was cheated on multiple times and treated terribly by that man and she’s the one with the bad attitude? I find her attitude very positive. Instead of dwelling on the pain, she moved forward doing what was best for her after wasting time on a creep that put his wants ahead of the woman he was engaged to. Gary, you seem to think that engagement rings are owned by men and are like a retractable leash they attach to the woman they are engaged too. Or like a car lease. Shame on you for putting down women who don’t subscribe to the same opinion as you.

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  18. it is a very useful post to those girls who want to sell their diamonds rings after divorce or any other problem. they can get tips through this post that what things they should follow to sell diamond jewelry and get profit with that deal.

  19. Where would you start with a Tiffany band?

    Ebay has one for 1700 but who knows if that’s high ball & will just sit….. I’m planning on watching. Since it’s a high-end brand I am hoping to take a fast, high dollar route.

  20. I sold mine this past spring to pay for my son’s summer camp. I have to say I am glad it is gone. I too thought I would give it to my son some day to give to his future bride. Why? A sign of a failed marriage! No thanks. He deserves something fresh! Pretty funny story. My x’s sitter sold him the diamond. If the stories are true- she actually made him over pay by $10,000. Ha! i didn’t get that much for it but I got way more than I would have selling it to a shop. I sold it to my neighbor who is a diamond dealer. In the end, glad “it went to my son” xo

  21. Great article! It’s important to find a GIA Certified Diamond Buyer and Grader. For any of your readers who are in the Florida area, we have been in the diamond buying business since 1945 and we can help ensure that they get the best value when they sell their estate diamond jewelry.

  22. I have a beautiful canary diamond w platium band 4 carats from my long term marriage. Now my new guy wants to use it to buy me an engagement ring. My guy does not need the money he just IMO being cheap! Now I’m rethinking on if to even to stay with him. Just makes me feel like I’m not worthy .

    1. My second ex husband used the diamond from my first engagement ring as a down payment on the ring he gave me. Then we were saddled with a 12 month ring payment at $450/ month after we got married so I really contributed to most of this ring. Not to mention he admittedly had an affair within the first 8 months of our marriage while I was 6 months pregnant with our daughter. I chose to stay for many reasons (not playing the victim here but I did choose to sit tight, knowing I would eventually get out of this) and focused on my health, pregnancy and other child. Every day I looked at that ring and it meant nothing to me so I can’t believe I STILL have it in my damn jewelry box?! It’s been 2 years since our DIE-Vorce & he’s already remarried with an infant! What am I thinking?
      Thanks for the article Emma! The sell of this tainted ring has now moved to top priority! A male friend of mine told me to sell it a while back as he happily sold his, right after HE threw his Mont Blanc pen that he’d signed his divorce papers with off a bridge & into the Chattahoochee River (Atlanta).
      Also, knowing the markup & that I probably won’t get much, ( WE paid $6500) so perhaps what little ROI I do get will help me fund a vacation! I need a trip to London to see a great friend/single mom who just moved there & will give me a tour/free place to stay & loads of laughter! Cheers damn it!

    2. A canary can easily be worn as a right hand ring or used in a new piece. That you posted your dilemma here makes me think if you let him trade it in to pay for your new ring that the new ring will carry that negativity with it. I wouldn’t let him have it.

  23. Hi,
    I have an engagement ring that I want to sell 18K thick white gold band 1.54ct D/SI2 EGL certified brilliant solitaire. Any ideas, where to sell my ring in Dallas?
    Thanks!!

  24. Seems to me if a man gives an engagement ring to the woman he marrys and they later get divorced then she should return the ring to him along with the wedding ring or as a minimum sell them both and split the proceeds

    1. I have been reading through the comments and feel bad for you, Gary. It sounds like you’ve had some really bad experiences with women who took advantage of you. I care about that. It seems you’re reaching conclusions that all the women sharing their stories here are also taking advantage of their exes. Maybe some of them have. My husband sold some very precious possessions of his to buy me a spectacular diamond ring for our engagement. We had some difficulty in our marriage before he passed away two years ago. Had we ended our marriage I would not have given the ring back to him (he absolutely never would have asked for it) but I wouldn’t have been able to sell it either because we always deeply loved one another, even during our hardest times. Not everyone has such fortune. Surely you can see that for some it may be very healing emotionally to eliminate a symbol of their crushed dreams especially when the split is not amicable? And in some of these examples women have stated that they needed the money the sale of the ring provided. Unless a woman has broken an engagement or otherwise been egregiously responsible for the marriage dissolution it doesn’t seem intuitive to me that she’d be obliged to return the ring. We all have to take our own path and do the best we can. I think that’s what the majority of the women who have shared here have done.

  25. I held onto my engagement and wedding rings for about a year after my divorce. At first I wanted to pawn them or do Cash4Gold but I wasn’t going to get much. Both rings were 14 K white gold and 1/4 CT diamonds. I would have been lucky to get $100 for both. But since both rings were bought at and registered with Kays Jewelry I talked to them and they gave me a great deal. Just for my engagement ring they gave me $700 credit toward a $1400 purchase. So when my new man and I decided to get married, I picked out my new engagement ring and paid for half of it with my old one! Some people may not agree with it but I think it was a great investment!

  26. I kept the main diamond to turn into a necklace or ring from my daughter when she turns 16. Although my marriage went sour, I have no regrets because I have two beautiful children. She needs to know that she was wanted and loved and that for a very long time, we were happy.

    I sold the small diamonds and gold, along with some other gold pieces to earn money to revamp my master bedroom and bathroom after the divorce. I kept the house and couldn’t wait to make it my own. I have no regrets in selling my ring. By the way, sold his ring for cash, too, since he left it here.

  27. Address shock of retail versus wholesale (which you may very well be selling it back for). I otherwise sold it because I felt like a fraud. R that he still had some control that I wasn’t even aware of. Let it go. I cried at the store. So many triggers. And it was so cold and symbolic while they undid the prongs, to identify and weigh it.

  28. I went to the exact middle of the Golden Gate Bridge, and threw my wedding band over the edge into the water. Apparently a friend told me that is what a lot of people do from the bay area after they divorce. However, I did have the stones removed and made into a beautiful necklace that I designed myself. I chose to keep it because hey, I did get my children from this period of my life, so it wasn’t all bad…

  29. Thank you for this post. I have been divorced for 2 years now and my rings are sitting in a box in the closet. My engagement ring and wedding ring were from my grandmother and I feel so torn. I adore the rings and my grandparents, but they just bring me such heartache.

  30. I have been divorced for 14 years. My engagement and wedding ring are in a safe deposit box at the bank. My thought was always to give the engagement diamond to my oldest son and my diamond wedding band to my youngest son so they could use what they wanted to create the rings for their future wife. You have an interesting take on rings (one I can see and understand) -I never looked at my rings as carrying the “bad” that caused our divorce—always knew my kids were born out of love and associate rings with the good that once was. My sons are 20 and 19. I have no regrets in life. I would do it all the same way just to have my kids! I guess by the time my divorce was finalized I was content with knowing I gave my marriage my all and there was nothing I could do to save it (you can’t make someone want to stay when they want to go). I never looked back after divorce. Took me years before I ever thought of dating someone but I have been happily involved with someone for the past 7 years. My rings symbolize the good in my ex that produced my sons….not the bad in my ex that ended our marriage. Just my take on things—doesn’t make me right or wrong…just the way I choose to view it. Thank you for sharing your story on rings.

    1. Thank you for posting that Sandra:
      Some of the rest of what I see here stings. I have been divorced for two years, albeit not a decade yet, My ex wife and I share three young children and I struggle to build a more amicable co-parenting relationship. I have my band and she our her engagement and band…I bought all three. I wasn’t rich and am not now for sure, but every time I look at the band I think of the day we bought them, and the happy times that came after. never the arguments or the errors or the deep sadness that came after my ex wife walked out of the door of our home. I wore the ring in defiance and desperation through the first 8 months of my separation and then carried it bundled in boxes and a velvet bag for months after that–I was convinced that I would get to some place we had been that I would think was the perfect place to bury it…I couldn’t bring myself to letting go of it, and what had failed in that way…I certainly cannot see myself selling it anymore than I could see myself carving off a chunk of my heart and selling that because she had been attached to that in some bad way. I’m not exactly sure what I will do with it,but I am certain that in some way, it will be stuck with me, and I it for the duration that I bought intended it for…Aren’t the lessons we get from our walk through life, those painful and those joyous worthy of a token reminder now and again. shouldn’t we be humbled by our shortcomings and treasure the joy that paralleled it…No life experience will ever sit in the same place as within my heart, mind or soul as cradling a women I was deeply enamored with between my legs, peering over her shoulder with my arms encircling her and her hands in mind squeezing together as our son was born…IM KEEPING MY RING!

      1. Thank you for sharing this. It is a deeply personal decision… If my pieces carried such deep, positive memories of the shared journey, I would feel the same. Mine, though, are reminders of how aline I was during some of the most painful experiences during our marriage and I can’t keep reliving that. But had the birth of our son, or raising him, and such things been truly shared experiences, even if the marriage ultimately ended, I’d hold on to my engagement ring and wedding band…

  31. I believe if the husband is the one who wanted the divorce then the wife should keep it. Then do what she wants with it.
    But if the wife wants the divorce then she should give the ring back to the husband. I don’t see the wedding ring as a gift. I see it as a symbol of love, a way to show your commitment to loving each other “til death do us part”.
    If you don’t want your husband, why do you want the ring he gave you? You end the marriage, return the ring.

    1. I think it depends a great deal on why the marriage is ending and the general character/spirit of the marriage… Not just who files for the divorce.

    2. Also, I see the wedding band as the symbol you described…. The engagement ring is kind of like a deposit or a warranty on a future together. Giver breaks the relationship/the future and loses the deposit. Recipient breaks the relationship/future and has to refund the deposit. Wedding bands, unless family heirlooms, should be kept by their respective parties to do with them as they wish.

  32. My engagement ring is beautiful and I miss wearing it. It’s been in my safety deposit box for a couple years now. With the trend of black diamonds and chocolate diamonds I decided to switch out the one carat center piece. I wear it on my right hand and it is stunning. I am very happy. I joke that it’s black like my heart. I may turn the original diamond into a necklace or save it for one of my kids.

  33. 2 years after my divorce I trying to decide what to do with my wedding rings. The more I thought about it them more I kept hearing my mother say a woman should never waste a good diamond. I took the wedding set to a trustworthy and reliable jeweler and he sketched out a necklace using the diamonds. It turned out beautiful and I can pass the diamonds down to my daughter with a story behind it.

  34. My marriage ended about a year ago, divorced 10 months. I just decide what I am going to go with my engagement ring.
    It is a single 1/2 cts with two 1/4 cta on either side. I and Turing the 1/4 cts into earnings and replacing them with the birth stone of each of my kids.
    Can’t wait to find the right jewelry to do the work.

  35. I’m in that situation currently. I was separated for four years out of our marriage, and now our divorce has been final for 2+ years. I wanted to save the ring for my daughter, but now look at it as a curse. The marriage that I had with her father, I’d never dream of passing it along to her. Now I want to get it out of my house and hopefully find some peace here as well with it gone.

  36. I was saving my ring after we divorced I didn’t know why just didn’t want to get rid of it. Then I decided I would make a necklace for my daughter with the diamond when she was older. However I never really put thought into how about getting rid of it and letting go correlate. Anyhow I ended up getting robbed of everything I own pretty much and that was one of the items because I did not have a safe box. Lesson learned in so many ways. But I am actually not sad about it now because when my daughter gets older I will make her, her own diamond necklace for graduation that has no ties to a broken marriage.

  37. Like I always say, an engagement ring is nothing more than divorce insurance that your wife will cash in the second she has sex with your best friend. Best thing for guys in America is to NEVER get married. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? Even more when once you marry the woman she actually becomes the cow within a few years.

    1. Your comment speaks volumes about why your wife probably did what she did…I hope you get some counciling and learn to not be so angry at women.

  38. When we got married we were broke and i chose to use what little $$$ we had for a down-payment on a condo instead of a ring. Never ever regretted it.

  39. Just read Tom’s comment, above. Tom, I can spot guys like you a mile away. Someone damaged you in your past. Your mommy, no doubt. So sorry. She produced a sow’s ear, and you can’t make a good husband out of a sow’s ear anyway.

  40. Hi Emma! I’m intrigued by your willingness to send your jewelry in the mail to these online places. How did you know they wouldn’t just keep the jewelry and you’d never hear from them again? Or that they would give you the correct amount owed to you from the sale? Did you have a contract or any other document agreeing to the terms of the sale? I know there are testimonies and endorsements on these sites but sending expensive jewelry via the mail to these sites seems so scary to me!

    1. I checked out all the sites mentioned here, all have great BBB ratings and the shipments are indeed insured via FedEx – you can see this all yourself :)

  41. Not sure what to do… Divorce after 23 yrs my original engagement ring was picked out as a sapphire not even a diamond and was on clearance for $600 then after being 5 yrs married I worked at a jewelry store and decided to buy myself a diamond and matching did band so I got a nice set retail $6400 but I got it for $3200. Never received any gifts beyond a box of chocolates w stuffed toy and flowers on Valentine’s.. other than that no Christmas, Birthday or even just because .. felt very unappreciated bringing up 5 children… The final straw was finding out that although we both worked the mortgage was behind 5 yrs in payments. Time to move on and take back the reigns. Just have no idea where to begin.

  42. To celebrate the finalisation of my divorce from the ex-husband who had 2 affairs and squandered our son’s education trust fund I traded up my 0.5 carat diamond engagement ring for a 5 carat cocktail ring with the jeweller who made the original engagement ring and held a party to celebrate the next chapter of my life. Two older divorced ladies said “Oh well should have had a party and bought ourselves new rings”. Do it for yourself sisters!

  43. After a 25 year marriage my 2 carat diamond and eternity band wedding ring sat in s safe for 12 years. One of my kids suggested that I should have it remounted and worn on my right hand. I took her advice and redesigned both rings. Love how they came out. They are no longer marriage related to me but two great rings.

  44. Right after separating I took off my ring, gathered the rest of the gold, platinum & diamond jewelry my ex gave me and went straight to the jeweler he bought them from. Walked out with $6000. Second best decision I made!

  45. After having my diamond engagement ring and wedding bands stowed in a safe for the last two years, I decided it’s time to get them out of my life. Appreciate all of the advice I found here. Whatever I get for the rings, I intend to donate half to the Democrats. Then I will let my hillbilly ex know just where his money was donated. #SweetRevenge.

    1. LOL–Lee You are too funny…I feel like Ebeneezer…I want one ghost to show me hope for compassion, grace and forgiveness to drizzle down and peace to settle in

  46. I have a “show diamond…looking as if he spent a fortune. Go figure. Ex bought a one and three quarter diamond surrounded br nice bagets..six. bur the diamond was exactlythat. “LOOK WHAT I BOUGHT HER..” What looked like a 10,000 ring has so much carbon..worth maybe 1,500…I may donate it to a food bank or homeless shelter. Not doing me a darn bit of good hanging around.

  47. I held onto mine for 9 years after everything was done. I asked my daughter who was 13 if she would like me to save the rings for her (which I paid for our entire set and as well $21,000 in his schooling and he didn’t finish his degree). She declined and suggested I sell the rings. I went to a reputable jeweler in my area and was surprised how much I received!!! I have the money in savings bonds for kids for college. I slowly got rid of pieces of furniture and other household items and replaced with my own choices. My house is my own style now. Only thing I have left isn’t wedding dress and wedding photo albums I don’t know what to do with so packed away and put in storage……what did everyone do with their wedding albums:photos?

  48. I am not divorced but my mother and father got divorced. My mom hung onto her ring for me. She thought multiple times about selling but didn’t. My step dad also hung onto his ring for his daughter. When my husband asked permission to marry me he was given the ring. I love it and it means so much to me.

  49. I would love to sell mine but when I tried to, I found out the “$10,000” diamond was fake. Seems appropriate based on my marriage experience. Live and learn!

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  51. I went to Cancun, got my belly pierced and had my diamond reset into a belly ring. Also had a fling with a hot Latino waiter…

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