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GetDivorcePapers Review

By Holly Johnson | July 31, 2018 | 1 Comment

Most people who get married never imagine they’ll file for divorce someday. However, we all know that many relationships run their course — and that divorce is becomes inevitable. Fortunately, it’s easier than ever to file for divorce online if both you and your partner are in agreement on the terms of your divorce and…

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Nolo Review: Should you do-it-yourself divorce?

By Emma Johnson | July 31, 2018 | 0 Comments

Here are two facts: Fact 1: The divorce-complex is designed to make your breakup far more contentious than it probably needs to be, and lots of people make a ton of money from that reality. Think about it: Your lawyer (and your ex's lawyer) has ever financial incentive to create drama and conflict in this…

Child identity theft is real and it can ruin their credit

By Emma Johnson | July 31, 2018 | 3 Comments

This post is sponsored post by Lexington Law Firm. Even if you are diligent about protecting your identity and credit online, your children can be at grave risk. A report from Javelin Strategy & Research found that in 2017, more than 1 million U.S. children were victims of identity theft, resulting in $2.6 billion in…

Why “Nothing personal, but I don't want to date a single mom” is totally personal

By Emma Johnson | July 30, 2018 | 103 Comments

Way back at the beginning of my single mom dating shenanigans I fell in love with an older man. My kids were 1 and 3, his were in college. A few months in, I broke it off over a boozy Italian dinner. “Face it,” I said. “You don't want to be running around with little…

Single moms need gigolos

By Emma Johnson | July 29, 2018 | 14 Comments

If I had a nickel for every time I said, “We don't whine in this family!” I could afford to hire a gigolo for a few hours. This guy wouldn't pole dance or get freaky on me. He'd give me a goddamn hug and cook me a reasonably nutritious meal and listen to me go…

Stop calling your kids all the time when they're with their dad

By Emma Johnson | July 27, 2018 | 33 Comments

I wrote this last year, and am republishing it now in light that this summer season has many of us spending long stretches away from our kids, including me. What do you think? Do you talk to your kids every day when they are with their dad? Why? Or why not? Share in the comments! …

Someone important wrote a book & included my story about making money as a single mom

By Emma Johnson | July 25, 2018 | 2 Comments

I've been friends with time management expert and author Laura Vanderkam for a long time. We used to be part of an informal group of young mom writers in New York who would get together once a month for dinner and wine, and gab over soothing irritable babies and editors alike. I don't see her…

The benefits of dating single dads

By Emma Johnson | July 23, 2018 | 6 Comments

I recently went out a couple of times with a single dad whose daughter happens to be the same age as mine. We spent our first date talking about our kids and the challenges of parenting — and realizing we have a lot in common. For example, we both feel perfectly satisfied having spent our upbringings …

Facebook is my babydaddy

By Emma Johnson | July 23, 2018 | 13 Comments

I don’t have a husband. I have Facebook. As a single mom, there are lots and lots of things that I can handle really, really well. I run the house, make all the meals (mostly from scratch, I’m proud to say). I own a small business that does well enough to support us – with…

A tribute to my ex-husband's hairy back — and to my kids

By Emma Johnson | July 21, 2018 | 7 Comments

The past few months Helena has been obsessed with family stories. “Mommy, tell me a story about when I was  a baby,” she'll ask, and I'll tell her about how once, as a sleeping infant, her laugh broke the pin-drop silence of one of New York Public Library's reading rooms, eliciting a symphony of chuckles.…

Why single moms should disclose their income in online dating

By Emma Johnson | July 19, 2018 | 0 Comments

  Should you include your income in your online dating profile? I have been of two minds on this question — and came to the conclusion: Yes. After a divorce, I've been single for five years, actively dating for four. When I first ventured out into the new-again world romance, first on Match.com, later on OKCupid,…

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A letter to my beautiful, beautiful, beautiful daughter

By Emma Johnson | July 16, 2018 | 35 Comments

Originally posted 2013 Dear Helena, One day when you were a baby, Aunt Tina and I were smooching all over you. After all, what’s better than kissing a baby – all that smooth, perfect skin, those rolls of fat, all that love that just oozes out of them? Kisses and kisses and kisses. “We’re giving…

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How to find quick, hidden money in divorce

By Emma Johnson | July 16, 2018 | 1 Comment

If you're looking for sneaky or aggressive ways to shake money from your soon-to-be ex, click off this post and look elsewhere. But if you're going through a divorce, and are stressed about money, keep reading. And if you ARE going through a divorce, or are divorced, there is a very good chance that financial…

A time management expert gave me a time makeover

By Emma Johnson | July 16, 2018 | 5 Comments

My world was rocked by a recent New York Times piece about Mary Wells Lawrence, the iconic 1960s female advertising exec on whom Mad Men’s Peggy is roughly based. Yeah, it was pretty cool that this chick from Ohio blew into New York and started an ad agency in 1966 that billed $39 million in…

Free dinner for single moms?

By Emma Johnson | July 15, 2018 | 6 Comments

A few months ago I attended a little dinner party to celebrate my then-boyfriend's birthday. The scene: two couples at a known Greenwich Village Italian restaurant where the food is about 62 percent as good as the pricetag would suggest, but the remaining 38 percent can be justified by the frequent celebrity sightings and the…

How women can get the raise they deserve

By Emma Johnson | July 14, 2018 | 1 Comment

If you have XX chromosomes, chances are you stink at negotiating. Women are far less likely to ask for a higher starting salary when taking a job, far less likely to ask for a raise and if we do request a pay bump, women ask for far less than men do, according to Sara Laschever…

Top 10 DIY divorce companies online

By Emma Johnson | July 13, 2018 | 0 Comments

Getting a traditional divorce — you know, with lots of lawyers and fighting — can be incredibly time consuming and cost prohibitive.  Think about it: Not only do you have to pay an attorney, lawyer, mediator, and court fees, you also have to consider the lost time at work, the cost of childcare, extra transportation,…

How credit repair companies work

By Emma Johnson | July 11, 2018 | 0 Comments

This post is sponsored by Lexington Law Firm No matter what you do, others will judge you. Normally, that shouldn’t matter. But when it comes to credit scores, the people doing the judging tend to have a lot of impact on our financial, professional and even personal lives. Fair or not, your credit score and history…

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Prosper Review: Is a personal loan right for you?

By Holly Johnson | July 11, 2018 | 0 Comments

One of the biggest names in the loan business is Prosper, which claims to have approved more than 700,000 people for loans since its 2005 launch. Prosper offers personal loans at low rates, and have topped “best of” lists for the last several years for pioneering the peer-to-peer lending business model. Peer-to-peer lending, also known…

Co-parent like a pro

By Emma Johnson | July 5, 2018 | 14 Comments

Co-parenting is the future, and the future is now. Science is 100 percent behind collaborative co-parenting. It is not divorce or separated families that harms children — but conflict between parents, which studies have found leads to fathers being marginalized in the family, and distancing themselves partly or completely from the kids' lives. Related: What to…