Relationships
BetterHelp review — is this online therapy site legit?
Maybe you’re one of more than 46 million U.S. adults with a mental illness. Or, perhaps you just need to talk some things out, get some advice, and a safe, comfortable place to be heard. Unfortunately, finding and affording quality counseling that is right for you can be a huge challenge. Schedule challenges, money challenges,…
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Divorce and remarriage — stats, facts and the hard truth
Did your divorce story start with, “I knew he was the one!” ?? At my wedding my mom stood up and gave a heart-felt little speech, which included, “After Emma went out with him for the first time, she called me up and said, ‘I know he’s the one!’” That’s a really sweet story, the…
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I don’t live for my kids — that is my biggest gift to them
I recently overheard a mother proudly declare: “I live for my daughter.” Too bad for that little girl. And too bad for the mom. “My kids are my world.” Parents who make their children the center of their universes mess up their kids, mess up themselves, and in the case of single parents — make…
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Easy trick to forgive your ex (and anyone else you’re angry at)
Ever feel like your beef with someone – maybe with an ex, or even a friend or a boss – is getting to your head? Maybe you feel the negative effects of a grudge sending you spinning, weighing you down. I’ll admit it. I have a very active mental life, emotional life, creative life,…
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Should you change your name after divorce? Here’s how ….
Recently a newly single mom messaged me: “Can you please write about a name change after divorce? I don’t want to share my name with my ex-husband anymore, but my two young sons were devastated at the thought that I would have a different name than them. They said, ‘Mommy, we’re a tribe.’ I see…
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Your first wife was a stay-at-home mom? Single moms won’t date you
Recently there was a very interesting discussion in my Millionaire Single Mom closed Facebook group (join us!) that addressed the challenges of dating men whose first wives were full-time stay-at-home wives. A number of women refuse. Reasons include: Men whose only example of a long-term romantic partner is someone who cared for the daily minutiae of running…
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How she did it: Med school at 35, single and 6 months pregnant
Other ways to listen: iTunes ♦ Stitcher ♦ TuneIn ♦ SoundCloud ♦ Google Play Dr. Susan O’Malley is pretty awesome. With her thick New York accent, this lifelong underachiever, secretary with no more than a high school diploma, set out at age 30 to become a physician. She did it. In this interview, I interview this amazing, charming woman who…
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This is what it’s like to be a single mom in NYC
Here are some of the awesome things about being a single mom in New York City: Dating as a single mom in New York City Nowhere in the world is there a higher concentration of interesting, successful, progressive men — many of them devoted dads. Men in NYC, more so than other parts of the…
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When should single moms tell a man she has kids?
This is a story about single-mom dating etiquette, but it is also about single moms cruising for men together. Having kids is often a deal-breaker when dating. That is OK. When it comes to dating, the possession of offspring is right up there with bisexuality (in men), herpes, smoking, being a Republican, and refusal to…
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“I’m too busy to date,” and 8 other lies single moms tell themselves about dating
When I was newly single, with an infant and toddler, I ran into a neighbor I’m friends with in the elevator. “He’s moving out,” I said, barely holding back tears, the baby whimpering on my chest in a carrier, my daughter in the stroller between the middle-aged woman and me. “That’s too bad,” she said.…
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#LikeAMother Mother-daughter interview with my Helena, 8
My favorite episode yet! Super-special guest today … my daughter, Helena. This 8-year-old gorgeous pickle and I have a mother-daughter interview: What it’s like to be a kid of divorce What she thinks about her mom dating Why kissing in movies makes her so embarrassed My proudest and best memories of motherhood How she feels…
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Single moms (and other strong women) need alpha males
The other night my single mom friend Sarah and I were IMing about how we prefer men who are aggressive in bed. “I’m the CEO of my entire life!” Sarah complained. “Do you know how hot it is to let someone else take over for 20 minutes?” “It’s not just in bed – give me…
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9 reasons dating is better as a single mom
Through my circle of friends and single moms I meet through this blog, I often hear cries of horror about the thought of dating. Especially if you have kids. What man in his right mind would consider dating a single mom? I can’t imagine getting out there again! My single-mom body is a wreck and I…
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Why post-divorce rebound relationships hurt so damn bad
Eighteen months after my marriage ended, I jumped into a heady, sexually intense year-long relationship with a fellow writer and parent who was 20 years older than I was. In hindsight, it was no surprise it ended — his kids were grown, mine were tiny, our lives were at different points. But that did not…
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How to feel confident and sexy when you feel old, fat and gross
Recently a mom on one of our boards posted: I feel frustrated by a theme that keeps coming up: Love yourself first and foremost and then love will be drawn into your life. HOW EXACTLY does one, who has highly developed neuropathways of “not good enough” transition to the “I love myself” place? I feel…
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Online dating apps: The ultimate guide for single moms
If you’re new to online dating as a single mom, it can be overwhelming and confusing. Which online dating apps are the best? Which dating sites are full of freaks and pervs? Where can you find nice guys? What about single dads looking for a relationship? A fun date? Love? Hot sex? All of the…
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Who deserves to call themselves a “single mom”?
Updated May 17, 2019 Below, you will find a polite, academic picking-apart of the who-gets-to-call-themselves-a-single-mom debate. It rages on, constantly, and after 7 years of blogging about single moms (and being one myself for 9 years), I have come to this conclusion: The argument about who is, and who is not a single mom is…
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