Relationships
Why single moms should disclose their income in online dating
Should you include your income in your online dating profile? I have been of two minds on this question — and came to the conclusion: Yes. After a divorce, I’ve been single for five years, actively dating for four. When I first ventured out into the new-again world romance, I omitted my income on dating…
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A letter to my beautiful, beautiful, beautiful daughter
Originally posted 2013 Dear Helena, One day when you were a baby, Aunt Tina and I were smooching all over you. After all, what’s better than kissing a baby – all that smooth, perfect skin, those rolls of fat, all that love that just oozes out of them? Kisses and kisses and kisses. “We’re giving…
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A time management expert gave me a time makeover
My world was rocked by a recent New York Times piece about Mary Wells Lawrence, the iconic 1960s female advertising exec on whom Mad Men’s Peggy is roughly based. Yeah, it was pretty cool that this chick from Ohio blew into New York and started an ad agency in 1966 that billed $39 million in…
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Breakthrough online counseling review
If you’re thinking of seeing a therapist but aren’t sure where to start, you may want to consider online therapy instead of in-person counseling. Meeting with a professional for online mental health treatment can make it easier to fit therapy into your busy schedule, and the costs can be lower, too. The convenience of Breakthrough…
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Tips for dating a single mom (12 things NOT to say)
I go out with single dads and childless men alike, and some of the latter admit (while others appear) to be uncertain about the logistics of dating a single mom. On one hand, Dude, we are just like other women! Proceed as normal! On the other, our lives are likely both wonderful and challenging in ways…
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Dating coach: “Single moms are hot on the successful-men market”
I don’t run many guests posts, but happened upon Elliot Scott, a dating coach who had a lot of really smart things to say about men and women and how we can relate better. And he has a lot of experience coaching — not to mention dating! — single moms. I love, love, love his…
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Ladies, please post honest pics on your online dating profile, OK?
My friend Marc — a single dad my age — and I like to share dating war stories. Recently, he giddily kept me posted on the pre-first-date chemistry he shared with a woman he met online. “Extremely promising,” he texted me. “We talk every night on the phone and it is frightening how much we…
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Dating as a single mom is the same as dating as a teenager
Sunday morning I had brunch with my brother Josh and sister-in-law Susan. They’re in their early 30s, don’t have kids, stay out late, and sleep in on weekends. In other words: They’re normal. Susan grilled me about my date from the night before while my little brother pretended he’d lost his hearing. “We went for…
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BetterHelp review — is this online therapy site legit?
Maybe you’re one of more than 46 million U.S. adults with a mental illness. Or, perhaps you just need to talk some things out, get some advice, and a safe, comfortable place to be heard. Unfortunately, finding and affording quality counseling that is right for you can be a huge challenge. Schedule challenges, money challenges,…
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Divorce and remarriage — stats, facts and the hard truth
Did your divorce story start with, “I knew he was the one!” ?? At my wedding my mom stood up and gave a heart-felt little speech, which included, “After Emma went out with him for the first time, she called me up and said, ‘I know he’s the one!’” That’s a really sweet story, the…
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I don’t live for my kids — that is my biggest gift to them
I recently overheard a mother proudly declare: “I live for my daughter.” Too bad for that little girl. And too bad for the mom. Parents who make their children the center of their universes mess up their kids, mess up themselves, and in the case of single parents — make serious relationships impossible. Don’t get…
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Easy trick to forgive your ex (and anyone else you’re angry at)
Ever feel like your beef with someone – maybe with an ex, or even a friend or a boss – is getting to your head? Maybe you feel the negative effects of a grudge sending you spinning, weighing you down. I’ll admit it. I have a very active mental life, emotional life, creative life,…
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Should you change your name after divorce? Here’s how ….
Recently a newly single mom messaged me: “Can you please write about a name change after divorce? I don’t want to share my name with my ex-husband anymore, but my two young sons were devastated at the thought that I would have a different name than them. They said, ‘Mommy, we’re a tribe.’ I see…
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Your first wife was a stay-at-home mom? Single moms won’t date you
Recently there was a very interesting discussion in my Millionaire Single Mom closed Facebook group (join us!) that addressed the challenges of dating men whose first wives were full-time stay-at-home wives. A number of women refuse. Reasons include: Men whose only example of a long-term romantic partner is someone who cared for the daily minutiae of running…
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How she did it: Med school at 35, single and 6 months pregnant
Other ways to listen: iTunes ♦ Stitcher ♦ TuneIn ♦ SoundCloud ♦ Google Play Dr. Susan O’Malley is pretty awesome. With her thick New York accent, this lifelong underachiever, secretary with no more than a high school diploma, set out at age 30 to become a physician. She did it. In this interview, I interview this amazing, charming woman who…
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There is no such thing as a married single mom
So many married women want to join my online support groups for single moms. I get why, even though that is insane. After all, like you, anecdotally, I don’t know so many really happy marriages, and scholars have found the same. Per Rebecca Traister’s very excellent bestselling All The Single Ladies: Psychologist Ty Tashiro suggested in…
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If you’re thinking of being a single mom
Are you a single mom? Single mom by choice What advice do you give women thinking of having a baby on her own? Not a week goes by that I don’t find myself in conversation with a childless woman in her 30s worried about whether to have kids, wondering about being a single mom. The…
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31 reasons being a single mom is AWESOME (according to readers)
A while ago a member of Single Mom Society on Facebook said: “I’m a new mom, expecting in a few months. What POSITIVES can you tell me about single motherhood?” I responded with a few points, and invited other members to share. Here is what we said: From me, Emma Johnson, on why being a…
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This is what it’s like to be a single mom in NYC
Here are some of the awesome things about being a single mom in New York City: Dating as a single mom in New York City Nowhere in the world is there a higher concentration of interesting, successful, progressive men — many of them devoted dads. Men in NYC, more so than other parts of the…
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Why married people saying, ‘Don’t worry, you’ll find someone’ is the the WORST
I know this scene, and so do you: You’re chatting with a friend, maybe new, maybe old. Or your sister, cousin, mother or aunt. They are married. You are not. They ask if you’re seeing someone? Oh! you say. I went out with someone last week. Let me tell you about him! Or maybe…
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