Relationships
Tips for dating a single mom (12 things NOT to say)
I go out with single dads and childless men alike, and some of the latter admit (while others appear) to be uncertain about the logistics of dating a single mom. On one hand, Dude, we are just like other women! Proceed as normal! ==> See below: 12 things never to say to a single mom on…
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Dating coach: “Single moms are hot on the successful-men market”
I don’t run many guests posts, but happened upon Elliot Scott, a dating coach who had a lot of really smart things to say about men and women and how we can relate better. And he has a lot of experience coaching — not to mention dating! — single moms. I love, love, love his…
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Ladies, please post honest pics on your online dating profile, OK?
My friend Marc — a single dad my age — and I like to share dating war stories. Recently, he giddily kept me posted on the pre-first-date chemistry he shared with a woman he met online. “Extremely promising,” he texted me. “We talk every night on the phone and it is frightening how much we…
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Dating as a single mom is the same as dating as a teenager
Sunday morning I had brunch with my brother Josh and sister-in-law Susan. They’re in their early 30s, don’t have kids, stay out late, and sleep in on weekends. In other words: They’re normal. Susan grilled me about my date from the night before while my little brother pretended he’d lost his hearing. “We went…
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BetterHelp review — is this online therapy site legit?
Maybe you’re one of more than 46 million U.S. adults with a mental illness. Or, perhaps you just need to talk some things out, get some advice, and a safe, comfortable place to be heard. Unfortunately, finding and affording quality counseling that is right for you can be a huge challenge. Schedule challenges, money challenges,…
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Did your divorce story start with, “I knew he was the one!” ??
I wrote this a few years ago, and I so stand by it today. It came to mind when speaking with a 40-year-old, never-married friend who was recounting her recent dating exploits. It so resonated when she detailed the horrors of an otherwise promising man’s foibles: one failed to bring enough cash to the cash-only…
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I don’t live for my kids — that is my biggest gift to them
I recently overheard a mother proudly declare: “I live for my daughter.” Too bad for that little girl. And too bad for the mom. Parents who make their children the center of their universes mess up their kids, mess up themselves, and in the case of single parents — make serious relationships impossible. Don’t get…
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Easy trick to forgive your ex (and anyone else you’re angry at)
Ever feel like your beef with someone – maybe with an ex, or even a friend or a boss – is getting to your head? Maybe you feel the negative effects of a grudge sending you spinning, weighing you down. I’ll admit it. I have a very active mental life, emotional life, creative life,…
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Should you change your name after divorce? Here’s how ….
Recently a newly single mom messaged me: “Can you please write about a name change after divorce? I don’t want to share my name with my ex-husband anymore, but my two young sons were devastated at the thought that I would have a different name than them. They said, ‘Mommy, we’re a tribe.’ I see…
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Your first wife was a stay-at-home mom? Single moms won’t date you
Recently there was a very interesting discussion in my Millionaire Single Mom closed Facebook group (join us!) that addressed the challenges of dating men whose first wives were full-time stay-at-home wives. A number of women refuse. Reasons include: Men whose only example of a long-term romantic partner is someone who cared for the daily minutiae of running…
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How she did it: Med school at 35, single and 6 months pregnant
Other ways to listen: iTunes ♦ Stitcher ♦ TuneIn ♦ SoundCloud ♦ Google Play Dr. Susan O’Malley is pretty awesome. With her thick New York accent, this lifelong underachiever, secretary with no more than a high school diploma, set out at age 30 to become a physician. She did it. In this interview, I interview this amazing, charming woman who…
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Can a single mom of a special needs kid find romance & love?
I published this a few months ago, and it got some harsh feedback. For example: There is absolutely nothing inspiring about this post. In fact, for mothers with really severe situations, this is borderline shaming. Stick to writing about subjects you know something about – or at the very least, properly research your topics. This…
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Sex and money advice from a 90-year-old single mom
I wrote this a few years ago, and I really love it … please chat with strangers. Listen to old people. Ask personal question. Listen. Share, and listen more. Remember that ours is not the first generation to struggle with being a woman with professional ambition, children and sexual needs. Read, and share. …
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Should you date a guy who doesn’t see his kids?
In 411 BC, ancient Greek playwright Aristophanes staged Lysistrata, a story about a Athenian woman who ends the interminable Peloponnesian War between Athens and Sparta by convincing the women of Greece to withhold sex (and seize the treasury) from the men, who of course make all the decisions about war and money. Hilarious? Yes. Powerful and possible…
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There is no such thing as a married single mom
Related articles: Who gets to call themselves a single mom? 5 friends every single mom needs Why it can be so hard to find other professional, successful single moms In the above, I share how so many married women want to join my online support groups for single moms. I get why, even though that…
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If you’re thinking of being a single mom
Are you a single mom? What advice do you give women thinking of having a baby on her own? Share in the comments :) Not a week goes by that I don’t find myself in conversation with a childless woman in her 30s worried about whether to have kids, wondering about being a…
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18 things men say about their ex-wives
When divorced people date, they talk about divorce. A lot. And that means talking about your ex. A lot. Which means through writing this blog, dating, and generally living life, I’ve heard a whole lot of thoughts and opinions from men about their ex-wives. Ladies, here’s how your ex feels about you. How do you…
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31 reasons being a single mom is AWESOME (according to readers)
A while ago a member of Single Mom Society on Facebook said: “I’m a new mom, expecting in a few months. What POSITIVES can you tell me about single motherhood?” I responded with a few points, and invited other members to share. Here is what we said: From me why being a single mom…
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This is what it’s like to be a single mom in NYC
I wrote this a couple years ago, and the story is the same. Also, I will add very critical additions to the NYC single mom story: Dating as a single mom Nowhere in the world is there a higher concentration of interesting, successful, progressive men — many of them devoted dads. Men in NYC,…
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Why married people saying, ‘Don’t worry, you’ll find someone’ is the the WORST
I know this scene, and so do you: You’re chatting with a friend, maybe new, maybe old. Or your sister, cousin, mother or aunt. They are married. You are not. They ask if you’re seeing someone? Oh! you say. I went out with someone last week. Let me tell you about him! Or maybe…
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