Parenting

Sharing happy stories about your your kids’ dad (and a tribute to my ex-husband’s hairy back)

Originally published 2013.  The past few months Helena has been obsessed with family stories. “Mommy, tell me a story about when I was  a baby,” she’ll ask, and I’ll tell her about how once, as a sleeping infant, her laugh broke the pin-drop silence of one of New York Public Library’s reading rooms, eliciting a…

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Who deserves to call themselves a “single mom”?

Updated May 17, 2019 Below, you will find a polite, academic picking-apart of the who-gets-to-call-themselves-a-single-mom debate. It rages on, constantly, and after 7 years of blogging about single moms (and being one myself for 9 years), I have come to this conclusion: The argument about who is, and who is not a single mom is…

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Why your arguments for alimony are wrong

I have a friend who had been married for 20 years. He had a high-earning career, and after spending her 20s in low-paid retail jobs, his wife stayed home full-time with the kids, until they were in high school, then worked part-time retail, tried to start a couple of craft businesses that went nowhere, and…

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shared parenting

How to get dads involved in divorce and separated families

Other ways to listen: iTunes  ♦  Stitcher   ♦  TuneIn   ♦  SoundCloud ♦ Google Play   This is an important episode. Terry Brennan, co-founder of Leading Women for Shared Parenting, an activist organization responsible for introducing legislation in 20 states, that makes equal, shared parenting the presumption in family court. This is a critical issue for children, who suffer…

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How to start investing, get that raise, and be respected in the workforce

Other ways to listen: iTunes  ♦  Stitcher   ♦  TuneIn   ♦  SoundCloud ♦ Google Play Sallie Krawcheck is often cited as one of the most influential women on Wall Street. The former president of Global Wealth & Investment Management at Bank of America, and CEO of Citigroup’s Smith Barney unit, Krawcheck today is the co-founder of the female networking…

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What it’s really like to be the single mom of a special needs child

 Other ways to listen: iTunes  ♦  Stitcher   ♦  TuneIn   ♦  SoundCloud ♦ Google Play While the numbers are not confirmed, experts agree that divorce rates among parents with special needs children is far higher than the general population. And since single moms of special needs kids have challenges and joys that other moms  — single or otherwise…

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Best online therapy sites for moms

If you told me eight years ago I could find a licensed psychologist to come to my apartment in New York City for less than $150 and without spending months on a waiting list, I would have spit my latte right in your face. Today, though, it’s a different story – the utopian dream of…

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Why shared parenting is so great for kids – and for moms!

 Other ways to listen: iTunes  ♦  Stitcher   ♦  TuneIn   ♦  SoundCloud ♦  Google Play After one meeting with my ex and our lawyers to negotiate the custody agreement of our divorce, I went home, busted out the calculator, and cried. I freaked out at the idea of being away from my kids for extended hours or days, and I…

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Teach kids about money — in an age of no cash

In my day, even if your parents didn’t explicitly teach you about personal finance, money lessons were inherent to life: Allowance and babysitting jobs were paid in cash. Savings accounts meant coins and wadded-up singles deposited into piggy banks and the local bank branch. Charity meant writing a paper check (remember those?!) to an organization,…

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Single moms need gigolos

If I had a nickel for every time I said, “We don’t whine in this family!” I could afford to hire a gigolo for a few hours. This guy wouldn’t pole dance or get freaky on me. He’d give me a goddamn hug and cook me a reasonably nutritious meal and listen to me go…

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The benefits of dating single dads

I recently went out a couple of times with a single dad whose daughter happens to be the same age as mine. We spent our first date talking about our kids and the challenges of parenting — and realizing we have a lot in common. For example, we both feel perfectly satisfied having spent our upbringings …

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Facebook is my babydaddy

I don’t have a husband. I have Facebook. As a single mom, there are lots and lots of things that I can handle really, really well. I run the house, make all the meals (mostly from scratch, I’m proud to say). I own a small business that does well enough to support us – with…

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