The mom over at the popular blog Bad Playdate is an old friend. We go way back. Even though we live just 30 minutes way from each other and our kids are the same age we’ve never had a playdate. Until this weekend. I love her. But shit got ugly. Here’re our takes on some parenting topics. You can read lots more here, at Bad Playdate.
Current events: I was shocked that Bad Playdate forbids her children from hearing the news. She actually makes sure NPR is off on the drive to school, then blasts it the minute the kids get out of the car. It never even occurred to me to forbid my children from knowing what is going on in the world. My daughter loves the news. She gobbles up the info and asks really insightful questions. God forbid she should know about a contentious school board election or the latest in Syria.
Look, kids are going to learn about the “real world” soon enough. I don’t see anything wrong with childhood being a time of innocence. I was surprised to hear that Wealthy Single Mommy listens to hard news with her 3 and 5 year old and reads them The New York Times. I am trying to protect my kids from topics such as maniacs who are out to kill people. I will continue to read The Magic School Bus series of books to my boys and skip the crime reports in the paper for now.
Tone of voice: Bad Playdate speaks like a normal woman most of the time but to her kids she uses that syrupy mommy voice that makes my skin crawl. When I deal with my kids, I keep it real. They won’t respect me if I speak to them like they’re newborn kittens one second, then turn to my girlfriend and crack up about neighborhood gossip the next! Kids are people and they see right through your bull, Bad Playdate!
Listen, what you call “keeping it real” is considered gutter talk. I’m trying to set an example, not be their homey. It’s important for me to try to communicate with them clearly and calmly.
SAHM: Bad Playdate surprised me when she said she doesn’t have time to exercise. Aside from writing a few blog posts she doesn’t work. Her kids are in school 4 hours each week day. My kids are in school 8 hours per day, I exercise most days and financially support all of us. What’s going on here?
You’ve got a point there, Wealthy Single Mommy — exercise is important, and cleaning is a big time suck that you don’t have to deal with because you have a housekeeper. It’s hard to fit it all in, especially when I’ve got to cook, shop for food, mow the lawn or shovel the snow, and schedule bad playdate after bad playdate all in just 3.5 hours. Maybe I’ll hire someone to clean the house while I head to the gym. You got any recommendations?
Read more points of contention at Bad Playdate’s post: I thought I judged moms in my blog, then a mom blogger came to play