“I’m too busy to date,” and 8 other lies single moms tell themselves about dating

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When I was newly single, with an infant and toddler, I ran into a neighbor I'm friends with in the elevator. “He's moving out,” I said, barely holding back tears, the baby whimpering on my chest in a carrier, my daughter in the stroller between the middle-aged woman and me.

“That's too bad,” she said. “It will be hard for you to find someone else.”

We are about the same height. She was not being cruel. She was stating her belief, neutrally.

I locked eyes with hers. Did not flinch. My face was neutral, too.

*Ding.* The elevator hopped to a stop. It was my floor. I pushed my little family out. Said nothing more.

I'd like to say I forgot those words, but I didn't. I thought about that elevator scene. I worried she was right, that my single-mother status was a lifelong sentence of loneliness. After all, there are literally no positive and realistic models for adult women who have kids dating and enjoying romance and sex in a positive way.

Instead, women are inundated with very sexist and negative messages about dating … Messages like:

There are no good guys out there at this stage … and the few that are left don't want to date a woman with kids.

Dating sets a bad example for your kids. 

Dating steals quality time from your kids.

It's too much work / takes too much time. You should be focused on your career (and, of course, the kids).

Men like young, skinny women — not mom bods.

You'll only get hurt.

If you involved with a man and it ends, your kids will get hurt. And you'd be responsible. 

And on and on.

I told myself each and every one of those negative messages (even when my horrible neighbor wasn't drilling them into me).

But after a while of healing from my divorce, and being incredibly lonely (not to mention horny), I dipped my toe into dating. Then I found a wonderful boyfriend. When that ended, I started dating. A lot. And in the past few years I've had so much fun and learned so much through my romantic life.

I hear from women like you every day who tell me they often think about dating, but don't. Women who, like every other human, get lonely. You sees happy couples and would also like to sit across the table at a nice restaurant from a good man. To talk about your day with someone who cares. Maybe you just want to go for a beer and dance. Or to walk in the street and hold a man's hand, and feel like a woman.

Women tell me:

I think about dating, but I don't know where to start.

I have a bad picker – I'm afraid I'll fall in love with another jerk. 

Online dating, texting, sexting – I am so intimidated! I've been out of the game too long! 

I just don't have time. Between work and the kids, when would I date?

These words all resonate with me, because I said them all myself!

But, thanks to some great friends, therapy, and frankly, lots and lots of dating, I identified specific habits and processes to get over those lies I told myself, and create a life full of romance that you deserve, too.

Each and every one of these lessons are packed into this six-module video course.

Get Back Into Dating Again For Single Moms. 

I am going to walk you through everything you need to know to work through your hangups about dating, get your sexy back (this is my personal favorite part of the course ;) ) , step-by-step tools to find a good man, and go on ONE NICE DATE. I guarantee to jump-start your dating life. Literally, I money-back guarantee this course will get you on ONE NICE DATE. 

In Get Back Into Dating Again For Single Moms, you get:

  • 7 professionally produced videos
  • 4 Life-changing worksheets
  • 3 BONUS guides:

♥  Smart Porn Guide, For Smart Women

♥  Guide To Top Dating Sites For Moms

♥   How To Create A Killer Online Dating Profile For Moms

These resources are GUARANTEED to help you …

  • Abolish negative thinking that holds you back from dating
  • Figure out what you want from dating (and how to get it!)
  • Get your SEXY BACK! (this is the really fun part … but the MOST fun part is at the end of the course, when you go on that date!)
  • Where to find that good dude
  • Prepare for that date! What to wear, where to go … all answered!
  • What the heck to do after that date! (not as complicated as you think)

Some of you have emailed me questions. Here are a few:

Q: Emma, I am a single mom by choice, and have my son 110% of the time. Is this course for me?

A: Yes! It is for every mom who wants to date. In fact, statistics show that the majority of all unmarried moms have their children the majority or ALL of the time. That is why I built this course SPECIFICALLY for moms with little or no kid-free time!

Q: I’m not newly single, and have dated some. Will I get anything out of this course?

A: Yes! Check out what happy client Elsa wrote me today:

“Emma, I just watched your course videos and they are great! I got divorced in 2013 and have been dating, so I am not exactly your typical client/audience. Still – I learned a lot, and I very much appreciate your insight and advice. You were also funny, so there’s that, too. When are you launching your next course? I can’t wait!”

Q: I’m in the UK. Is your course only for moms in the United States? What about the material on dating sites?

A: Yes, this universal material is written for the women in my online communities from all around the globe. The bonus Online Dating Sites for Single Moms does skew a bit more for mothers in the United States, but only slightly, and 98% off the material is for moms everywhere!

Q: I’m so busy! Is this a scheduled curriculum? Will it take a lot of my time?

A: No and no! The moment you buy the course, you can jump right in, and go through it at your own pace. Membership NEVER EXPIRES, so you can return again and again — whenever and where ever works for you. And I will NOT JUDGE if you report you watched my course while on the toilet, hiding from the kids.

Q: I’d like to date, but I’m not even sure what I want in a relationship. Should I even bother?

A: I address this very common and normal concern. I felt the same way! True confession: Sometimes I still do. In How To Get Back Into Dating for Single Moms, I am going to walk you though this question specifically in the course material. Being unsure of your dating goals is actually a really positive part of dating!

Get Back Into Dating Again For Single Moms now!

I am going to walk you through everything you need to know to work through your hangups about dating, get your sexy back (this is my personal favorite part of the course 😉 ) , step-by-step tools to find a good man, and go on ONE NICE DATE. I guarantee to jump-start your dating life.

Learn more here: Get Back Into Dating Again For Single Moms.

See you there :)

About Emma Johnson

Emma Johnson is an award-winning business journalist, noted blogger, and bestselling author. A former Associated Press Financial Wire reporter and MSN Money columnist, Emma has written for the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Forbes, Glamour, Oprah.com, U.S. News, Parenting, USA Today and others. Her #1 bestseller, The Kickass Single Mom (Penguin), was named to the New York Post's ‘Must Read” list.Emma regularly comments on issues of modern families, gender equality, divorce, sex and motherhood for outlets like CNN, Headline News, New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Fox & Friends, CNBC, NPR, TIME, MONEY, O, The Oprah Magazine and The Doctors. She was named Parents magazine’s “Best of the Web,” “Top 15 Personal Finance Podcasts” by U.S. News, and a “Most Eligible New Yorker” by New York Observer.A popular speaker, Emma presented at the United Nations Summit for Gender Equality. Read more about Emma here.  Find out Emma's top Single Mom Resources here.


  1. Salina on May 17, 2016 at 9:32 pm

    Great Article. Women are stronger than they knows. Embrace yourself and love yourself

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