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Hello! I’m Emma Johnson, a professional single mom like you. My goal is to help you build a full, awesome life as a single mom.

I’ve helped millions of mommas with career, money, business, parenting, feminism, dating, sex, success, love and relationships advice. You’re not in this alone!

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Why you should sell your diamond engagement jewelry, and how to do it

I really don't care if you are widowed, divorced, jilted at the alter or pining after your ex. Sell your engagement jewelry. It took me several years to unload my own 24-carat Turkish gold engagement ring and matching band, but I am so glad I did. I'd kept it in the safe in a closet,…
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Dating advice from my cat

About a year ago, the kids and I got a shelter cat, Gala. Right from the start this ginger-colored feline was completely polite — nary a potty accident, clawed furniture or scratched child. After a half-day hiding under my bed, she started hanging out where ever we hung — but rarely interacting: lounging on the…
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12 things never to say to a single mom on a first date

We all say dumb stuff on dates. Especially first dates when everyone is self-conscious and sussing out someone new. But there are some things that you just do not say to a single mom on a first date, assuming you’re angling for a second. Here are 12: 1. “That’s great your mom lives in town…
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Single moms (and their kids) miss out on one-on-one time

Thanks to a public school schedule that doesn't always jibe with the day care schedule, I've spent more one-on-one time with my kids in the past couple of weeks than since my youngest was born. It made me a little sad about being a single mother. Walking on the street holding the soft hand of…
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Stop telling me it's hard to be a single mom

The next time you see a black person on the street, approach him or her and say: “Oh my gosh! I don't know how you do it! It must be so hard to be black!” What's that you say? No way? Makes you feel uncomfortable? Rude? Scared?  Welcome to my world. I frequently meet strangers…
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Parenting is not always harder as a single mom

I recently listened in fascination as a married shared her experience of parenting while her husband was away for a 10-day business trip: She gets more hugs since the kids' affection is not divided by two. She is a more fun parent than normal, stepping into the role her husband typically plays. The kids are…
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Your kid is a picky eater and it's a really big deal

I got a lot of pushback for this post. I want to add this: I appreciate that kids are kids. Every person has personal preferences and tastes — especially kids' tastes — change and evolve. While my daughter is an award-winning eating champ, my son is less so. He has a smaller appetite, and is…
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4 ways to encourage your kids' intuition

There is an elderly man in my neighborhood who my kids and I frequently run into. I find him hilarious. Always freshly shaved and dapperly — if quirkily — dressed, he makes sure to wear some token symbol of his apparent Irish ancestry: a kelly-green shamrock-spotted ascot, for example. Or a shamrock plastic pin on…
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I'm feng shui-ing the shit out of my apartment but my divorce is getting in the way

Last week a feng shui consultant spent three hours at my home. Laura Cerrano, of Feng Shui Manhattan, helped me focus on my goals (a serious relationship, more money, career success, less conflict with my kids), identify some frustrations (work deals that don't gel, stresses with certain family members who shall remain you-know-who-you-are), and take…
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I'm a single mom going on a 10-day road trip with two preschoolers and it will be awesome

I am writing this from a plane with my kids on the way from our NYC home to Chicago, where we will spend two weeks visiting friends and family, and the places where I grew up in a small town in Northern Illinois. This pilgrimage Tomorrow morning I leave on a 10-day road trip with…
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As a single mom I am totally non-traditional. Which is why I'm attracted to an unusally traditional man.

Lou says he'll buy me a Cadillac if I have his baby. “That's ridiculous!” I say. “A Cadillac is so not my style!” “That's the rule! You have an Italian baby, you drive a Cadillac,” he says, flashing that killer smile. We're joking. We're not even seriously dating. But there is truth in every joke.…
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Divorced people enjoy more friendships – and marrieds should take note

I often hear from single moms who say they have more friends now than when they were married. That is a) great for us, and b) a sorry commentary on the current state of marriage. Study after study find that friendships are key to happiness. Unfortunately, the current marriage model can discourage these critical relationships.…
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Women must be financially independent to thrive

  He who has the gold makes the rules. –Anonymous (who was she?) You cannot choose to be financially dependent on a man and also call yourself a feminist. The past decade has been a hotbed of debating the merits of the stay-at-home mom, how to achieve work-life balance and create workplaces that embrace family.…
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My brother yelled at my kids and I loved it

Last week my younger brother Josh was hanging out at my place. He and his longtime girlfriend Susan live in an apartment on the floor below mine, and we see them a couple times each week. Like me, Josh also works in media, and we love to talk business. While sitting on the couch chatting…
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Why women feel sexier after divorce

At least I have my kids. That’s another thing I tell myself when things are tough. When I worry I’ll never figure out the relationship thing. When I sit back and think, “How the hell did things turn out this way?” No one tells you these things can happen. There isn’t an afterschool special, a…
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When should single moms introduce boyfriend to the kids?

I recently heard about a single mom who falls madly and deeply in love with every man she dates, convinced each is her next husband and introduces each guy to her daughter as such. Heartbreak ensues time and again for the kid. This is an extreme version of what not to do. But the problem doesn’t start…
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Single mom families need adventures more than other families

I'm big on adventures, especially as a mom. And maybe, especially as a single mom. My kids and I call our Saturdays “adventure day” when I try to plan an event – a trip to a children's film festival or special park or drive to visit an out-of-town friend. We have routine adventures we enjoy…
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Building Christmas tradition alone. But not really.

  Last week marked the second annual Helena and Mommy Day when we play hookey during a weekday to go ice skating. This year we started off our venture in typical style for a 4 1/2 year-old: me holding her up by her armpits, then with Helena scooting along the rail. I'd glanced away for…
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Facing Christmas for the first time without the family homestead

You may have noticed that I haven’t posted in a few days. There’s a good reason: it’s the holidays, and during the holidays I procrastinate. Usually, I’m pretty together – no overdue library books for me! Bills are paid early! Punctuality is my middle name! Yet every December I put off ordering Christmas cards, buy…
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Single mom and part-time lover?

How do you look for a lover when you don’t know what you want? Last time I was dating more than 10 years ago, what I was looking for in a man was clear: the bazillion specifics and intangibles that would make a good husband and father.The list is roughly the same this time around,…
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“I was a confident single mom by choice. Then I lost my job.”

Guest post by Nina Siegal, an American freelance journalist living in Amsterdam and single mom to a 5-month-old daughter. The story of how I became a single mother is not a new one. But my relationship to my money problems is. It has almost become a contemporary cliché: a few years ago, I was about…
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Organizing my way to single-mom bliss

  Over the past couple of months I’ve cleaned out every closet, drawer and cupboard in my house. A local handyman built out shelves into two of my closets, and I’ve hauled four carfulls of stuff to a local charity. Now, what does this have to do with money and single moms, you ask? Well,…
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