Just 22 percent of dads who do not live in the same house as their kids are actively involved.
That is bad for the kids, of course, because they miss out on a close relationship with their father.
It is bad for the moms, who do not enjoy the emotional, logistical or time-off afforded by a co-parent.
Absentee fatherhood is bad for the dads, who miss out on parenting, close relationships with their children, and the pride of knowing they are upholding their parental responsibilities.
Further, the fewer active dads around, the fewer active dads our children see — and as a society we stand to have this trend perpetuated forever and ever.
Bottom line: Absentee fathers are bad for everyone, including society itself.
So when you meet a man — a nice and hot and successful or funny and thoughtful and sexy man — and he says he has kids, and you find out he doesn’t see them so much, what do you do?
If you care about those kids he doesn’t see — care as a person, a woman, as a mother (aspiring or actual), a member of society, here is what you do:
You will not see him.
You will not respond to his texts.
You will not fuck him.
You will know that if is a bad dad to his current kids, he will be a bad dad to future kids.
You will say: “It makes me uncomfortable that you don’t see your kids.”
Or: “Frankly, I don’t like the fact your kids are not your priority.”
You will not listen to his excuses.
You will just shut that down.
And you will encourage your girlfriends to do the same. And your cousin and sister and colleagues, too.
Before long, you and me and all of the women of the world will be like Lysistrata and her fellow women, changing the world with our pussies.
And that is good.