Just 22 percent of dads who do not live in the same house as their kids are actively involved.
That is bad for the kids, of course, because they miss out on a close relationship with their father.
It is bad for the moms, who do not enjoy the emotional, logistical or time-off afforded by a co-parent.
Absentee fatherhood is bad for the dads, who miss out on parenting, close relationships with their children, and the pride of knowing they are upholding their parental responsibilities.
Further, the fewer active dads around, the fewer active dads our children see — and as a society we stand to have this trend perpetuated forever and ever.
Bottom line: Absentee fathers are bad for everyone, including society itself.
So when you meet a man — a nice and hot and successful or funny and thoughtful and sexy man — and he says he has kids, and you find out he doesn’t see them so much, what do you do?
If you care about those kids he doesn’t see — care as a person, a woman, as a mother (aspiring or actual), a member of society, here is what you do:
You will not see him.
You will not respond to his texts.
You will not fuck him.
You will know that if is a bad dad to his current kids, he will be a bad dad to future kids.
You will say: “It makes me uncomfortable that you don’t see your kids.”
Or: “Frankly, I don’t like the fact your kids are not your priority.”
You will not listen to his excuses.
You will just shut that down.
And you will encourage your girlfriends to do the same. And your cousin and sister and colleagues, too.
Before long, you and me and all of the women of the world will be like Lysistrata and her fellow women, changing the world with our pussies.
And that is good.
Emma Johnson is a veteran money writer, noted blogger, bestselling author and an host of the award-winning podcast, Like a Mother with Emma Johnson. A former Associated Press Financial Wire reporter and MSN Money columnist, Emma has written for the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Forbes, Glamour, Oprah.com, REAL SIMPLE, Parenting, USA Today and others.
The Kickass Single Mom: Be Financially Independent, Discover Your Sexiest Self, and Raise Fabulous, Happy Children (Penguin, 2017), was a #1 bestseller and was featured in hundreds of media, including The New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Fox & Friends, Oprah.com and the New York Post, which named it to its ‘Must Read” list.
Her popular blog Wealthysinglemommy.com, and podcast Like a Mother, explore issues facing professional single moms: business and career, money, sex, relationships and parenting. Emma regularly comments on these topics for outlets such as CNN, Headline News, New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Fox & Friends, CNBC, NPR, TIME, MONEY, O, The Oprah Magazine, Woman’s Day, The Doctors, and many more. She was named Parents magazine’s “Best of the Web,” one of “20 Personal Finance Influencers to Follow on Twitter” by AOL DailyFinance, “Top 15 Personal Finance Podcasts” by U.S. News, and “Most Eligible New Yorkers” by New York Observer.
A popular speaker on gender equality, Emma presented at the United Nations Summit for Gender Equality.
Emma grew up in Sycamore, Ill., and lives in New York City with her children.