EliteSingles vs. eHarmony dating sites

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In the black hole that online dating sites and apps can be, Elite Singles and eHarmony stand out with promises of serious, long-term, committed relationships.

Which one is better?

This post will help you decide.

Short answer: While both are quality dating sites, EliteSingles has a free version, is more affordable, and offers a more dynamic user experience. It also attracts more educated, slightly older singles. EliteSingles also has a higher Better Business Bureau rating: A+.

 Elite SingleseHarmony
Method200-point personality test, dating preference profile, and free personality report.150-point personality test and personality profile.
ConnectionSerious, long-term, committed relationships.Serious, long-term, committed relationships.
Typical user90% are aged 30 and older
82% have college degrees
Average age: 30
PriceFree basic account: $0
Prices for new users:
3-month membership: $32.95/mo
6-month membership: $17.95/mo
12-month membership: $14.95/mo
6-month membership: $29.95/mo [minimum contract]
12-month membership: $22.95/mo
24-month membership: $14.95/mo
SecuritySLL-encrypted site, each member is verified as real by a human.All members must prove who they are, and site has been known to close accounts if they find the member is married, lies about themselves or otherwise violates eHarmony's code of conduct.
Apps?iOs and AndroidiOs and Android
Cool featuresFree basic membership option.
Free personality report based on how you answered the questions.
No need to endlessly scroll, as EliteSingles chooses matches for you.
“Quick Questions” option, which allows users to select questions they would most like their matches to answer.
Better Business BureauA+A-

How does EliteSingles dating work?

Elite stands out among online dating apps because:

  • A deep personality test to make highly compatible matches
  • Hand-verified profiles
  • 82% of the members have a college education 
  • 90% of members aged 30+

Similar to eHarmony, users start with an in-depth survey of 200 questions. Expect to spend a minimum of a half-hour answering questions about your hobbies, values, personality, family, morals, education, career, dating preferences and relationship goals.

You can complete this survey via EliteSingle's online, desktop platform or its iOS or Android apps.

You can then browse the site, guided by EliteSingle's ranking system, in which each member is given a score of 1-100, with the higher number indicating a higher likely compatibility based on your survey answers.

From there, you will start receiving daily emails with 5 to 7 matches. It is up to you if you want to check out these members' profiles, start a conversation or otherwise connect.

In the free basic version, you can go through the personality profile but you can't see profile photos or messages.

However, for actually connecting and seeing your potential matches, you need to upgrade to a paid version.

How much does EliteSingles cost?

Both EliteSingles and eHarmony are more expensive than other sites, but they also attract higher-income users with above-average education. They are also the two big sites that focus exclusively on helping singles find committed, serious, long-term relationships—with EliteSingles members standing out with its higher-than average education level.

EliteSingles is also less expensive than eHarmony.

More about the pros and cons of EliteSingles in our review.

EliteSingles dating costs:

For new users, here are EliteSingles prices:

  • Free basic account: $0
  • 3-month membership: $32.95 / month
  • 6-month membership: $17.95 / month
  • 12-month membership: $14.95 / month

Learn more about EliteSingles membership now >>

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How does eHarmony dating work?

eHarmony has been on online dating scene since 2000, started by a psychologist with strong Christian leanings. The early matchmaking algorithm focused on long-term relationships was revolutionary at the time, and reported high rates of successful matches, marriages as well as successful marriages (those are different things, after all!).

Today, we are all familiar with the algorithm and how computers can understand user (dater) behavior to create a meaningful user experience. eHarmony is still successfully committed to helping relationship-minded singles find partnership.

The experience using eHarmony is similar to EliteSingles in that you start with a lengthy, 150-point questionnaire that promises to learn your personality, goals, morals and values—and make matches accordingly.

Once you've completed the questions, and completed your profile with at least three photos, as well as paid, you will immediately start receiving customized matches emailed to you. You are free to check out the other person's profile, see their pics, and chat.

Just as with EliteSingles, you will receive a personality report, emailed directly to you.

Learn more about the site — including whether it is good for single parents — in our eHarmony review.

How much does eHarmony cost?

eHarmony's prices are more expensive than EliteSingles, in part because it does not offer a free or trial version, and the minimum subscription is 6 months, compared with EliteSingles 3-month minimum.

eHarmony prices:

  • 6-month membership: $29.95 / month [minimum contract]
  • 12-month membership: $22.95 / month
  • 24-month membership: $14.95 / month

Conclusion: EliteSingles or eHarmony—which is better?

Both eHarmony and EliteSingles are quality sites devoted exclusively to serious, committed partnerships based on algorithmic matches.

EliteSingles stands out in its promise of more educated, and slightly older daters, as well as lower prices, a higher BBB rating (A+ vs. eHarmony's A-), free version, and slightly deeper personality matching survey (200 questions, vs 150).

One bit of advice: Each dating site out there attracts different types of people in each geographic area, so ask your friends and singles in your area who you trust which sites they like best in your city. Also, EliteSingles' free version is a good way to check it out without commitment—even if romantic commitment is your ultimate goal.

Check out EliteSingles for yourself >>

Or, learn more about other top dating apps — especially for single parents.

About Emma Johnson

Emma Johnson is a veteran money journalist, noted blogger, bestselling author and an host of the award-winning podcast, Like a Mother with Emma Johnson. A former Associated Press Financial Wire reporter and MSN Money columnist, Emma has written for the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Forbes, Glamour, Oprah.com, U.S. News, Parenting, USA Today and others. Her #1 bestseller, The Kickass Single Mom (Penguin), was named to the New York Post's ‘Must Read” list.Emma regularly comments on issues of modern families, gender equality, divorce, sex and motherhood for outlets like CNN, Headline News, New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Fox & Friends, CNBC, NPR, TIME, MONEY, O, The Oprah Magazine and The Doctors. She was named Parents magazine’s “Best of the Web,” “Top 15 Personal Finance Podcasts” by U.S. News, and a “Most Eligible New Yorker” by New York Observer.A popular speaker, Emma presented at the United Nations Summit for Gender Equality. Read more about Emma here.

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