Gender Equality

What to do if you are a mom paying alimony or child support

How to deal when you’re a mom who pays child support or alimony

Increasingly, it is moms who pay their exes child support and alimony, and their vitriol about the matter is often far more acute than when payer and payee fall along traditional gender lines. Vanessa was stunned to learn that after her ex left her for a much younger neighbor, she had to pay him nearly $70,000 in alimony and…

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What every mom should ask for in divorce negotiations

Divorce and custody negotiations are stressful. How do you know what things to ask for in divorce? It’s easy to want to plow through negotiations as quickly as possible. Slow your roll.  Below is a list of what every woman should consider when settling her divorce. But first, some common divorce questions: What should a…

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Best gifts for single moms for Mother’s Day

While brunch and a card are always nice, consider getting the single mom in your life something a little more persona. Thoughtful. You could even blow her mind. I recently asked members of my Facebook group, Millionaire Single Moms (have you joined yet?) what they would give to a friend whose divorce was just finalized,…

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Mama Gena, on NYT bestseller PUSSY: A Reclamation

Earlier this year I interviewed an incredible woman, someone whose work has changed the way I feel about my body, sexuality, gender and life:  Regena Thomashauser, aka Mama Gena, who, through her in-person and online workshops called Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts, and books by the same name, Thomashauser offers a fascinating history on the power…

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Why alimony hurts gender equality

I blindly grew up and into my 30s assuming the standard-issue feminist party line: Women’s work is uncompensated and undervalued. When women become stay-at-home mothers, that benefits men’s careers, and when the marriage ends, she should be compensated for that lost earning potential. Both partners’ lifestyles should be the same when the marriage ends! Then,…

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How to divorce like a feminist

Whether you were married to your kids’ dad, were in a couple or your encounter was a hookup, this post is for you. Family court is the single most powerful institution in the United States when it comes to gender equality. Think about it: When families with kids separate, most go through family court to…

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Why shared parenting is so great for kids – and for moms!

 Other ways to listen: iTunes  ♦  Stitcher   ♦  TuneIn   ♦  SoundCloud ♦  Google Play After one meeting with my ex and our lawyers to negotiate the custody agreement of our divorce, I went home, busted out the calculator, and cried. I freaked out at the idea of being away from my kids for extended hours or days, and I…

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Why single moms don’t get to celebrate Father’s Day

Plenty of memes going around Facebook giving Father’s Day shout-outs to single moms who “do it all.” Make your way down the card isle and you will come across Hallmark’s cards, they have a half-dozen designed celebrating moms on this day. Cards read: “Happy Father’s Day, Mom!” “Mom: You’re the best! Thanks for being both…

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How stay-at-home moms hurt gender equality

When I push back against the stay-at-home mom fantasy — the myth that children fare better when mothers do not work, and that this lifestyle benefits anyone at all — I am often met with: “What do you care? We should respect all women’s choices in the spirit of sisterhood!” Wrong. When women chose to…

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How Millennials are redefining single motherhood

Like every generation in recent history, Millennials are redefining parenthood — and one of the most dramatic shifts is the rise of single motherhood among new moms. Meta trends around women in 2017 are intertwined with the recent surge in the number of single mothers in recent decades. A full 64 percent of Millennial moms report having…

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Your first wife was a stay-at-home mom? Single moms won’t date you

Recently there was a very interesting discussion in my Millionaire Single Mom closed Facebook group (join us!) that addressed the challenges of dating men whose first wives were full-time stay-at-home wives. A number of women refuse. Reasons include: Men whose only example of a long-term romantic partner is someone who cared for the daily minutiae of running…

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How to get started investing for women

I am on a personal mission to get women to save and invest more. There are some fascinating studies that find that women are actually better at investing than men, but they save and invest far too little, too infrequently, which puts us at a huge disadvantage. The wealth gap is a terrible issue, as…

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Single mom statistics (prepare to have your mind blown)

Who are single moms today? Who do they really represent in today’s society? These single mom statistics, facts and figures might (okay, will!) surprise you! Single mom statistics There are 10 million single mother-lead families in the United States [1]. This is 3x the number in 1960. In addition: 25% of families are headed by…

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