Alimony hurts gender equality and holds women back.

I blindly grew up and into my 30s assuming the standard-issue feminist party line: Women’s work is uncompensated and undervalued. When women become stay-at-home mothers, that benefits men’s careers, and when the marriage ends, she should be compensated for that lost earning potential. Both partners’ lifestyles should be the same when the marriage ends! Then,…

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Ellevest helps women get started with investing. Read my review to see what I think about Ellevest and how you can get started for $0.

Ellevest, a robo-advisor created by and for women has made thousands of headlines. I was intrigued. After all, it is one if my life’s missions to get more women to take control of their money, and save and invest for their dreams now, as well as the future. If I have said it once, I’ll…

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parental alienation fatherlessness

Mention the fatherless epidemic in the United States, and the arguments are polarizing: Why fathers walk away after divorce It is either: Men are irresponsible douchebags who abandon their children to mothers, who are left to raise the children with few resources, or … Women are conniving, malicious, entitled nut-jobs who alienate fathers from their…

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benefits of 50/50 custody

After one meeting with my ex and our lawyers to negotiate the custody agreement of our divorce, I went home, busted out the calculator, and cried. I freaked out at the idea of being away from my kids for extended hours or days, and I need to know how many hours each week I would…

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how to invest

I am on a personal mission to get women to save and invest more. Studies that find that women are better at investing than men, but they save and invest far too little, too infrequently, which puts us at a huge disadvantage. The wealth gap is a terrible issue, as women have far less invested…

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husband wife wants divorce

Is your spouse distant? Depressed? Worried they are having an affair? Couples counseling may be the answer. But maybe your husband is ready to leave you. Online couples and individual counseling with BetterHelp starts at $40/week for unlimited phone, text, email or video sessions. Choose from thousands of certified and licensed therapists, and get a…

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What to do if you are a mom paying alimony or child support

Increasingly, it is moms who pay their exes child support and alimony, and their vitriol about the matter is often far more acute than when payer and payee fall along traditional gender lines. Vanessa was stunned to learn that after her ex left her for a much younger neighbor, she had to pay him nearly $70,000 in alimony and…

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Divorce and custody negotiations are stressful. How do you know what things to ask for in divorce? It’s easy to want to plow through negotiations as quickly as possible. Slow your roll.  Below is a list of what every woman should consider when settling her divorce. But first, some common divorce questions: What should a…

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single mom enjoying life

A while ago a member of Millionaire Single Mom on Facebook said: “I’m a new mom, expecting in a few months. What POSITIVES can you tell me about single motherhood?” I responded with a few points, and invited other members to share. Here is what we said: From me, Emma Johnson, on why being a…

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single mom raising sons

Ever since he was a tiny boy, my son has been a little dude. By this, I mean he takes on typically masculine roles. Even when he was 3 years old, he would make sure his older sister and I stood behind the orange safety line while waiting for the subway train — maneuvering his…

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gift-single-moms

While brunch and a card are always nice, consider getting the single mom in your life something a little more persona. Thoughtful. You could even blow her mind. I recently asked members of my Facebook group, Millionaire Single Moms (have you joined yet?) what they would give to a friend whose divorce was just finalized,…

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hen families divorce and separate, sexist, dated roles are enforced.

Whether you were married to your kids’ dad, were in a couple or your encounter was a hookup, this post is for you. Family court is the single most powerful institution in the United States when it comes to gender equality. Think about it: When families with kids separate, most go through family court to…

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single mom celebrate fathers day

Plenty of memes going around Facebook giving Father’s Day shout-outs to single moms who “do it all.” Make your way down the card isle and you will come across Hallmark’s cards, they have a half-dozen designed celebrating moms on this day. Cards read: “Happy Father’s Day, Mom!” “Mom: You’re the best! Thanks for being both…

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real-dating-profile-pics

My friend Marc — a single dad my age — and I like to share dating war stories. Recently, he giddily kept me posted on the pre-first-date chemistry he shared with a woman he met online. “Extremely promising,” he texted me. “We talk every night on the phone and it is frightening how much we…

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shared parenting pay gap

In my work writing about women, money and family in the United States, there are two prevailing issues: Dads who do not live with their kids are barely involved. (Just 22% of dads who live apart from their children see them more than once weekly, per Pew.) That pay gap will. not. close. Here’s the…

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how to get over a divorce

Go ahead and get ugly. You’re entitled for one year.  Over the summer I visited a longtime friend. As we sat at the beach, our kids playing nearby, I noticed her hair was uncharacteristically oily and snarly. Her unkempt bush was bursting out the crotch of her green tank suit, and her toddler son sat nearby,…

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stay at home wives back to work

When I push back against the stay-at-home mom fantasy — the myth that children fare better when mothers do not work, and that this lifestyle benefits anyone at all — I am often met with: “What do you care? We should respect all women’s choices in the spirit of sisterhood!” Wrong. When women chose to…

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Recently a newly single mom messaged me: “Can you please write about a name change after divorce? I don’t want to share my name with my ex-husband anymore, but my two young sons were devastated at the thought that I would have a different name than them. They said, ‘Mommy, we’re a tribe.’ I see…

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single mom statistics

Who are single moms today? In summary, there are more single-parented headed households today than any other time in recent history. The majority of those families are headed by a single mom. In fact, 57% of millennial moms are unmarried moms, according to Johns Hopkins researchers. The reasons for these quickly changing statistics include high…

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