A 25-yer-old woman on cougars and why she can’t find a husband



Younger women on cougars

If younger men are hot for old moms, and old moms complain men their age want younger women — what do younger women have to say about cougars and their eager prey (but then – who is the hunter and who is the hunted?)?

See my recent post:  What is UP with young guys looking for older single moms?! This cougar investigates.

I wrote:


This cougar-seeking phenomenon is another thing all together. What is significant about this trend is that a) younger men historically have not been interested in older women — especially moms. After all, youth in every culture is prized in mating, as biology favors young junk. b) The uptick in this young-dude interest is so swift – and the age gaps significant.

I’m not the only one to notice. A few weeks ago my friend Perri emailed me:

I have a question for you.  I just joined a dating site, and love it.  But why am I being contacted by so many men who are 21 to 28 years old? I’m 42!  It’s crazy. I don’t look my age but it’s there in my profile, so no guessing is involved. Is this a dare to screw an old chick? That said, I’m meeting a guy tonight to play pool. He’s great, makes me laugh, we have similar careers and education and the conversation is very easy and uncomplicated. But still – I’m perplexed! 

I admit, I’m perplexed too. So I went out and did some research. And by researched, I started quizzing the Benjamin Braddocks who hit me up online.


In this episode I chat with my friend and podcast editor Rachel Jacobs, an awesome 25-year-old woman who’d love to meet a guy and have a family one day — but finds the pickings are slim, in part, because everyone is dating outside their age zone.

Really funny and interesting perspective. Have a listen!



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One thought on “A 25-yer-old woman on cougars and why she can’t find a husband

  1. This podcast was interesting. I’m glad that more people are accepting age hypogamous relationships, but I feel like everyone reads way too much into it. Age matters, but being older isn’t objectively good or bad. I’m sure there are plenty of men who date intelligent, interesting, beautiful women regardless of age.

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