9 signs you’re a man-hater

 

 

When hearing from women about dating and relationship challenges, I’m often stunned at all the man-hating out there. Lots of women HATE dudes. When confronted, most insist they do not. But you do. You totally do!

Why does it matter? Because you’re full of hate. It’s not like hate for trans fat, or public smoking or even Republicans, because you have a choice about how you vote. This is hating half of the human race. It is hating half of your own DNA. It is hating all of your male relatives and friends and any man you may consider. This means you even hate Tom Hanks and nobody hates Tom Hanks. Except there is something he shares with half the population– and that is his manhood.

Which is so, so toxic. No likes hanging out with a hater! Not even women. And you’re holding yourself back – back from connecting with others. Back

Here are 9 signs you’re a man-hater:

1. You speak about men in gross generalizations — and it’s always super-negative. Stuff like, “Men are always playing manipulative games,” or “Men love to be mommied,” or “Men hate giving oral sex and only do it so women will agree to anal.” You know, stuff like that.

2. You hate all your exes. If you find no redeeming qualities in any of the men you were once devoted to, well …

3. All your breakups were his fault. Not because it was a poor match, or the timing was off, or you acted poorly. No. All. His. Fault.

4. You lecture your son on how to be a better man. This assumes that men are inherently rotten, so he must be the exception. What you’re telling him is that by nature of his gender, your son is inherently rotten.

5. You lecture your daughter on what to avoid in a man — ad nauseam. 

6. When you spend time with a man you spend the while time nitpicking, correcting and insist on doing everything yourself. Lady, let the guy do his thing already. You are not the only competent person in the room.

7. You have a feminist chip on your shoulder. I’m a feminist, and you should be, too. It is hard to hold tight to our beliefs — which are rooted in a movement designed to upturn a male-dominated paradigm — and still adore the company of men. Because, one could very justifiably argue, men are the enemy. Except most of them are not. Not the one sitting across the table, patiently listening to you quote Germaine Greer with interest, after which he will insist on paying the bill. Still not sure if this applies to you? Do you ever casually — as in not in an ironic way — use the word “patriarchy”? There you go.

8. Your favorite way to flirt with a man is to argue with him. 

9. You can’t let him lead. You flinch when he places his hand on the small of your back and guides you to the table. You bristle when he plans a date without asking you first. You panic when he takes you by the hips and flips you over.

 

46 thoughts on “9 signs you’re a man-hater

  1. “Do you ever casually — as in not in an ironic way — use the word “patriarchy”?”

    HA! I love that! I have a friend for whom #7 is a great description. It’s difficult to explain to her that not everything exists within a feminist framework; maybe it’s because she never grew up with awesome younger brothers like I did, or she might just spend entirely too much time on the echo chamber that is Tumblr. But it can be a little irritating to explain that MOST guys aren’t salivating dogs, just waiting to pounce on the next available woman.

    1. I was on this stupid video show about teaching kids about sexuality — and both of the female “sex expert” guests were all about drilling into our daughters how to protect themselves from preying boys. I was like, “Girls today are kicking boys’ asses in every single vertical – academics, sports, science. They own their sexualities like never before. Why are we teaching them that boys are all rapists-in-waiting? And what does that tell our sons?” They were adamant. Ugh.

      1. I guess you haven’t met an abuser, a rapist, and/or a pedophile before, whether it involved your daughters and/or yourself, not to mention not just not being able to get a boyfriend by the age of 30, but also never been asked out by a decent guy at that age either! Until then, you only know how to portray the current men as gentlemen, like the ones who were in post WWI & WWII, rather than viewing them as ill-mannered men!

        1. Not all men are abusers, rapists, etc. In fact, I guess you haven’t met the feminist who thinks it is ok to rape a man because he is a man just as people say a white person can’t be racist. Now, when I was 9 one of my brother’s friends tried to molest me twice. He was a jerk. He was a creep. He is a professor at Western New Mexico University right now about a thousand miles from where it happened, and while I cannot do anything about what he did to me because it was 40 years ago, I have alerted the authorities just in case there are cases in his area. Do I hate all men because of this jerk? NO! Some women are just as bad. Stop thinking that all men are pigs. They’re not.

          Would I call myself a “feminist”? Not by today’s standards. Women deserve equal pay for equal jobs they can do just as well or better as men. They do not deserve it because they are women or men, they deserve it because they are good workers. I am a human being who happens to be a woman who respects others. Today’s feminists are a bunch of rabid crazy people who just scream in the faces of men and knit yarn from their vaginas while menstruating. Ewww. I really do not want to be associated with them at all.

  2. I myself is what they called a “man-hater”. I know exactly the way it is to be a man-hater. And I have a lot of reasons why I hate dudes. I feel awkward when they’re around. When my friends talk about their boyfriends I just keep my mouth shut for my own sake. They’re really bothering me. Well for me it’s kinda awesome being a “man-hater” and that’s my opinion. :-)

    1. And yet you would be all up in arms if some guy told the world shamelessly what a woman hater he is.

    2. Replace man with literally any nationality and you will realize how horrible you really are.

      I myself is what they called a “Jew-hater”. I know exactly the way it is to be a Jew-hater. And I have a lot of reasons why I hate Jews. I feel awkward when they’re around. When my friends talk about their Jewish friends I just keep my mouth shut for my own sake. They’re really bothering me. Well for me it’s kinda awesome being a “Jew-hater” and that’s my opinion.

    1. It pretty specifically says, “signs you’re a man hater.”

      Signs your thyroid isn’t functioning- exhaustion.
      This article is trash! Lots of people are exhausted with perfectly functioning thyroid glands!

      Please take a class in either English or logic, as needed.

    2. Misandrist. I guarantee that most all are aware of the ‘ever present’ misogynist, but when it comes to the problems that men face, especially with regards to people who just hate men few even know that there is a word for it or what that word is. It’s misandry.

  3. Lets put it this way I,m married but would never have another man in my life they are no great prizes I just want to do what I want to do when I want to do it I, m 61 and over it.

    1. I agree wholeheartedly, but as the other sex. I’m happily married 44 years; but, should it end, I would never have another woman in my life – and not just because no one could take her place. I will want to do ad I please when I please. Also maintaining a relationship is exhausting.

  4. This article is based on opinions not facts. People that hate are insecure, shallow and spineless, with psychological issues that need to be confronted.

    1. If you still think that people are nice to each other nowadays, like the ones who grew up after WWI & WWII versus the ones who survived the WWI & WWII, then think again because their grown kids and the other young ones have become conceited morons! I’d recommend that you go get your brain examined for a reality check to be exact!

    1. That’s about as logical as ‘I hate all food because I once had a bad seafood salad.’
      Not ALL men are your former partners or your father. They don’t do the things that those men did to you, nor would most all of us even want to.
      You’re working from a flawed syllogism. – Look it up in the dictionary.
      This is your logic.
      1 My father did terrible things to me and so did my former partners.
      2 My father and my former partners are male.
      Therefore ALL males are bad/terrible/horrible etc.
      If you don’t see the flaw here then for your own benefit seek help. You’ll live a happier life for it.

  5. Married for 37 years. Would not marry again. Women today share a victim ethos. Everything is men’s fault. Very hard to find a real partner that is not resentful. Better life single.

    1. ” Lots of women HATE dudes. When confronted, most insist they do not. But you do. You totally do! ” Thank you !! This is why I will never even attempt to date a woman again , I have noticed that most women are all love & light to other women , but hateful & contemptuous towards men , noticed on a lot of occasions , women in customer service are all smiles & sweetness to other women , but stony faced , scowling & curt towards men. In fairness , women are also brainwashed by the ” media ” to view men as ” The Enemy ” , men are always portrayed as inferior , sex crazed morons. Many , & a rapidly growing number of men have given up on women completely , why try to love someone that views you with hatred / contempt ?? No woman would !!

      1. Kevin, I couldn’t agree more. I’m glad that at 52 I had about two and a half decades where women were ok. Now, in the 21st C we’re disposable. We live shorter lives, account for the vast number of suicides not to mention that men have always been expected to ‘protect their women’, go to war, etc, etc, etc.
        I’m over it too.

  6. No 10:

    You read and quote from the toxic hate screeds written by poisonous bigots like Germaine Greer, Gloria Steinem, Naomi Wolf, Jessica Valenti – or pretty much any other feminist writer.

    1. Gloria Steinem is terrible. According to a quote I read, she thinks it is impossible for women to consent to sex with men, and that therefore all heterosexual sex is rape. Probably she wants all the women to herself, she being a lesbian. She needs to just go on a dating site and search for lesbians. Big world out there. Gay marriage is legal now.

  7. I think the biggest advent of the Internet, as well as the greatest reward you can have as a scientist of the human sciences (psychology included), is to discover that there are no unbendable truths – or even unbreakable at times. Everything is relative to an individual, and everything is relative to the group, with few things being Global.

    One of them, being that there is really no right or wrong (unfortunately), and that our brains fall in love and admire, at first, what is powerful. You have these whole set of feminists for instance, but many of them are ‘white’ racists, who really have no problem (on the work market or on society), discriminating on the blacks for instance, or earning (much) more than other women of their “same race”.

    In the end, we got to discover on a Global Scale, that anything can be proven as a truth, with a bit of rationalization, genuine emotion, social power, and lexical resourcefulness. Personally, i ache and eager for a next step in our evolution.

  8. Men are not the problem. It’s bad testosterone that creates issues. Like war and rape for example. Just say no to bad testosterone!

    1. WTF? “Bad testosterone?” What does that even mean? Do you know that YOU have it too? Maybe you have “bad testosterone! LOL! You know that women rape men, too right? They are usually feminist jerks who think they are superior to men and not equal. It isn’t the hormone, it’s the human mind. As women gain more power, they become power hungry too just like the men. It happens on both sides. Men just talk about it less.

  9. 10. You catch your guy acquaintance admiring your rear end, and you freak out like you just got sexually assaulted.
    11. Your guy friend asks you out, and not only do you say no, but you tell all your friends that he is a creep; you thought he was one of the good guys who did not want sex with women.

    I’ve noticed it too. A lot of women are treating most men as potential sex predators, or like predators who have not yet been locked up. I wonder what media they are getting this from, who is poisoning the well. A rape epidemic could explain part of it, but even if someone were raped once, would she really hate 90% of men as a result without being fed hate from somewhere else?

  10. 12. You hypocritically use the word “objectify”, saying that when you enjoy the view of a guy, you know he is a person too, but when you catch an ugly guy admiring your appearance, he just sees you as a piece of meat and thus is objectifying you.

  11. Maybe it’s that all men admit they want to be physical and have sex with women…I talk to women and they want physical and emotional and verbal…and still sometimes not sex. there are plenty articles that support men as being visual we even tell women its normal so maybe women are to feel men are way more sexually driven and to a certain point sex driven and maybe that is a trait to be disliked on women’s behalf?

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