We all say dumb stuff on dates. Especially first dates when everyone is self-conscious and sussing out someone new.
But there are some things that you just do not say to a single mom on a first date, assuming you’re angling for a second. Here are 12:
1. “That’s great your mom lives in town so you can leave your kids with her on weekends.”
2. “I am really loving this time of my life since my kids went away to college.”
3. “Wow, you look good considering you had two kids.”
4. “Kids need a man in the house.”
5. “You had a C-section? That’s awesome.”
6. “You don’t even have stretch marks!”
7. “Your ex husband lives in the neighborhood? Is his place near here [looking over both shoulders]? Do you ever run into him? Does he hate that you date? Has he ever beat up your boyfriends? Have your kids met any men you’ve dated? How did they react? Did they resent him?”
8. “Did you get your tubes tied?”
9. “How much child support do you get?”
10. “When guys marry single moms and their daughters grow into teenagers, I don’t know how they can control themselves.”
11. “My ex has a lot of issues so I really want to get married so my daughter has a new mom.”
12. “Not a lot of guys are interested in women with kids, you know.”
Interested in getting to know someone on a second date? Commit this list to memory and never ever utter a single one of them.
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Emma Johnson is a veteran money journalist, noted blogger, bestselling author and an host of the award-winning podcast, Like a Mother with Emma Johnson. A former Associated Press Financial Wire reporter and MSN Money columnist, Emma has written for the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Forbes, Glamour, Oprah.com, U.S. News, Parenting, USA Today and others. Her #1 bestseller, The Kickass Single Mom (Penguin), was named to the New York Post's ‘Must Read” list.
Emma regularly comments on issues of modern families, gender equality, divorce, sex and motherhood for outlets like CNN, Headline News, New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Fox & Friends, CNBC, NPR, TIME, MONEY, O, The Oprah Magazine and The Doctors. She was named Parents magazine’s “Best of the Web,” “Top 15 Personal Finance Podcasts” by U.S. News, and a “Most Eligible New Yorker” by New York Observer.
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